Couch 244: Great Expectations

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 12, 2023 at 07:48 PM

hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.

comrademoomoo · Jun 13, 2023 at 03:01 PM

I hate my new job. It's really social. I am not used to it. My previous work has been 1:1 intensive support with students with mental health conditions. It was challenging and full on and itself could be relationally exhausting, but I had very little contact with my team members which suited me well. This is a much better university, but the role is really team orientated and it's an open plan office. I am not a social person. I was good at my previous role, this feels really uncomfortable (and not just in a getting settled kind of way).

LonesomeTonight · Jun 13, 2023 at 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo

I hate my new job. It's really social. I am not used to it. My previous work has been 1:1 intensive support with students with mental health conditions. It was challenging and full on and itself could be relationally exhausting, but I had very little contact with my team members which suited me well. This is a much better university, but the role is really team orientated and it's an open plan office. I am not a social person. I was good at my previous role, this feels really uncomfortable (and not just in a getting settled kind of way).

Ugh, I'm sorry your new job seems like a bad fit. I've worked in my share of open-plan offices (including newsrooms) and cube farms and definitely prefer having my own office with a door. Is there a way to avoid spending too much time in the actual office?

I hope it gets better in some way.

comrademoomoo · Jun 13, 2023 at 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Ugh, I'm sorry your new job seems like a bad fit. I've worked in my share of open-plan offices (including newsrooms) and cube farms and definitely prefer having my own office with a door. Is there a way to avoid spending too much time in the actual office?

I hope it gets better in some way.

Thanks LT. At some point, I will be able to migrate to hybrid working so will have some home working. I also feel ok about saying I need a break and going for a walk around campus (which is nice). I am also hoping that people will soon get the message that I am not very friendly. Someone took me by surprise today and invited me to lunch, but in future I will feel ok about saying no to those things so that will give me time away from people.

Like Virginia, we need a room of our own! It's hard to imagine anyone likes open plan working. I guess it's necessary because of capacity etc but it feels miserable to be herded into an environment where few people thrive. (And I am aware plenty of people work in plenty worse conditions so first world middle class problems).

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 13, 2023 at 05:36 PM

(trigger for female medical stuff)

Possible trigger:

so I've been having some symptoms in the past few days that are concerning so I called my dr yesterday morning and explained them & she sent me for a female-parts ultrasound, the imaging place had a last-minute cancellation yesterday so I was able to go get it done already. Dr just called me now and said my endometria is enlarged and she suspects endometriosis, so is sending me for a biopsy next. they're supposed to call me by tomorrow afternoon to schedule and if they don't she said I should call them. has anyone ever had this done and if so, and you wouldn't mind sharing please pm me? i'm a little freaked out here. not something I was expecting to come along at 60. thanks in advance.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 13, 2023 at 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

(trigger for female medical stuff)

Possible trigger:

so I've been having some symptoms in the past few days that are concerning so I called my dr yesterday morning and explained them & she sent me for a female-parts ultrasound, the imaging place had a last-minute cancellation yesterday so I was able to go get it done already. Dr just called me now and said my endometria is enlarged and she suspects endometriosis, so is sending me for a biopsy next. they're supposed to call me by tomorrow afternoon to schedule and if they don't she said I should call them. has anyone ever had this done and if so, and you wouldn't mind sharing please pm me? i'm a little freaked out here. not something I was expecting to come along at 60. thanks in advance.

Hugs, Artie. I'm sending you a PM.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jun 13, 2023 at 10:38 PM

Hugs, Art. I'll pm you too.

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 14, 2023 at 08:23 AM

H got a job already! And it's a W2! He starts today. Only problem: it's $2k a month less than his last job. We'll have to be really careful about spending money on anything extra, but it's enough to pay our bills.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 14, 2023 at 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

H got a job already! And it's a W2! He starts today. Only problem: it's $2k a month less than his last job. We'll have to be really careful about spending money on anything extra, but it's enough to pay our bills.

Glad he got a job! That's a significant pay cut though, but better than being unemployed for months.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 14, 2023 at 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

H got a job already! And it's a W2! He starts today. Only problem: it's $2k a month less than his last job. We'll have to be really careful about spending money on anything extra, but it's enough to pay our bills.

I'm glad he got a new job so quickly, Scarlet.

NP_Complete · Jun 14, 2023 at 10:37 AM

Part of the plan that we put together for P's vacation was that I arranged a lunch with a group of 3 coworkers. We get together for lunch a handful of times a year probably. It was scheduled for today. Yesterday everybody decided to cancel. I'm so disappointed. I feel so lonely.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jun 14, 2023 at 10:50 AM

I am so sorry NP.

comrademoomoo · Jun 14, 2023 at 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Part of the plan that we put together for P's vacation was that I arranged a lunch with a group of 3 coworkers. We get together for lunch a handful of times a year probably. It was scheduled for today. Yesterday everybody decided to cancel. I'm so disappointed. I feel so lonely.

Seems like we are having flipped experiences in the struggle with contact. I hope you find connection.

RTerroni · 02:37 PM

A little mad that I missed out on a $22.50 dash because my notifications weren't on but I am slowly getting over it.

Just got a dash with a $20 cash tip so I'm feeling a lot better.

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 14, 2023 at 02:39 PM

Ugh! A rock hit my windshield and the crack is too big to repair. The cheapest deal I can find is $900 to replace it.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 14, 2023 at 03:10 PM

well i got a call from the place i was referred to for the next medical test. i am going in this coming Tuesday for a consult first, and then they will schedule the procedure from there. i'm so glad i'll be able to ask them questions before and I'm going to be sure I have them written down before I go.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 14, 2023 at 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Part of the plan that we put together for P's vacation was that I arranged a lunch with a group of 3 coworkers. We get together for lunch a handful of times a year probably. It was scheduled for today. Yesterday everybody decided to cancel. I'm so disappointed. I feel so lonely.

I'm so sorry, NP. Hugs, if wanted.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 14, 2023 at 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Ugh! A rock hit my windshield and the crack is too big to repair. The cheapest deal I can find is $900 to replace it.

Ugh, I"m so sorry, Scarlet. I imagine it's probably not worth involving insurance either. Hugs, if wanted.

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 14, 2023 at 05:13 PM

I got the run-around with my insurance and even got yelled at by one of the claims people.

Thankfully, third time was a charm, and the lady helped me make a claim. I understand that dealing with the public can be frustrating, but there's no need to yell from either side.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 14, 2023 at 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I got the run-around with my insurance and even got yelled at by one of the claims people.

Thankfully, third time was a charm, and the lady helped me make a claim. I understand that dealing with the public can be frustrating, but there's no need to yell from either side.

Ugh, I'm sorry. Why would they yell at you? I imagine it happens all the time I'm glad they helped you in the end!

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,239 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,775 hugs given	Jun 12, 2023 at 07:48 PM #401 hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,309 6 15.5k hugs given	Jun 13, 2023 at 10:38 PM #407 Hugs, Art. I'll pm you too. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,412 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,430 hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 08:23 AM #408 H got a job already! And it's a W2! He starts today. Only problem: it's $2k a month less than his last job. We'll have to be really careful about spending money on anything extra, but it's enough to pay our bills. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,355 hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 10:37 AM #411 Part of the plan that we put together for P's vacation was that I arranged a lunch with a group of 3 coworkers. We get together for lunch a handful of times a year probably. It was scheduled for today. Yesterday everybody decided to cancel. I'm so disappointed. I feel so lonely.

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,309 6 15.5k hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 10:50 AM #412 I am so sorry NP. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

RTerroni Elder Member Since Sep 2013 Location: USA Posts: 5,751 10 2,136 hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 01:35 PM #414 A little mad that I missed out on a $22.50 dash because my notifications weren't on but I am slowly getting over it. Just got a dash with a $20 cash tip so I'm feeling a lot better. __________________ COVID-19 Survivor- 4/26/2022 Last edited by RTerroni; Jun 14, 2023 at 02:37 PM..

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,412 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,430 hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 02:39 PM #415 Ugh! A rock hit my windshield and the crack is too big to repair. The cheapest deal I can find is $900 to replace it. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,239 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,775 hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 03:10 PM #416 well i got a call from the place i was referred to for the next medical test. i am going in this coming Tuesday for a consult first, and then they will schedule the procedure from there. i'm so glad i'll be able to ask them questions before and I'm going to be sure I have them written down before I go.

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,412 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,430 hugs given	Jun 14, 2023 at 05:13 PM #419 I got the run-around with my insurance and even got yelled at by one of the claims people. Thankfully, third time was a charm, and the lady helped me make a claim. I understand that dealing with the public can be frustrating, but there's no need to yell from either side. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica