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Writing my way through...
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#781
I am now scheduled to see the hematologist I was referred to for the clotting evaluation. There's a more technical way to say that but I've forgotten already. I'm seeing him on 8/11. It will be interesting to find out if my PVT was just a fluke or inherited. I'm pretty sure it's gonna come back inherited since my dad had a DVT at one point, but we'll see.
Tomorrow will already be 3 weeks since I got out of the hospital! And a week since I said goodbye to L (again). I told her it was maybe for good this time, so we shall see... I hadn't intended to stay this long when I went back in January, so who knows. |
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#782
I just talked to L on the phone. We have a plan in place. First, I'm going to bed early tonight. In session, we're going to first talk about something I asked from her. Then we're going to go into processing the infertility. She wanted me to bring something grounding, that reminds me of the baby nursery we had when I had a house. I have a toile teddy bear that was in the nursery, so I'm going to bring that. Then we will wind down and do breathing and grounding exercises, do some questions and answers, and lastly I'll give her another gift I got for her baby. When I leave, I'll go to my mom's house to get some rest. Then, afterwards, I go straight to Starbucks and pick up food and a coffee.
I'm scared, but L gave me a bunch of reassurances. She explained it to me that we've just discovered an uncharted island, and we have no map yet. So it's going to be overwhelming at the start. But once we discover the different parts, we can focus on just one part and it will become easier. And she said that she can hold this pain with me, that it's not too much for her. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Writing my way through...
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#783
That sounds like a good plan, Scarlet.
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Writing my way through...
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#784
H & I are on a quick little 2-night getaway... they offered VTO this morning so I worked most of the day and took 2 hours off. We drove out to Roosevelt Lake this afternoon, so beautiful. Then we found a Mexican restaurant that's been around since 1938... the food was soooo good!
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#785
That's beautiful, Artie! Glad you're enjoying yourself.
Off topic, why do you wrestle with ending with L? She's been such an important person in your life. Maybe you will or won't need sessions with her, but it doesn't have to be goodbye. Like I contact T monthly for the past 4 years. And I can always go back to her part-time. She's also one of my backup therapists. But I don't need her or want her as my therapist right now. I just feel like you wrestle a lot with all or nothing seeing your L when I'm not sure it has to be that black and white. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Writing my way through...
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I suppose there's always the whole "just how long is therapy supposed to last, anyway, there's SUPPOSED to be a beginning, middle, and an end, isn't there?" Always with the supposed to's, I am. ![]() Thanks, Scarlet, for giving me some good food for thought. I appreciate it. Last edited by ArtieTheSequal; Jul 14, 2023 at 12:18 AM.. |
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#787
What if you don't think of it as ending it with her forever, but maybe as periodic check-ins, like every 6 months or whatever feels comfortable for you. There's no denying you have a meaningful relationship with this person. There's nothing wrong with needing some additional support even if it's not an ongoing thing and just occasionally.
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Writing my way through...
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#788
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#789
__________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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I agree with this. And it might be easier to think of it as "stopping for now." You can figure out later whether it's permanent. I do understand how it can help to think, "OK, I'm closing this chapter of my life." So that you can move forward. But maybe try to look at it as, "I'm ending this segment (or phase or whatever) of therapy with L." |
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#791
Whelp, so much for going to bed early to get more sleep. I only slept for 6 hrs. Noy enough sleep to keep me going through today. Might take a nap at my mom's.
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#792
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bottom line I suppose is that I am probably too darn stubborn for my own good. ![]() |
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#793
We're up early considering how extremely comfortable this bed is here, to go hiking before it gets too hot. Pics to come later!
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#794
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Hugs, Scarlet. I hope the session is helpful today. It sounds like you have a good plan for it, including afterward. Maybe a nap at your mom's would be good |
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#795
So just read the hospital life flight (pretty much just outside my window) now has a lear jet in addition to their helicopters. For like organ transplants. We've come a long way from The Rifleman's buckboard transportation to doc's.
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#796
here's some pics from hiking this morning. I thought it was cute how the lizard stopped under that little stick as he was meandering around. I zoomed in a lot I wasn't all that close to him
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Writing my way through...
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#797
I had the best tomato basil soup I've ever tasted for lunch today. I now must find a fabulous recipe for said soup...
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#798
I just got the free style libre 3 to monitor my glucose. This thing is so cool! It reads it every minute. I can see exactly what is affecting my glucose throughout the day. For some reason, it's seems like crying lowers the glucose? Maybe because it takes a lot of energy? Or it's just a coincidence? Anyway, it's nice to be able to monitor it myself and not have to prick my finger!
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#799
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#800
Ex-hankster, which of these terms gets you most excited?
A) naked ears B) naked spleen C) naked cuticles D) naked humerus __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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