Couch 245: STELLA!

LonesomeTonight · Sep 18, 2023 at 02:36 PM

I think Dr. T has reached new levels of self-contradiction that I didn't think possible today. He's so incredibly confusing at times...

May share more later. Things are OK in the relationship--he's just...confusing.

NP_Complete · Sep 18, 2023 at 04:16 PM

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I do this, too! Same with most websites, both on my laptop and phone. Sometimes, my H will want to log in to a site we both use, and he asks for the password. I'm like, "Uh...try this one? Or that one? Um..." I've taken to emailing myself with a hint to different passwords when I change them (I do variations on a theme, so I just make some comment about it).

Two words. Password manager.

The best password managers for 2023

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 18, 2023 at 04:24 PM

Thanks for sharing that article, NP.

It's reassuring to see that the PW manager I use is well thought of.

My original choice was hacked a while ago...that didn't fill me with confidence.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 18, 2023 at 04:47 PM

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Two words. Password manager.

The best password managers for 2023

Thanks! For some reason, I've always been suspicious of these. But I'll give one a try.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 19, 2023 at 01:44 PM

Morning couch, hugs and head nods all around as needed/wanted/appropriate.

We are back home, good to sleep in my own bed last night. It was so wonderful spending time with my son and his gf!! We saw so much beauty, so different from our desert here. Watching him with his gf - there's so much mutual love and respect there and I am just so proud of the man that he has become. They both seem really happy living there. I miss him a lot sometimes, but, it did my heart so good to see how happy he is (they are) up there.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 19, 2023 at 03:15 PM

Glad you had a good time and that your son is doing so well, Artie!

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 19, 2023 at 03:27 PM

Hi Couch,

Hope today's being kind to you.

If you're working in a small team...am I right in thinking it's good practice to let your colleagues know you're going on holiday?

My colleague and I have a writing workshop to plan for the end of the month...and I was informed today that she's on holiday until next Tuesday.

I've now been cornered into having a planning meeting the Thursday before the workshop, when I will have had therapy in the morning...and not be much good to anyone afterwards.

This seems to happen quite often, and I'm getting fed up, but there's not much I can do about it.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 19, 2023 at 03:50 PM

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Hi Couch,

Hope today's being kind to you.

If you're working in a small team...am I right in thinking it's good practice to let your colleagues know you're going on holiday?

My colleague and I have a writing workshop to plan for the end of the month...and I was informed today that she's on holiday until next Tuesday.

I've now been cornered into having a planning meeting the Thursday before the workshop, when I will have had therapy in the morning...and not be much good to anyone afterwards.

This seems to happen quite often, and I'm getting fed up, but there's not much I can do about it.

I would definitely say it's good practice to let people know about upcoming vacations. With my husband's work, they have the ability to see each other's (work) Google Calendars--I wonder if something like that could be an option, to be able to see people's upcoming vacations (or days off for other reasons) for planning?

I'd be bothered by this, too! In terms of the day of the meeting, I wonder if there's something you could do to help you transition from therapy to work? Can you take some time to yourself to do whatever feels healing or calming to you?

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 19, 2023 at 04:36 PM

Thanks, LT.

I've just asked my colleague whether there's any way we can reschedule to the Wednesday.

If she's not able, then I will have to think about how to move from therapy to work.

The position I'm in at the moment is weird, because I don't want people to know I'm struggling necessarily...but I'd like them to understand.

Maybe that's another conversation I need to have with R...but not this week.

Possible trigger:

Thursday would be Steve's survivorship anniversary. That's probably part of the reason why I'm not in the best frame of mind.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 19, 2023 at 04:36 PM

another pic from my trip, yesterday we went down to the Clackamas River.

unaluna · Sep 19, 2023 at 04:42 PM

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another pic from my trip, yesterday we went down to the Clackamas River.

The Clackamas - then you were by Beverly Cleary's hometown? I think she grew up there somewhere.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 19, 2023 at 04:43 PM

Wow, Artie.

I'd love to paint that.

Would you mind?

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 19, 2023 at 06:29 PM

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The Clackamas - then you were by Beverly Cleary's hometown? I think she grew up there somewhere.

I looked it up, apparently she's from McMinnville; that's about 30 miles or something from where my son lives.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 19, 2023 at 06:32 PM

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Wow, Artie.

I'd love to paint that.

Would you mind?

Not at all! I'd so love to see the results!

Lemoncake · Sep 19, 2023 at 08:16 PM

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Thanks, LT.

I've just asked my colleague whether there's any way we can reschedule to the Wednesday.

If she's not able, then I will have to think about how to move from therapy to work.

The position I'm in at the moment is weird, because I don't want people to know I'm struggling necessarily...but I'd like them to understand.

Maybe that's another conversation I need to have with R...but not this week.

Possible trigger:

Thursday would be Steve's survivorship anniversary. That's probably part of the reason why I'm not in the best frame of mind.

This is an issue you should bring up with your manager. It's not unreasonable to want to know when others will be away. You should be notified if you're supposed to be working together.

NP_Complete · Sep 19, 2023 at 11:59 PM

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another pic from my trip, yesterday we went down to the Clackamas River.

Next time, go see Mt. St. Helens. The movies at the visitor center were pretty good and at the end they open this giant curtain to a beautiful view of the mountain (unless it's cloudy when you can't see a thing). The chunk that's missing is pretty impressive.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 20, 2023 at 10:14 AM

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Next time, go see Mt. St. Helens. The movies at the visitor center were pretty good and at the end they open this giant curtain to a beautiful view of the mountain (unless it's cloudy when you can't see a thing). The chunk that's missing is pretty impressive.

I hope to do that for sure. It's a little over 2 hours from my son's place I think, so definitely a possibility!

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 20, 2023 at 12:13 PM

Time to head to my pre-op appointment with the gyno... so far I just have 2 more questions so will get those answered today. H left on a job earlier he'll be gone a minimum of 6 hours so I'll still have some quiet time after I get home from my appt. He gets annoyed with me for being nervous about all of this so I'm glad he's not going with me today.

NP_Complete · Sep 20, 2023 at 12:46 PM

Your H sounds like a real peach sometimes. Being anxious about this is perfectly normal. I hope you get all your questions answered.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 20, 2023 at 02:57 PM

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Your H sounds like a real peach sometimes. Being anxious about this is perfectly normal. I hope you get all your questions answered.

I second all of this.

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