Couch 246: Choose Change

unaluna · Nov 22, 2023 at 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

What on EARTH was I thinking when I said I'd host Thanksgiving at my new house???

Breathe-breathe-breathe.

Heh. I know- I will surprise everyone! "Thanks for coming to my unpacking party!"

All of you Couchies are bringing a box truck with you to haul the smoker, right?

It's the only mode of transportation that allows us to bring our "nail clippers"

unaluna · Nov 22, 2023 at 05:02 PM

Peas and mushrooms are a handy combo recipe so you can instruct the kids that they "must eat every mushroom and pea on the plate." Freud never takes a vacation in my house.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 22, 2023 at 05:37 PM

h has been out on 3 different jobs today, they are certainly keeping him busy lately. this is a very good thing. he just called & asked if I could have a salad waiting for him when he gets home because he hasn't had a chance to stop and eat today with the time restraints on the deliveries. And he knows I love making salads. I don't know why but salads are fun to make.

unaluna · Nov 22, 2023 at 05:54 PM

Good for him! Salads are a good habit. I crave them now. Altho mine are often very simple. Just one type of lettuce! I think its my ocd expressing itself.

NP_Complete · Nov 22, 2023 at 06:08 PM

I'm so disenchanted with therapy right now. He's off for another week again. It feels like he just got back. It feels like with our recent rupture he unilaterally changed the operating parameters of our relationship. I'm feeling pretty discouraged by that. He keeps reminding me that emails are for scheduling or requests for support. Not out of the blue, just when it comes up. I feel like I'd be better off completely alone and I just want to quit. Not sure how to quit by email though since emails are only about scheduling or requests for support. I hate the holidays. Bah humbug.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 22, 2023 at 06:29 PM

Hugs, NP.

ArtieTheSequal · 06:46 PM

I just had an insight about something. When L & I scheduled for this Friday, I reminded her it was the day after Thanksgiving and said it's okay if you end up needing to cancel (since she's done that before when we've scheduled on that day). She said "Stop taking care of me" and insisted she would be working. What just hit me was, when I said that, I actually was taking care of ME - not her - because if she works when she's not feeling up to it, then I won't get her best therapist self, and I'm greedy, that's what I want, that's what I need (and of course that's what I'm paying for besides). I wish I'd realized that at the time of the conversation. I always think of important things after the fact...

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 22, 2023 at 06:51 PM

ok time to go work on my mom's christmas afghan some more.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 22, 2023 at 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I'm so disenchanted with therapy right now. He's off for another week again. It feels like he just got back. It feels like with our recent rupture he unilaterally changed the operating parameters of our relationship. I'm feeling pretty discouraged by that. He keeps reminding me that emails are for scheduling or requests for support. Not out of the blue, just when it comes up. I feel like I'd be better off completely alone and I just want to quit. Not sure how to quit by email though since emails are only about scheduling or requests for support. I hate the holidays. Bah humbug.

Hugs, NP. It does sound like he changed things, from how you described the policy around email before. I'm sorry. I don't think it's right for them to unilaterally change things like that. I hope things improve with your relationship.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 23, 2023 at 09:31 AM

Morning couchies, and happy thanksgiving to those who celebrate today. I went for what turned out to be a brisk walk this morning, my outdoor thermometer says its only 48 degrees F out there which is chilly for us desert-dwellers!

I got 6 rows/rounds done on my mom's christmas afghan lastnight, so I'll probably finish it either today or tomorrow; my goal was to get it to her by her birthday (Dec 13). I might even be able to get the other one done by then too, as I've already started it. The turquoise yarn I ordered for it is supposed to get here tomorrow.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 23, 2023 at 10:48 AM

Happy Thanksgiving, Artie, and to everyone else who celebrates.

NP_Complete · Nov 23, 2023 at 01:48 PM

I subscribe to the Atlas Obscura newsletter. Today's email has the subject line "Remember when racoons were a Thanksgiving meal?" No. No, I do not remember that at all. I've never even considered that someone would eat a racoon. Apparently, Americans had a longstanding tradition of eating racoon that I was totally unaware of.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 23, 2023 at 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I subscribe to the Atlas Obscura newsletter. Today's email has the subject line "Remember when racoons were a Thanksgiving meal?" No. No, I do not remember that at all. I've never even considered that someone would eat a racoon. Apparently, Americans had a longstanding tradition of eating racoon that I was totally unaware of.

I had never heard of such a tradition, either!

Lemoncake · Nov 23, 2023 at 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

h has been out on 3 different jobs today, they are certainly keeping him busy lately. this is a very good thing. he just called & asked if I could have a salad waiting for him when he gets home because he hasn't had a chance to stop and eat today with the time restraints on the deliveries. And he knows I love making salads. I don't know why but salads are fun to make.

Everything is always better with Feta or Goat's cheese. You could add tuna too for more protein.

Lemoncake · Nov 23, 2023 at 05:30 PM

I thought thanksgiving was already over as Amazon had started their black friday deals already for us, from the 17th I think.

I didn't buy anything.

Lemoncake · Nov 23, 2023 at 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I'm so disenchanted with therapy right now. He's off for another week again. It feels like he just got back. It feels like with our recent rupture he unilaterally changed the operating parameters of our relationship. I'm feeling pretty discouraged by that. He keeps reminding me that emails are for scheduling or requests for support. Not out of the blue, just when it comes up. I feel like I'd be better off completely alone and I just want to quit. Not sure how to quit by email though since emails are only about scheduling or requests for support. I hate the holidays. Bah humbug.

Your feelings as understandable NP.

The new break can make it hard to reconnect, whilst you're still sorting through the disconnect from his leaving during the previous break.

You do have a say in this relationship too. He should not be making and changing "rules" without discussing it first.

If you want to quit via email- you just have to say you'd like to cancel any upcoming appointments you have and will be in touch to rearrange if that's what you wanted to do.

Just a note of caution, please make sure you do seek additional support if you need it, and don't try to white knuckle your way through. The holiday period can be very unsettling.

I hope you continue to stay safe NP. We're around if you need to talk.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 24, 2023 at 12:49 AM

Just finished my latest Christmas afghan:

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 24, 2023 at 02:48 AM

That is gorgeous, Artie!

You make such beautiful creations....

I know the lucky recipient will appreciate it.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 24, 2023 at 11:15 AM

Thanks, Lost. When I'm feeling as unwound emotionally as I have been lately, I feel like crocheting helps keep me together, so I've been doing a LOT of it!

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 24, 2023 at 11:39 AM

Thanks for the nudge.

Maybe I need to find a moment to get the watercolour paints out.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,692 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.2k hugs given	Nov 22, 2023 at 05:02 PM #402 Peas and mushrooms are a handy combo recipe so you can instruct the kids that they "must eat every mushroom and pea on the plate." Freud never takes a vacation in my house.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,692 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.2k hugs given	Nov 22, 2023 at 05:54 PM #404 Good for him! Salads are a good habit. I crave them now. Altho mine are often very simple. Just one type of lettuce! I think its my ocd expressing itself.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,535 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,959 hugs given	Nov 22, 2023 at 06:29 PM #406 Hugs, NP.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,535 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,959 hugs given	Nov 22, 2023 at 06:51 PM #408 ok time to go work on my mom's christmas afghan some more.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,522 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.9k hugs given	Nov 23, 2023 at 10:48 AM #411 Happy Thanksgiving, Artie, and to everyone else who celebrates.

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,860 7 6,392 hugs given	Nov 23, 2023 at 01:48 PM #412 I subscribe to the Atlas Obscura newsletter. Today's email has the subject line "Remember when racoons were a Thanksgiving meal?" No. No, I do not remember that at all. I've never even considered that someone would eat a racoon. Apparently, Americans had a longstanding tradition of eating racoon that I was totally unaware of.

Lemoncake Roses are falling. Member Since May 2017 Location: Seattle. Posts: 9,922 (SuperPoster!) 7 10.4k hugs given	Nov 23, 2023 at 05:30 PM #415 I thought thanksgiving was already over as Amazon had started their black friday deals already for us, from the 17th I think. I didn't buy anything. __________________

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,535 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,959 hugs given	Nov 24, 2023 at 11:15 AM #419 Thanks, Lost. When I'm feeling as unwound emotionally as I have been lately, I feel like crocheting helps keep me together, so I've been doing a LOT of it!