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Always in This Twilight
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#801
Dear T,
What if I can't adapt to the new space? Like if I can't feel safe there? I just feel sad about it now. I do wonder if it's because the place where I chose to sit today was the same alignment to you as the stretch after the pandemic before you allowed me to sit closer. Maybe that's part of it? But what if the other seat is *too* close? I guess there's the in-between option. Maybe I'll try that one first Monday. And at least those chairs were in your old office, and I've sat in at least one before, so they're familiar. Plus, then I'll have the window in front of me, like the previous alignment (aside from the initial post-pandemic bit). Love, LT |
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#802
How have you managed to make our relationship feel so unsafe in one move?
Sure, there are other conversations we need to have...but not right now. Right now I need to feel like you've got me...and I don't. Not even close. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Always in This Twilight
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#803
Dear T,
I wanted to email you, but wasn't really sure what I wanted to say or what I wanted from you. Plus, I have no idea whether at this point you'd charge me, though you didn't say so before. So I didn't--I didn't even start writing one. And I didn't ask about a session tomorrow. Progress? No guarantees I won't still send something before Monday, of course. But if I get till tomorrow morning without emailing, I may as well wait. So, I'll make that my goal. Love, LT |
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Always in This Twilight
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#804
Dear T,
This might sound silly, but what if we had a sort of do-over of my first visit to your new office Monday? Not sure if you'd be willing to do a handshake again, but maybe you could invite me to look around, stand and look out the window, possibly even show me where the other offices are, etc. I'll ponder this. Of course, I'd need to tell you about it beforehand, which would require an email, and you might object to the idea, but... I guess I'm trying to think if there's anything else that could help me in the transition. Maybe it's a dumb idea, I don't know... Love, LT |
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Always in This Twilight
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#805
Dear T,
So H actually was asking to hear about how things had been for me the past couple weeks--including stuff regarding you. Progress??? Love, LT |
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#806
Dear ex multiple t thanks for your coping skills which I currently use everyday but Everytime a t left due to finding better jobs or they just quit . You broke my heart into pieces and I trusted the next t and 4 times over they just left for better paying places. And what you left behind was a heartbroken mess which didn't help in the trust department.
Sent from my SM-G996U1 using Tapatalk __________________ Bipolar 1 Gad Ptsd BPD ZOLOFT 100 TOPAMAX 400 ABILIFY 10 SYNTHROID 137 |
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#807
Rebecca reminded me of my support system diagram tonight.
I'm glad she did, but don't you think we should have worked on establishing my support system before you scarpered for a month? __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Always in This Twilight
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#808
Dear T,
Do you have OCD, too? The post-handshake thing you described--especially it being on your mind all session--it sounds very much like OCD. As I said, it's one area where I can understand your reaction. If I didn't have it, or if it wasn't partly a contamination iteration of it, I might have been offended. But I wasn't. Honestly, thinking about it now, I feel a little bad, like maybe I should have picked up on it and said, "If you want to go wash your hands, it's OK." Also, I'm unsure how to feel that you said your policy is generally zero touch, particularly with female clients, but that you make an exception for me because you know it's meaningful to me. When we first started and discussed the handshake, you said you left it up to clients, so I guess I assumed you shook hands with others, too? I mean, maybe you do, but mostly males. I'm glad you're still willing to do that. You seemed surprised that I find your handshake to be warm, too--perhaps others have said otherwise? It still felt warm today, so I don't think you were pulling back, which I was relieved about. (And I've had my share of cold handshakes.) I think the discussion about R went OK, too? I mean, it's a "to be continued." But felt more....I don't know, two-sided, like we were collaborating on it. Definitely felt better in that seat, too. Love, LT Last edited by LonesomeTonight; Aug 12, 2024 at 12:33 PM.. Reason: Clarifying a sentence |
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Writing my way through...
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#809
Sometimes I feel so incredibly stupid. I had a huge therapy-related realization last night, and of course wanted to email you about it. So far I have not, and am doing my best to resist, because I can't help but think if I do email you, it would just be more of what the realization was about and I do not want to go there. Gah. Stupid dumb convoluted therapeutic relationship.
This Friday it will be 6 months since we last met. |
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#810
Sorry about that weird email. I've had a bit too much.
Thanks though for making the email make sense when you replied Last edited by Mountaindewed; Aug 12, 2024 at 07:07 PM.. |
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Monster on the Hill
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#811
There are SQUIRRELS in the living room! An exterminator on a SCOOTER was scoping out the area, but maybe it was his car parked on top of the hill all damn day!?
Possible trigger:
Squirrels turned into a good neighbor. FEBREEZE IS TRYING TO SPY ON US! I know you know I know. It's like the walls. You looking at me looking at you. I can function now. I don't want to I WANT A TORTOISE! But seriously. I do NOT want to admit this but you're my FP.
Possible trigger:
__________________ [Insert thought-provoking and comedic quote here] Last edited by bluekoi; Aug 13, 2024 at 10:29 AM.. Reason: Add trigger code. |
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#812
This mess is beginning to remind me of summer 2018.
I'm tired beyond belief, and my support system is ****ing disintegrating faster than I've ever known. You're here, but you're not here...don't you get it? __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#813
I'm really tempted to email you and ask if we can try agaIn tommorow. I am tired and anxious today
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Monster on the Hill
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#814
Dear T,
I'm going to show up tomorrow, and you're going to fking regret taking my case on. I mean, you probably already do, but now you're going to think hump day is bump day (as in, even if you didn't have a substance use problem, you're going to want to have a bump of your opioid of choice). Just kidding. I'm going to be a good little client and tell you all about how I used my coping skills and DBT skills for as long as I could before the psychosis took the wheel. Pretty cool how everyone acts like "if you know STOPP and can distract yourself from acting impulsively" will keep you okay, but every now and then it's easy to go from "I feel good" to running out of the library screaming so you don't throw a desk at the dude chewing gum to engraving pictures of atoms on the porch after sending nonsense to a bunch of universities on some proton BS you came up with because a stop sign looked too red. __________________ [Insert thought-provoking and comedic quote here] |
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Always in This Twilight
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#815
Dear New (I guess?) P-Doc,
I feel like the LT of even a year ago would have been bothered by some of what you said. And I was slightly, I guess. But, I think you're right. I think I'm at the point where I'm ready to make that change. And I think maybe I need someone to talk a bit tough to me (Dr. T does about some thing, but not really this--seems more wistful almost. But it's also a lot more complicated now with him if he were to take a more judgmental stance--I can let you be the enforcer). I have this thought of "I feel like you can help me." I admit, I also liked that your closing line to me was "And you're not crazy." You seemed to read me well, about some other things, too. And you came thisclose to mentioning another possible diagnosis (I know which one), but you seem willing to investigate more first. Funny that both you and Dr. T have said "you're complicated" in the past couple weeks. And normally I might have opened a beer right now, but I'm having an NA one. Decided to make the right choice. --LT |
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Always in This Twilight
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#816
Dear T,
I think you'll be proud of me for considering this treatment option. I mean, maybe you'd prefer I do this with Dr. S, especially as you know her, and I have an appointment set up (I'll cancel that, but give myself a couple days to be sure, I think). But I think I need an outsider perspective, a different voice. I imagine you won't care, as long as I get support. Love, LT |
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Inner Space Traveler
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#817
Dear T,
Looking forward to your return from vacation in a few days. I hope you are having SUCH a good time! Looking forward to stories about your adventures. I’m proud of myself for how well I am doing. And, good things are happening here! |
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Always in This Twilight
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#818
Dear T,
Wish you'd have acknowledged my last text about still letting me know if you have a cancellation tomorrow, like "will do" or a thumbs up. Hope you saw it. Very on the fence on whether to email you or to hold off. I guess your comment meant I'm back in the no-charge zone, but maybe it's better if I stay there for a bit? Messaging with my friend is helping. Maybe that will be enough for now. Will see how it goes. I feel like I was on this high (hypomanic?) in session today and am now crashing. Like, "whee, I'm inspired and going to make all these changes" and now it's like reality is hitting and I'm sad and scared. I just wish I could have gone through that before session, so we could have talked about it, instead of after. Or that you had something tomorrow instead of Friday, but I have lots of work to do anyway, so... Love, LT |
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Magnate
Member Since Apr 2018
Location: UK
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#819
Dear new T, I might just stop. It feels like a bit of a waste of money.
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Human Feeling
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#820
Well done for putting a significant barrier between us (in moving to Teams) and then talking about 'our connection'.
I did not feel it today at all...and this is a time when I really need it. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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