Should I Not Like My T?

SquarePegGuy · Mar 03, 2024 at 05:41 PM

I like my T. I look forward to the sessions. I'd hang out with him on a weekend, for example.

My wife disliked therapy. She dreaded each session and still harbors bad feelings about her former T.

And some posters here have negative comments about their T.

So I wonder, am I an "outlier?" Is he not pushing me hard enough?

I've been seeing him since October, week;y at first, but then biweekly. The referral was CBT for Major Depressive Disorder, BTW.

Nammu · Mar 03, 2024 at 06:01 PM

It’s fine to like your T. Many people do. Most people who like their T don’t need to write about it.

SquarePegGuy · Mar 03, 2024 at 06:13 PM

That makes sense, thanks!

InkyBooky · Mar 03, 2024 at 06:30 PM

It sounds like you and your T are a great fit. And the nice thing about having such a good and easy rapport with him is that if you ever do feel you want to be pushed or challenged more then you will most likely feel comfortable bringing that up- and he will likely receive it well and be able to adjust as needed.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 03, 2024 at 06:33 PM

I do like my T (and even feel platonic love toward him), though I've made some negative comments about him on here. We've had some pretty big conflicts and there are things that I wish he'd do differently at times. But I do like him, and most of the time, the therapeutic relationship is good. But I've also been very hurt by him before. So it's complicated. But it's a net like.

ScarletPimpernel · Mar 03, 2024 at 06:51 PM

Interesting you write this. I have a huge urge to defend L. I like my therapist. She's actually a really good therapist. I just complain on here about whatever it is that's bothering me about her. Just issues that happen because we're both human... and because I have a lot of issues.

SquarePegGuy · Mar 03, 2024 at 09:18 PM

Thank you so much @ScarletPimpernel, @LonesomeTonight, @InkyBooky and again @Nammu.

He has asked some challenging questions, but not painful ones, yet.

Therapy reviewed · Mar 04, 2024 at 01:41 AM

It's strange you need to put that as a question on a, www forum... If you like someone you like someone..yoyr experience it's this alone.. There's more to therapy than just lining someone.. That in itself might be something your feel you need to guard..

divine1966 · Mar 04, 2024 at 05:17 AM

You certainly shouldn’t stop liking XYZ because other people have negative comments about XYZ.

mote.of.soul · Mar 05, 2024 at 01:44 AM

No, it's fantastic you like your T, SquarePegGuy. A lot of them seem to be quite likeable people. Empathetic. But, you know, dynamics can change so be mentally prepared for anything, I guess.

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Nammu Crone Member Since May 2010 Location: Some where between my inner mind and the solar system. Posts: 71,405 (SuperPoster!) 13 53.7k hugs given	Mar 03, 2024 at 06:01 PM #2 It’s fine to like your T. Many people do. Most people who like their T don’t need to write about it. __________________ *Nammu* …Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …... Desiderata Max Ehrmann
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SquarePegGuy Member Member Since Mar 2020 Location: Northeastern USA Posts: 407 4 52 hugs given	Mar 03, 2024 at 06:13 PM #3 That makes sense, thanks! __________________ Major Depressive Disorder; Sleep Apnea; possibly on the spectrum Nuvigil 50mg; Effexor 37.5mg; meds for blood pressure & cholesterol
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InkyBooky Member Member Since Sep 2018 Location: U.S. Posts: 155 5 201 hugs given	Mar 03, 2024 at 06:30 PM #4 It sounds like you and your T are a great fit. And the nice thing about having such a good and easy rapport with him is that if you ever do feel you want to be pushed or challenged more then you will most likely feel comfortable bringing that up- and he will likely receive it well and be able to adjust as needed.
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ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,413 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,432 hugs given	Mar 03, 2024 at 06:51 PM #6 Interesting you write this. I have a huge urge to defend L. I like my therapist. She's actually a really good therapist. I just complain on here about whatever it is that's bothering me about her. Just issues that happen because we're both human... and because I have a lot of issues. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica
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SquarePegGuy Member Member Since Mar 2020 Location: Northeastern USA Posts: 407 4 52 hugs given	Mar 03, 2024 at 09:18 PM #7 Thank you so much @ScarletPimpernel, @LonesomeTonight, @InkyBooky and again @Nammu. He has asked some challenging questions, but not painful ones, yet. __________________ Major Depressive Disorder; Sleep Apnea; possibly on the spectrum Nuvigil 50mg; Effexor 37.5mg; meds for blood pressure & cholesterol
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Therapy reviewed Member Member Since Sep 2022 Location: Uk Posts: 114 1 1 hugs given	Mar 04, 2024 at 01:41 AM #8 It's strange you need to put that as a question on a, www forum... If you like someone you like someone..yoyr experience it's this alone.. There's more to therapy than just lining someone.. That in itself might be something your feel you need to guard..
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divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,386 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,277 hugs given	Mar 04, 2024 at 05:17 AM #9 You certainly shouldn’t stop liking XYZ because other people have negative comments about XYZ.
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mote.of.soul Legendary Member Since Jan 2018 Location: New Zealand Posts: 13,136 (SuperPoster!) 6 21.9k hugs given	Mar 05, 2024 at 01:44 AM #10 No, it's fantastic you like your T, SquarePegGuy. A lot of them seem to be quite likeable people. Empathetic. But, you know, dynamics can change so be mentally prepared for anything, I guess. __________________ "A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows, even though we do not love it."- Dōgen
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