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Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: NJ
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#921
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We have been stuck in an extended heat wave. Last night the heat broke slightly and it didn’t feel quite as humid. Today it’s supposed to be hot again. |
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LonesomeTonight, unaluna
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Human Feeling
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
Posts: 5,337
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#922
I sent a frantic email to R yesterday, expressing everything that I couldn't express through sheer emotion on Thursday.
Now I'm having a Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy moment as in 'Don't panic.' Is 'I'm OK with it, but let me freak out first' something therapists have experience with? __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
InkyBooky, Jersey 4, LonesomeTonight, ScarletPimpernel
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: Toodlepip
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#923
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Jersey 4, LonesomeTonight
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Grand Poohbah
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#924
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LonesomeTonight
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Grand Poohbah
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#925
My therapist made a mistake last week which I found humiliating and which caused her shame. It was a very intense session. She was shaken and that in itself was difficult for me to observe. Anyway, I have done something art-based on the back of it - I have created her mistake in a form which we can hold, change, unpick, literally do something with it. It has been such a valuable thing for me to do. I had a period of art therapy in my 30s after having been very unwell and I often think about the importance of what that gave me - the different forms of things, metaphor, creation, etc. It has a similar effect to that of somatic work or embodied endeavour in that I like experiencing the meaning in these different ways.
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Jersey 4, LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, ScarletPimpernel, unaluna
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LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, unaluna
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Human Feeling
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
Posts: 5,337
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#926
Just 'cause the cake needed some icing...
I've just had a text from the grief support service I use informing me that my 'subscription' is coming to an end next week. I didn't realise that the weekly messages were time limited. This is separate from everything, but another 'regime change'. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
ArtieTheSequal, Jersey 4, LonesomeTonight
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Member Since Sep 2018
Location: U.S.
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#927
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Bereavement support directory Hopefully you can find another support service (or two). Over the years I have had to do some deep dives into researching support services in order to find free support for myself outside of therapy. There are a variety of them here in the U.S. Some are helpful to me and some...not so much. However, I find that it's very empowering to do the research, make contact, give them a try, and (hopefully) find a helpful resource for myself that can be used as needed. |
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LostOnTheTrail
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Human Feeling
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
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#928
Thank you so much, Inky.
I'll take a closer look at that link to see what I can find. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
InkyBooky, LonesomeTonight
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InkyBooky
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert of my soul
Posts: 7,547
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#929
I'm having a very weird day today. I've been feeling pretty good the past few months and can't even remember the last time I cried about anything. Today we had a team meeting that we're supposed to be on camera for, and I couldn't get my camera to work, and I almost started crying over it! It felt quite foreign to me (still!) how quickly I was able to regulate my emotions and not shed even one tear, and just say "go on with the meeting, I'll listen while I figure this out" and eventually I got it to work. It's funny to me now, that was something L and I worked on a lot, that I was never able to do, and I don't even know when the switch flipped and I started being able to do it. I've only been aware of it happening a couple times, so it's been recent. And L doesn't even get to know.
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Jersey 4, LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, ScarletPimpernel, unaluna
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Jersey 4, unaluna
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
Member Since Jun 2011
Location: Milan/Michigan
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#930
Artie - i love when that happens! Its like, the whole time we and t were shoveling all this shyte around and up and down and over and under, an actual structure was being rebuilt and we had no idea. Except that now, there it effing is! Wth! Thats why we tell SD to "trust the process"!
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ArtieTheSequal, LonesomeTonight
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert of my soul
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#931
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#932
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It sounds like a painful session. Using art seems like a really productive way to process it. Will you share it with her? I need to get back to using writing more to process therapy stuff (beyond what I post on here)--I did a little the other night when I couldn't sleep. I plan to do some on my little mini-vacation that I'm on right now, though I don't think I have the brainpower for it left today. Maybe I need to try other forms of art, too. Back when I did a bit of painting, I channeled some anger from a therapy session for part of one. |
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#933
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That seems like great progress! I feel like there's a lot from therapy that happens behind the scenes in our brains, where things are being processed, then come out when we need them. I've surprised myself a couple times lately, too. |
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unaluna
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#934
Last in-person session in Dr. T's current office today. I said how part of why it is so difficult is because it feels like a sanctuary to me at times. He said it's about the energy in our relationship creating that feeling, not the energy of the space. And how that will continue on in his new office. Which helped to hear. Though I will really miss that office.
When I left, after we said good-byes and shook hands, I started to walk out, then turned back and said, "Goodbye, Office." I started to cry (again) and said, "Sorry." Dr. T said "It's OK" very gently. I turned back around and gave a little wave over my shoulder. Was relieved that no one was in the waiting room when I walked out. May write more about it later. On a little solo minivacation now. |
InkyBooky, NP_Complete, ScarletPimpernel, unaluna
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: the upside down
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#935
I've been seeing a NP for meds about once a month since November. We also basically have a therapy session during those meetings which was not what I expected when I started going, but I'm okay with it now. At the end of our session today he asked if I was a hugger and offered a hug. I turned him down but left the door open for perhaps another time. The therapist I've wanted a hug from won't give me one and the therapist I do not have any attachment towards is willing to give me one. Not sure how I feel about that. I'm trying to decide if I should talk with P about it or just leave it alone.
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LonesomeTonight, unaluna
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underdog is here
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: blank
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#936
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
atisketatasket, Jersey 4, unaluna
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
Member Since Jun 2011
Location: Milan/Michigan
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#937
Admit it, you love me for my metaphors.
Just reporting: the portal of which i ordinarily have to scale walls and fjord a beast-filled moat today got my prozac prescription refilled a freakin month early. ??? Honest to god, usually i am like hey its been 3 days did you guys even see my request? And they answer we cant refill that no further explanation by which time i am splitting pills and spitting teeth |
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#938
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That seems really difficult, how the random one offers a hug and the one you want a hug from won't give it. It could be something to bring up to P, but I don't know. My T is very clearly not a hugger--including in his outside life--so I feel if I talked about something like this with him, he'd just be like "that is one of my boundaries, you know that." So that's a risk, unless P has been vague about it. There can be value in talking about the desire to have that. I just know in my case, my T would emphasize the boundary. Yours might be different. |
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Child of a lesser god
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Location: Tartarus
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#939
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In which case SD should continue to distrust the process. |
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underdog is here
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#940
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
atisketatasket, Jersey 4, unaluna
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