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I wouldn’t classify office stuff as urgent to justify disturbing your session twice, but it sounds like you handled the interruptions and the uncertainty around Dr. T's office move quite well. It's great to hear that you feel more capable than you might have in the past.

Thanks, Lemon! That's nice to hear.

I think the office stuff may have been urgent in the sense that it could have been postponing his move. So he might have had to contact the moving company to postpone, his coworkers, etc. Though it seems like it could have waited until after my session maybe?
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I should say so, considering you're paying for his time!

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Thanks, Lemon! That's nice to hear.

I think the office stuff may have been urgent in the sense that it could have been postponing his move. So he might have had to contact the moving company to postpone, his coworkers, etc. Though it seems like it could have waited until after my session maybe?
I know it’s all my own stuff about boundaries, but It just seems disrespectful to interrupt your process even if he did give you extra time at the end. A one off could be excusable, but twice in the same session?

It’s his responsibility to manage his business, without it impacting on you.

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I know it’s all my own stuff about boundaries, but It just seems disrespectful to interrupt your process even if he did give you extra time at the end. A one off could be excusable, but twice in the same session?


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Goodness you wouldn't like my T then.... Couch 248: Curiouser and Curiouser

I often have interrupted sessions; the most I ever had in one session was five, and they were all different things (she did apologise and make up the time at the end).

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Goodness you wouldn't like my T then.... Couch 248: Curiouser and Curiouser

I often have interrupted sessions; the most I ever had in one session was five, and they were all different things (she did apologise and make up the time at the end).

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Ugh, I'd really struggle with that. It seems she should do her best to keep the disruptions out of the time you're paying for.

One positive thing about my ex-T is that she kept her phone in her purse turned off during session.

Ex-MC always had his phone on (and not on silent, so I'd hear very clearly when he got texts, rather than just a buzz) and would sometimes say "I just have to check the number." The worst was a couple times when he said "I have a couple potential emergencies brewing, so I have to check." He worked with high-risk teens (plus, at the time, his wife being sick). Those times were difficult because it felt like any moment, he might get a text and have to end the session. Once, he did take a call from a client, thinking it was an emergency (he stepped out of the room), then came back a minute later saying it was not an emergency.
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I know it’s all my own stuff about boundaries, but It just seems disrespectful to interrupt your process even if he did give you extra time at the end. A one off could be excusable, but twice in the same session?

It’s his responsibility to manage his business, without it impacting on you.

Yeah, it was difficult, especially with him turning off both video and audio, so I was just there, having no idea what was going on or how long he'd be. It might have felt a bit different had it been in person and he'd stepped into the hall or something. The one time, he put audio on for a second and said, "Sorry, LT, I just need one more minute." Which, it's good he updated me. And I understand it was probably something urgent. But I wish it could have waited.
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I should say so, considering you're paying for his time!

Yeah...he did make it up, but it made the session feel disjointed. We had to figure out what we were talking about and do our best to resume. It wasn't anything particularly intense, thankfully.

Unlike that session where we were trying to work through a rupture when his wife called in the middle to alert him to a tornado warning and try to convince him to step out of his office until it was over. That call he took right in front of me, which was a different level of awkward!
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