Couch 248: Curiouser and Curiouser

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 15, 2024 at 10:09 AM

Yes, very annoying! But one can hope.

Jersey 4 · Jun 15, 2024 at 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Yes, very annoying! But one can hope.

It will probably work. Tons of people are losing weight on that. I wanted it but insurance won’t cover and it’s very very expensive.

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 15, 2024 at 04:19 PM

I had a positively surreal conversation with an international friend this afternoon.

Possible trigger:

She informed me that the terror threat level had been raised in her country, and people were being asked to prepare enough emergency supplies to last three days.

I asked whether that meant they thought something was likely to happen.

'No, there's just been a rise in cyber attacks and jamming [taking out the internet signal]. I don't want you to worry if I suddenly disappear for a few days.'

Maybe I haven't quite landed from the week I've had, but...shouldn't that conversation have been the other way around?

LonesomeTonight · Jun 15, 2024 at 05:12 PM

Hugs, Lost. I assume she knows what you're dealing with right now? She should be more aware and sensitive to that.

stopdog · Jun 15, 2024 at 05:28 PM

How would the conversation be backwards? looks like she just wanted to give a heads up if she was not online. Seems thoughtful to me if it was in a situation where people might be concerned. What would it being the other way around look like?

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 15, 2024 at 05:31 PM

Thanks, LT.

I don't think she does anniversaries, so she may not be aware.
My calendar is a lot for me, so I don't expect anyone else to keep it.

(Except R, perhaps.)

It was a spike of anxiety that I really didn't need.

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 15, 2024 at 05:35 PM

SD,

It would have made more sense to me if she'd started with something like "There's a chance I might not be online for a while, because..."

Starting the conversation by talking about the terror threat level out of nowhere piled panic on top of the limited capacity I have at the moment.

stopdog · Jun 15, 2024 at 06:53 PM

I wouldn't have thought of that from either side for me. But glad she got to the reassuring part for you eventually

unaluna · Jun 15, 2024 at 07:06 PM

I guess i would see somebody saying, "i might not be online for a while" as scary or manipulative, trying to get me to ask why. If they know the reason, i would prefer they start with that. My family would make leading, insinuating statements like that, threatening some impending doom that this ungrateful child is pitifully, stupidly oblivious of.

Equal but opposite knee-jerk responses

atisketatasket · Jun 15, 2024 at 08:52 PM

I am discovering one of the joys of historic houses is the unexpected surprises.

For instance, I had electricians here yesterday to replace a 76 year old subpanel.

stopdog · Jun 15, 2024 at 09:20 PM

Wow - exhankster and I are very nearly historic subpanels. Electricity (or lack there of) is one of the joys of an older house - the first thing I had to do when I bought my 120+ yr old house ( at the time it was 90- years old. tempus fugit and all) was upgrade the panel and add about 40 outlets. Old Plumbing and gas lines also have their fun. When it gets really bad - read (it is funny) or watch(myrna loy) Mr. Blandings Builds His Dream House and relate.

atisketatasket · Jun 16, 2024 at 12:50 AM

I love Mr. Blandings (the film).

The plumbing was all replaced a few years before I bought, so that should be okay.

Ex-hankster seems more like an historic gas line to me…

unaluna · Jun 16, 2024 at 04:22 AM

Well, i am older than the apartment building i live in, now that you mention it. Jiminy Cricket.

unaluna · Jun 16, 2024 at 04:24 AM

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 16, 2024 at 10:41 AM

My friend won't stop with the info about the terror threat level.

I don't know how to handle this.

Of course I want her to be safe, but I don't want to know every detail.

comrademoomoo · Jun 16, 2024 at 11:11 AM

Perhaps her anxiety and fear means that she needs to repeat herself and revisit the subject in order for her to reassure herself or otherwise sort through a stressful situation. She obviously trusts you enough to talk to you about it, there is not necessarily anything specific she needs to hear from you. Being able to listen and having time for her concern is enough.

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 16, 2024 at 11:16 AM

We're not talking about it, though.
She's already told me what's going on in an arse-about-face way yesterday.

I didn't need her to explain further.

comrademoomoo · Jun 16, 2024 at 11:52 AM

But maybe she needs to talk about it again in whatever form it comes, that what I meant. I think I misunderstood your initial post though. I thought you were struggling with what kind of understanding things to say to her rather than wanting her to shut up with the repetition! Maybe temporarily block her if you feel awkward about asking her to stop talking about the situation? You can explain why you were out of touch at a later date if it's unusual for you to not have daily contact.

unaluna · Jun 16, 2024 at 12:11 PM

I heard on the sunday morning tv news shows that there is a threat here in the USA because some people got in, but the US Representative talking about it seemed to want to "blame the current admins policies" rather than tell people to go buy their bread and milk and hunker down. So idk. I just cant get excited anymore. Until they come knocking on my door.

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2024 at 12:17 PM

I’m looking at my floors and should probably mop them but I’m lazy. I had plans to go to Torrid today in a little while to maybe find some new clothes. The last Torrid I was in was rather small and they had a lot of stuff everywhere and it became overwhelming. I wonder if the other location not too far from me would be less cluttered.

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ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,435 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,477 hugs given	Jun 15, 2024 at 10:09 AM #761 Yes, very annoying! But one can hope. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,922 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.2k hugs given	Jun 15, 2024 at 05:12 PM #764 Hugs, Lost. I assume she knows what you're dealing with right now? She should be more aware and sensitive to that.
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,188 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Jun 15, 2024 at 08:52 PM #770 I am discovering one of the joys of historic houses is the unexpected surprises. For instance, I had electricians here yesterday to replace a 76 year old subpanel. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,188 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Jun 16, 2024 at 12:50 AM #772 I love Mr. Blandings (the film). The plumbing was all replaced a few years before I bought, so that should be okay. Ex-hankster seems more like an historic gas line to me… __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,156 (SuperPoster!) 13 67.1k hugs given	Jun 16, 2024 at 04:22 AM #773 Well, i am older than the apartment building i live in, now that you mention it. Jiminy Cricket.
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,156 (SuperPoster!) 13 67.1k hugs given	Jun 16, 2024 at 12:11 PM #779 I heard on the sunday morning tv news shows that there is a threat here in the USA because some people got in, but the US Representative talking about it seemed to want to "blame the current admins policies" rather than tell people to go buy their bread and milk and hunker down. So idk. I just cant get excited anymore. Until they come knocking on my door.
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Jersey 4 Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: NJ Posts: 1,217 5 1,202 hugs given	Jun 16, 2024 at 12:17 PM #780 I’m looking at my floors and should probably mop them but I’m lazy. I had plans to go to Torrid today in a little while to maybe find some new clothes. The last Torrid I was in was rather small and they had a lot of stuff everywhere and it became overwhelming. I wonder if the other location not too far from me would be less cluttered.
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