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Grand Poohbah
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#841
Perhaps I am getting sentimental in my middle age, but I find it touching that we witness all kinds of changes, troubles, and feelings on this forum amongst our members. It feels quite meaningful that we hear about the office moves, ruptures, endings, new therapists, etc as they unfold along the way. I know about the inner workings of other people's therapy, people on the other side of the world who I have never met, and that feels extraordinary in a way.
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Human Feeling
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#842
Yes, Comrade.
The Internet is many things, but in these communities, we can really come to be there for one another...and that means a huge amount. Not to get soppy, but I read something a few days ago that resonates in this context. 'We can't save people, but we can love them.' (I know the L word is loaded for many people, but it takes many forms.) It's an honour to walk around in someone else's story for a while...and I suppose that's why some people become therapists. Thanks for bringing that up, and reminding us of what's really important. Lost __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Grand Poohbah
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#843
On a less sentimental note, LT is it possible to make a bit of room (pardon the pun) for feelings other than anxiety, dread, apprehension about the office move? I don't mean this to minimise the emotional disturbance you feel now because I think it points to really important stuff, but anxiety so often dwarfs other feelings and will muscle out other possibilities. On a really basic level, the physiological effects of anxiety (racing heart and breath, butterflies, agitation, etc) can also indicate excitement and anticipation and sometimes I think we ascribe anxiety when something else might be happening as well. I don't mean that you are incorrect in how you feel or that you should look on the bright side (ugh), but I imagine that you might have the capacity to feel curious and interested about the room as well as anxious. I think I mean something like seeing the whole picture of your emotions rather than allowing anxiety to have a reductive impact.
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Always in This Twilight
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#844
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I've thought of something similar, too. This forum has often made me feel less alone. And I like being able to support others, along with receiving support. And just hear about others' experiences. |
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#845
I especially appreciate the Couch, because one of my 'things' is an inability to find the 'right words'.
I don't need them here - thank you all. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#846
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And I think if this all goes OK, like if I adjust in a relatively short period of time and realize he's the same person (some may say that's a negative!) and that the therapeutic relationship is the same, maybe it will help me understand that this sort of change isn't the end of the world and that I'm capable of handling such things (as life is full of change). That was a terrible sentence, but hopefully my point comes across! Also, aside from the initial conflict about the fish, Dr. T has been very patient with me and supportive about the move, despite having plenty of his own stress about it. I forget whether I shared this, but he said the other day that he feels like he's an ship captain in the 1800s trying to steer the ship through a hurricane. How I'm on the ship, as well as other clinicians (like R) who are moving with him (and presumably other clients, though he didn't mention them). But he's the only one who can steer it, and he only has some control. It helped that he shared that. Made it feel more like we're in it together, plus acknowledging his own stress (without diminishing mine). |
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#847
L told me that fear and excitement come from the same part of the brain.
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#848
That's interesting, Scarlet.
Makes a lot of sense. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Writing my way through...
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#850
My office chair was falling apart so I went shopping for a new one this morning. I found them 60% off at Office Max so I was able to get a heck of a good deal on a much better chair than I expected to buy!! Just finished putting it together. I do not have to worry about my chair breaking underneath me anymore haha. That old one was getting quite rickety. Nothing is made to last anymore; you kids get off my lawn. ha. (It was bonus week on my paycheck yesterday, plus I had like 4 hours of overtime, so it was a no-brainer.)
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#851
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Poohbah
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#852
I’m bored today. It’s too hot to go anywhere. I thought about mall walking just go get out a bit but be inside. Honestly though the local mall is kinda small so it’s not even worth it.
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Writing my way through...
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#853
I'm bored too. I worked on a couple of poems today, did a load of laundry, and assembled my new chair but now I'm bored and just kinda blah. Maybe I'll go find something to watch on netflix.
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#854
Artie, have you seen the Joan Didion documentary The Centre Cannot Hold?
Made by her nephew, the actor Griffin Dunne. It's good brain food if that's what you are seeking. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#855
Thank you, no I haven't, but I"m going to look for it. I've read her book Play It As It Lays several times.
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#856
In other news, I'm not bored anymore! When H got home from a job he called me and said "come out in the garage, you're the expert on snakes" I was like whaaa? Anyway yeah, sure enough it was a rattlesnake. I called one of the local rattlesnake removal places (there are a bunch, as rattlers are common here in the desert) and the guy was here in like 40 minutes. They humanely relocate so I was glad of that! It was a Mojave rattlesnake, per the snake guy. After he trapped the little guy, he was telling us all kinds of stuff about the snakes. It was really interesting. I was the one standing out there watching it while he was on his way, so I told him, I'm not afraid of snakes per se, we had non-venomous ones as pets when I was a kid, but I DO have a healthy respect for the poisonous ones! This particular kind is highly venomous he said, but not aggressive. It never even rattled until the guy actually picked it up in his snake stick thingie. Which is because we didn't mess with it. We just kept an eye on where it was so he would know when he got here. That was my excitement for the weekend.
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#857
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#858
I like snakes - I had a pet snake when I was in high school.
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#859
I'm feeling really restless today, as though I need to do something but I don't know what.
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