Couch 249: The Self Care Couch

unaluna · 08:00 PM

Friday night is Lingo night. Boy this one team is horrible at spelling, like do they even know this game??? But they can guess the long words with like 2 letters! Im impressed!

Eta - one team spelled "undie" - NOT A WORD!

I love the CBS new matlock commercial, where kathy bates says the last time she practiced was 1991. Makes me feel seen.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jul 12, 2024 at 10:57 PM

UGH. The ex sent me THREE stress vomit emails. Including telling me what I *will* do about the spawn. And apparently somehow his communication and management with the tall folk is my responsibility (read: fault) and he is pissed off. WTH? I am not responsible for his communication and finances with the grown spawn. Or any other grown person, for that matter, as I suspect the new wife has something to do with this.

I called him and calmed him down and reminded him that a phone call to discuss collaboratively is more appropriate than a stress email telling me what I will do about the grown folk.

Yay me. But afterward I started shaking and had a hard time breathing and cried. I realized a- wow, it's been a long time since I reacted to anything that way, and b- I've still got some triggers there, apparently, and he just stomped all over them. Also c- wow, I am so grateful that is not my every day reality any more.

Bicycle guy gave me a hug and a glass of wine and invited me to vent, without judgment or problem-solving. Also grateful that this is my now reality.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jul 12, 2024 at 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Friday night is Lingo night. Boy this one team is horrible at spelling, like do they even know this game??? But they can guess the long words with like 2 letters! Im impressed!

Eta - one team spelled "undie" - NOT A WORD!

I love the CBS new matlock commercial, where kathy bates says the last time she practiced was 1991. Makes me feel seen.

I dunno, if you can have undies, maybe you can have an undie!

unaluna · Jul 13, 2024 at 05:08 AM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

I dunno, if you can have undies, maybe you can have an undie!

Well not according to Ru Paul, and it seems like he would know!

This show really brings out my spelling schadenfreude. Im spellist. :ashamed:

Eta - ooh, sorry about the call. Isnt it weird how the feels are still in you, like a peach in the cupboard? (I just ate a peach.)

LonesomeTonight · Jul 13, 2024 at 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

UGH. The ex sent me THREE stress vomit emails. Including telling me what I *will* do about the spawn. And apparently somehow his communication and management with the tall folk is my responsibility (read: fault) and he is pissed off. WTH? I am not responsible for his communication and finances with the grown spawn. Or any other grown person, for that matter, as I suspect the new wife has something to do with this.

I called him and calmed him down and reminded him that a phone call to discuss collaboratively is more appropriate than a stress email telling me what I will do about the grown folk.

Yay me. But afterward I started shaking and had a hard time breathing and cried. I realized a- wow, it's been a long time since I reacted to anything that way, and b- I've still got some triggers there, apparently, and he just stomped all over them. Also c- wow, I am so grateful that is not my every day reality any more.

Bicycle guy gave me a hug and a glass of wine and invited me to vent, without judgment or problem-solving. Also grateful that this is my now reality.

Ugh, sorry you had to deal with that from your ex. It's good you called him. And I'm glad you now have a supportive partner in Bicycle Guy..

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 13, 2024 at 07:15 AM

My work is done for this academic year, and I am beat.

The showcase was brilliant and also managed to be triggering.

Grief is a form of ever-evolving understanding, and somehow a student's work managed to hit the pain point around my latest understanding of the pivotal role that religion played in Steve's decision.

Small audience means that there's no space to step out discreetly.

stopdog · Jul 13, 2024 at 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

. Isnt it weird how the feels are still in you, like a peach in the cupboard? (I just ate a peach.)

But have you eaten the plums in the icebox? So sweet and so cold?

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 13, 2024 at 08:49 AM

That is one of the finest short poems to ever exist.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 13, 2024 at 08:57 AM

Hugs, Lost...

unaluna · Jul 13, 2024 at 09:01 AM

I get 13 peaches delivered a week for 8 weeks. I dont have the bandwidth for much more. But the peaches are awesome.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 13, 2024 at 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I get 13 peaches delivered a week for 8 weeks. I dont have the bandwidth for much more. But the peaches are awesome.

Out of curiosity, why 13 specifically?

unaluna · Jul 13, 2024 at 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Out of curiosity, why 13 specifically?

Thats what comes in the box. Bakers dozen i suppose? I get it from The Peach Truck. There are a few such services.

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 13, 2024 at 11:48 AM

I find it amusing to think of someone actually putting the peaches in the box.

1, 2, 3...

LonesomeTonight · Jul 13, 2024 at 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thats what comes in the box. Bakers dozen i suppose? I get it from The Peach Truck. There are a few such services.

I was wondering about the Baker's Dozen thing. The part of my OCD that's tied to numbers would be bothered by the 13 (I have good and bad numbers in my head).

We've been getting produce from a fairly local group called Hungry Harvest. Their stock varies, but you can pick what you get of the available items. It's surplus fruits/veggies (and other items, like potato chips) where either they produced too many or they're too big/small/unattractive to sell in stores. I think we got some of the world's tiniest plums and apricots this week (they were by the pound). And some rather oddly shaped green peppers (plus other stuff).

Jersey 4 · Jul 13, 2024 at 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

UGH. The ex sent me THREE stress vomit emails. Including telling me what I *will* do about the spawn. And apparently somehow his communication and management with the tall folk is my responsibility (read: fault) and he is pissed off. WTH? I am not responsible for his communication and finances with the grown spawn. Or any other grown person, for that matter, as I suspect the new wife has something to do with this.

I called him and calmed him down and reminded him that a phone call to discuss collaboratively is more appropriate than a stress email telling me what I will do about the grown folk.

Yay me. But afterward I started shaking and had a hard time breathing and cried. I realized a- wow, it's been a long time since I reacted to anything that way, and b- I've still got some triggers there, apparently, and he just stomped all over them. Also c- wow, I am so grateful that is not my every day reality any more.

Bicycle guy gave me a hug and a glass of wine and invited me to vent, without judgment or problem-solving. Also grateful that this is my now reality.

WFS. I’m glad bicycle guy was there for you. Honestly it seems like you handled it well in the moment by calling him and not just firing emails back.

Jersey 4 · Jul 13, 2024 at 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I was wondering about the Baker's Dozen thing. The part of my OCD that's tied to numbers would be bothered by the 13 (I have good and bad numbers in my head).

We've been getting produce from a fairly local group called Hungry Harvest. Their stock varies, but you can pick what you get of the available items. It's surplus fruits/veggies (and other items, like potato chips) where either they produced too many or they're too big/small/unattractive to sell in stores. I think we got some of the world's tiniest plums and apricots this week (they were by the pound). And some rather oddly shaped green peppers (plus other stuff).

LT if I ever invest in such a peach truck and somehow ever come across you with said peach truck-I would make sure to not give you 13 but a number of your choice.

Jersey 4 · Jul 13, 2024 at 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Thats what comes in the box. Bakers dozen i suppose? I get it from The Peach Truck. There are a few such services.

I grew up in a city and your mention of a peach truck brought back visions of being a young child and the fruit truck coming down the street. It was basically a small pick up truck with a little trailer on the back. He would stop and you could go out and say what you wanted and the guy would throw with you wanted into a paper bag and hand it over. He did a lot of business because he was cheaper than the corner store or grocery store.

stopdog · Jul 13, 2024 at 02:12 PM

I have had a couple of clients (at least one on death row) who had some issues with numbers - made dealing with him as a client hard because he could go bonkers over our bar numbers that have to go on all pleadings. He was told more than once that the court would not appt him new attys just because the bar number was not to his liking.

stopdog · Jul 13, 2024 at 05:20 PM

Dr. Ruth and Richard Simmons - both no more

unaluna · Jul 13, 2024 at 05:25 PM

Oh, not richard simmons! So thats why he poked his head up the other day? He was a real evangelist. I guess so was dr ruth.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,916 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.8k hugs given	Jul 13, 2024 at 05:25 PM #380 Oh, not richard simmons! So thats why he poked his head up the other day? He was a real evangelist. I guess so was dr ruth.