Couch 249: The Self Care Couch

Ugh, I'm so sorry Lost. Hugs to you.

Feel free to PM me about it (though I won't be able to reply till late afternoon/early evening EDT).

Well sometimes it pays to procrastinate. They just issued a recall for my hand held spot steamer cleaner - that i bought in 2010 and never even opened the box. But at least i didnt burn myself.

My word, the manufacturers took their sweet time about that.

Do you at least get a refund?

RIP Bob Newhart.

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They are recalling from 2004 to present day! I can get a refund equal to what i paid for it. But i have to send in a hostage photo with its cord cut off

Haha, that's brilliant.

May they process your refund quickly.

Bump.

The patron saint of the couch!

Oh no! Not Bob Newhart too.

Feeling as though your T has already mentally gone on vacation is hard to deal with, especially when you need them to be on top form and totally focused on your session.

I've had sessions like that too, very frustrating, especially when you're paying for them! Sometimes it's like a vacation week can feel like it lasts about 3 weeks; the week before when they are already looking forward to it, the actual week they're away and the week of their return, fully refreshed (hopefully), but now in getting-back-into-the-work mode rather than hitting the ground running.

I hope your T regains her focus soon.

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Sad to hear about Bob Newhart.

I really appreciate you normalising the experience, East.

I think I would feel differently if I wasn't in the midst of processing something significant.

Helpful session with R today. We discussed the move--she'd packed her whole office the day before the planned move last month, then saw the email about the postponement from Dr. T. We both shared how we'd come to places of peace about leaving the office and how it felt still being there. She's been there 13 years (one of Dr. T's first tenants).

I shared how I struggled when Dr. T was cursing and ranting about the contractors messing things up. She was like, "Look out, Dad's mad!" She said how when someone is stressed they tend to revert to a younger version of themselves. It helped to think of it like that. We also talked about how I struggle with the transactional aspect of therapy, though not as much as I'd meant to.

She also asked what kept me coming back to therapy in general, what need it met for me. I said for one, it's safe, regular space (which, of course, is changing) to just let everything out. She said she has long-term clients who are the same. And she asked what led me to keep seeing Dr. T in general (out of curiosity, not like, "What are you doing still seeing him?") I said how I just really trust him. Also that there's this connection I can't fully understand or explain.

Her response to that connection part was something I think Artie and maybe others would appreciate, though it's likely a bit woo woo for many Couch members: "Who knows? Maybe you knew each other in a past life." She mentioned a client who'd gone on a (medically supervised) psilocybin (sp?) trip and said he'd learned all this stuff from glowing orbs, including that R was his older sister in a past life. I don't know that she necessarily believes in that sort of thing (not sure if I do either), more like sometimes we just feel an inexplicable connection to someone.

Oh and actually amazon sent me an email about the recall and put a notice on my orders page. Cuz i was thinking, gee i just happened to browse the google page today, what if i hadnt? But big brother is watching.

Me too! Except I took it out of the box. It's in a box now, somewhere, after the move.

Statistically speaking, the idea that one person, who in a past life was one of the billions of others who have lived on this planet, has ended up with a therapist or other associate who in a past life was another one of those billions of others *as well as their close relative* is so much hooey that I just sprained my retinas rolling my eyes.

But whatever people gotta tell themselves to survive, I guess.

statistically speaking, what are the odds that people are even here in the first place?

Time for me to bow out again for a while.

Crikey, LT.

Can I borrow your R for a while?
I don't feel like mine is attuned to me that much at the moment.

I woke up to a message from one of my fellow stewards on the SL forum, offering a listening ear if I want to talk...so that's helpful.

Apologies for the retina sprain--I can forward the bill to R! I did have the thought of "what are the chances that people would end up in the same location?"

I do feel like the reason we feel connected to some people and not others, even on first meeting, is a bit of a mystery. (Aside from physical attraction.) And I suppose this is one way people have come up with to explain it. Same with stuff about auras.

Good point! And hugs, Artie. I hope you don't feel driven away for any reason, just taking a break for your own sake. I hope things go well with the new T, R, and that you'll update us at some point.

Sure, you can borrow R. Maybe she can be a couch backup. I do feel I lucked out in her as a backup. I hope your R can figure herself out and become more attuned for your next session.

That's good that the steward offered to talk. I hope you find them helpful if you take them up on the offer.