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Default Yesterday at 09:25 AM
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I would be grateful if the Irish goodbye was more acceptable.

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Default Yesterday at 09:36 AM
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Seeing my gp every 6 months, rather than every 3 months, geez! On the quarterly schedule, my battery doesnt even have time to recharge before it has to switch to backup. Semiannual is much more my speed.

In summation - twice a year, good. Twice a day, insanity!
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I would be grateful if the Irish goodbye was more acceptable.

My H will do this. Though he's Irish, so I think he can get away with it more! I tend to feel guilty if we do that. And it wouldn't work with my family gatherings. We all need to hug good-bye and stuff. I tend to just sort of wave to his family (well, aside from his one uncle, who's a hugger).
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Default Yesterday at 12:00 PM
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this makes an argument for it- What Is an Irish Exit? Why an Irish Goodbye Is Actually Not That Rude - Thrillist

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Default Yesterday at 12:46 PM
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Lost, I try to only make one appointment in a day. I've actually learned to like going out and seeing the people I know (even doctors). I'll even try to go with H when he picks up food or something just to get out of the house. But doing two things (anything) in a day is overwhelming for me. And that a normal day when I'm feeling okay. Like today, 2 of my girls have grooming appointments, I have a phone call with L between drop off and pickup, I have to get groceries delivered and I have to do laundry. Today is overwhelming for me. So yes, I think it's normal to only be able to handle one social event a day especially when you're dealing with so much. Like LT's cartoon, it's okay to check out.

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Default Yesterday at 02:58 PM
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Couch mini-poll: Where should ATAT travel next? (Probably around the holidays.)

A. Rome. (Yes, I was just there in 2022, but now I have a book of all the Lat8n inscriptions in Rome organized into 15 walking tours, which combines three of my favorite things: inscriptions, walking, and exploring unfamiliar cities.)

B. Ireland. (I am almost half Irish, plus I’ve been reading a lot of Irish literature and mysteries lately, and watching things like Bodkin. So much so I’d tell you I’m grand if you asked how I was. Also a bit cheaper to get to.)

Where would you go?
Ireland for the vote.

I do want to move there eventually.

A few Game of throne scenes were filmed there. So you could also dress up and take photos too.

Game of Thrones Tours - Experience the real film locations

Or you could do a mini tour and visit both. There’s 3 hours flight time between the two.

Look at Ryanair for cheap tickets.

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statistically speaking, what are the odds that people are even here in the first place?

Time for me to bow out again for a while.
I believe in past lives, other stuff not so much .

We can only observe a universe where we are possible. Given that we are here, specific conditions must have been met, making our existence a reality within the broader context of the universe.

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Default Yesterday at 03:17 PM
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Yeah i never knew knew that leaving without saying goodbye was a bad thing. But i think it was because people were always waiting for me to leave. Like my brother, or the adults, or the boy cousins, or the small cousins. I didnt have a great social life. So people at my first job had to educate me. Like to call it pasta, not macaroni.
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Oh and actually amazon sent me an email about the recall and put a notice on my orders page. Cuz i was thinking, gee i just happened to browse the google page today, what if i hadnt? But big brother is watching.

"You had to live—did live, from habit that became instinct—in the assumption that every sound you made was overheard, and, except in darkness, every movement scrutinized.”

Do not google the company Palantir and their government contracts. Or their involvement with the NHS .

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Default Yesterday at 03:26 PM
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Tonight's 'grief group' session turned into a one-to-one.

The facilitator was very supportive and even commented on one of my distress tells.

'You're shaking your head - what's happening there?'

Maybe it's because I'm feeling the distance from R already, but I have already booked a session for next Sunday.

LT - the flameless candle idea was such a success. I bought one that is very similar to what I already use with R...and it came in handy when the facilitator offered the space to light a candle tonight.

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Default Yesterday at 03:33 PM
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A healthy human being should be able to manage more than one social thing in a day, right?

I'm attending a new-to-me online grief group tonight, where I won't know anyone.

This morning I went for a walk and then popped into a shop, where we ran into friends and ended up going for coffee. I could feel my social battery depleting by the second.

We sat there for an hour before the thought 'I need to get out of here' crossed my mind.
Shortly after that, we left.

Is this normal, or 'normal for someone who's going through a lot'?
Look up HSP. I find too much exposure to other people draining. It makes sense why you might need time to recharge.

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"A few Game of throne scenes were filmed there. So you could also dress up and take photos too."

Good lord -do people actually do this? I never watched Game of Thrones my person did for one or two shows. But why on earth would someone want to dress up and take photos if they were over the age of 10? Oh well to each their own as the old lady said wish she kissed the cow.

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Default Yesterday at 04:28 PM
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Thanks Cake,

I've never thought about looking at grief through the HSP lens...makes so much sense now.

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"A few Game of throne scenes were filmed there. So you could also dress up and take photos too."

Good lord -do people actually do this? I never watched Game of Thrones my person did for one or two shows. But why on earth would someone want to dress up and take photos if they were over the age of 10? Oh well to each their own as the old lady said wish she kissed the cow.
People do stuff like this all the time.

I was once passing through a Brony convention in Baltimore. It was a bit of a shock. Adult men stressed up as My Pretty Ponies.

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Tonight's 'grief group' session turned into a one-to-one.

The facilitator was very supportive and even commented on one of my distress tells.

'You're shaking your head - what's happening there?'

Maybe it's because I'm feeling the distance from R already, but I have already booked a session for next Sunday.

LT - the flameless candle idea was such a success. I bought one that is very similar to what I already use with R...and it came in handy when the facilitator offered the space to light a candle tonight.

Glad the candle was helpful! And that you'll be able to have a session with the facilitator Sunday.
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People do stuff like this all the time.

I was once passing through a Brony convention in Baltimore. It was a bit of a shock. Adult men stressed up as My Pretty Ponies.
Yeah I've seen that. On that one I'm more wondering how grown men even found out about my pretty ponies but I guess if that's your thing you find a group. Well again if somebody wants to do it I'm not trying to stop them. I would think however if you were going to dress up -it would be more like Boudica ( or Boadicea -spelling is always challenge ) -although I've never read or seen Game of Thrones so I have no idea what they dress up like. I mostly think of dress up things like the guy who lives in the basement and comes out for comic con. Although for some reason the guy in Japan who has had a full-size collie suit made for himself didn't really cause me to blink -I don't really know why except maybe because he's just an individual doing it better than it being some sort of organized activity where someone's making money off of it

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Default Yesterday at 08:35 PM
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Yep, never watched Game of Thrones here neither. I dont like shows or movies with big CGI flying monsters. Jurassic Park was cool because they werent made up, right?
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for me it's just I don't like violent dystopian TV shows. I honestly don't watch any shows with violence or even most dramas. Actually I don't watch a lot of stuff in general because reading is faster to get to the point. it makes me crazy actually when my colleagues make a video for students to watch because students like to watch videos. They're going to be in a reading profession so they need to read and write. I watched all of Bridgerton through YouTube clips- that way I can just watch the important parts and get rid of all the chaff. and by important parts I mean only the scenes with Simone Ashley in them.

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I was gonna ask if she was the chubby chick, but i just googled her instead. Yowza!

ETA - So i had a day today. New rule - i have to make a VISIBLE change in the orderliness of my home, every day. Today i took down recycles, got groceries, and peed.
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I think you mean Nicola Coughlan -she is very good and can be very funny. She was also in the Derry Girls. she was the wee lesbian

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