Couch 250: An August Couch

Jersey 4 · Oct 04, 2024 at 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

I'm feeling a little better this evening. I think it's because I'm officially starting the medical weight loss program tomorrow, going in for weight/measurements and labs. After that I'll have an appointment with a dr, then with the nutritionist. not sure how the mental health part of it works, but I'll find out soon. I'm ready to get started. Going it on my own has NOT been working.

The mental part of it will fall into place when you see change-I think. I know right now the big new thing is those Ozempic shots or whatever they are called but the lifestyle change still has to co-exist with it. It’s like with the lap band surgeries. I have a cousin who had it done. She lost some weight but not as much as she should have because every time she was hungry she still ate fast food. Just less of it.
Anyways-what am I on about? Ex-Hankster is the couch nutritionist now and exercise coach.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 04, 2024 at 07:35 AM

Hugs, Lost...

LostOnTheTrail · Oct 04, 2024 at 08:27 AM

Thanks so much, LT.

I feel as though we're constantly thinking about the students' needs (and that's how it should be) but there is little space to consider our own capacity as practitioners.

My colleagues seem to forget that I have a life outside of work, and more importantly that I don't drive...so I have to arrange transport to be able to fulfil my duties.

NP_Complete · Oct 04, 2024 at 10:10 AM

I'm feeling really down today. I don't think I'm going to find another therapist I connect with like I do with P. I'm really going to miss him when he's gone. I don't know how I'm supposed to do this. I know it's still 3 months away, but I'm dreading this so, so much.

LostOnTheTrail · Oct 04, 2024 at 10:14 AM

I'm sorry, NP.

It's another huge change, when you've already endured so much.
Knowing that it's out of your control doesn't help.

I hope you can find a therapist who can support you to the extent that you need.

Taking time in small increments is something that continues to help me.

I hope you can reach for distractions when it gets too much.

Take care,

Lost

LonesomeTonight · Oct 04, 2024 at 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I'm feeling really down today. I don't think I'm going to find another therapist I connect with like I do with P. I'm really going to miss him when he's gone. I don't know how I'm supposed to do this. I know it's still 3 months away, but I'm dreading this so, so much.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Hugs, if wanted. I know it will likely be impossible not to do, but try not to count down the days and sessions left. I tend to do things like that (not just with therapy--like the end of high school and college, too), and it doesn't help.

NP_Complete · Oct 04, 2024 at 12:26 PM

Since it's happening right after Christmas and avoiding Christmas is nearly impossible, it's like there's a built in reminder that it's coming whether I like it or not.

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 04, 2024 at 12:53 PM

Hugs, NP. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 04, 2024 at 01:01 PM

Back from step 1 in the medical weight loss program, labs/weight/bp/measurements. I'm actually excited to get started, I like the idea of having a team approach - doctor, nutritionist, and counselor all specialists in weight loss.

ScarletPimpernel · Oct 04, 2024 at 01:05 PM

I'm sorry you're having to go through this, NP. I totally resonate with an internal timer. It just adds more stress, but it's also a protective thing. Just your minds way of preparing you. I'm sorry you're struggling.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 04, 2024 at 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Since it's happening right after Christmas and avoiding Christmas is nearly impossible, it's like there's a built in reminder that it's coming whether I like it or not.

Ugh, yeah, that makes it worse. I'm sorry. And there tend to be countdowns to Christmas out there, too, like TV ads saying "x number of days."

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 04, 2024 at 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

good lord

It’s been a while since we got a good “good lord” out of sd.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 04, 2024 at 02:54 PM

Hugs, NP.

unaluna · Oct 04, 2024 at 03:20 PM

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It’s been a while since we got a good “good lord” out of sd.

Yeah

we aint been misbehavin'.

I actually got outside today, even took the bus home. Went to pick up prescriptions. Gorgeous day.

NP_Complete · Oct 04, 2024 at 04:24 PM

He's told me offers a hug on a last session. I want to hug him but I feel so ugly because of my weight issues. I will regret not hugging him but I will feel so ashamed if I do. It feels like a lose-lose situation. How can I get comfortable enough in my body in three months to give him a hug?

East17 · Oct 04, 2024 at 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

He's told me offers a hug on a last session. I want to hug him but I feel so ugly because of my weight issues. I will regret not hugging him but I will feel so ashamed if I do. It feels like a lose-lose situation. How can I get comfortable enough in my body in three months to give him a hug?

"I will regret not hugging him..... " Yes you will. This may be the only chance you get. Don't let your inner critic take it away from you.

I totally get being hung up on feeling ashamed due to one's looks, but your T doesn't care about what you look like on the outside, he sees and cares about the wonderful person underneath.

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ScarletPimpernel · Oct 04, 2024 at 05:49 PM

NP, he wouldn't have mentioned it to you if he didn't want to hug you. He's okay with it. You deserve a hug no matter your physical appearance!

unaluna · Oct 04, 2024 at 06:13 PM

I hate that last session hug! I dont understand it. Am i all of a sudden a different person? If hugging wasnt part of our relationship all along, how can you just tack it on at the end?

I think my problem is more the dearth of any warmth or bodily contact between parent and child when i was growing up. My dad ONCE told my mother to hold my hand for a photograph in the backyard in front of his blooming peony bushes, and the witch scratched me. No more hand holdy pics after that one.

atisketatasket · Oct 04, 2024 at 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

It’s been a while since we got a good “good lord” out of sd.

Used to be we could get three acks in a row too.

Clearly ex hankster and I are losing our touch,

LonesomeTonight · Oct 04, 2024 at 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

NP, he wouldn't have mentioned it to you if he didn't want to hug you. He's okay with it. You deserve a hug no matter your physical appearance!

I agree with this.

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 21,620 (SuperPoster!) 9 76.2k hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 07:35 AM #602 Hugs, Lost...

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,874 7 6,413 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 10:10 AM #604 I'm feeling really down today. I don't think I'm going to find another therapist I connect with like I do with P. I'm really going to miss him when he's gone. I don't know how I'm supposed to do this. I know it's still 3 months away, but I'm dreading this so, so much.

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,874 7 6,413 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 12:26 PM #607 Since it's happening right after Christmas and avoiding Christmas is nearly impossible, it's like there's a built in reminder that it's coming whether I like it or not.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,605 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,020 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 12:53 PM #608 Hugs, NP. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,605 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,020 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 01:01 PM #609 Back from step 1 in the medical weight loss program, labs/weight/bp/measurements. I'm actually excited to get started, I like the idea of having a team approach - doctor, nutritionist, and counselor all specialists in weight loss.

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,743 (SuperPoster!) 11 7,264 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 01:05 PM #610 I'm sorry you're having to go through this, NP. I totally resonate with an internal timer. It just adds more stress, but it's also a protective thing. Just your minds way of preparing you. I'm sorry you're struggling. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,369 7 15.7k hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 02:54 PM #613 Hugs, NP. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,874 7 6,413 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 04:24 PM #615 He's told me offers a hug on a last session. I want to hug him but I feel so ugly because of my weight issues. I will regret not hugging him but I will feel so ashamed if I do. It feels like a lose-lose situation. How can I get comfortable enough in my body in three months to give him a hug?

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,743 (SuperPoster!) 11 7,264 hugs given	Oct 04, 2024 at 05:49 PM #617 NP, he wouldn't have mentioned it to you if he didn't want to hug you. He's okay with it. You deserve a hug no matter your physical appearance! __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica