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Child of a lesser god
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Oct 19, 2024 at 03:12 PM
#781
I learned just now that a New Zealand airport has limited hug time. To 3 minutes. I consider 30 seconds a long hug. I don’t think I would survive 3.
Airport introduces time limit on hugs | CNN Even though I feel lousy, I’m glad I got the shots over with. Better to be sick once than three times. |
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underdog is here
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Oct 19, 2024 at 03:15 PM
#782
I don't think I've ever hugged anybody for three minutes -good god.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Location: Milan/Michigan
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Oct 19, 2024 at 04:06 PM
#783
Things that make us cranky:
3 minute hugs Shingles I mean, isnt that a minute more than your usual marriage uh "encounter"? An thats another thing that makes us cranky! |
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Oct 19, 2024 at 04:42 PM
#784
There's a flash from the past- to initiate a three-minute hug daily was first t's first therapy homework assignment to the ex when we started marriage counseling. (Which he did not do then blamed me.)
Mine was to let myself cry in the shower. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Child of a lesser god
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Oct 19, 2024 at 06:39 PM
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Human Feeling
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
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Oct 20, 2024 at 07:28 AM
#786
Couch Workout Club day 79
A short walk around the block this morning due to wind and threatening rain. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Oct 20, 2024 at 08:16 AM
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Child of a lesser god
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Oct 20, 2024 at 09:29 PM
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Human Feeling
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Oct 21, 2024 at 06:00 AM
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Couch Workout Club day 80
Some light yoga and a quick walk around town. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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Oct 21, 2024 at 06:21 AM
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Agreed. H and I are fans of two different teams that both made the playoffs but didn't make it to the World Series (his got further than mine, so I'd have rooted for them). Even if another team that was an underdog had made it, it would have given me someone to root for. But not worth watching now... |
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Roses are falling.
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Oct 21, 2024 at 11:30 AM
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Forbes said we need 8 hugs a day for maintenance and 12 hugs for growth.
Are You Getting Enough Hugs? Three mins sounds excessive. __________________ 
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Oct 21, 2024 at 12:26 PM
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But yeah, 3 mins is time to get a room! |
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2019
Location: Toodlepip
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Oct 21, 2024 at 12:38 PM
#793
Who do people hug? Apart from partners, although I rarely hug mine so that's not a given. Is 8 hugs a day from one person realistic? Equally, do people know 2,3,4 people who they would hug multiple times every day? I can't make sense of how this would pan out, never mind for 12 hugs. Oh I just read the article and apparently 4 hugs a day is necessary for survival. Some of us would be driven to absolute distraction by 4 hugs a day. I think Virginia Satir must have had a very particular take on the human condition.
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Human Feeling
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Oct 21, 2024 at 12:58 PM
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I misread that question at first.
I don't think eight hugs a day from one person is realistic. Some people are extremely touch-averse and would be negatively impacted by hugging to any extent. I think there are other methods of soothing touch which can suffice when a hug is not readily available or desired. On especially hard days, I lean into Peter Levine's self-hug technique. Cross the right arm over the left, until your left hand is almost touching your right shoulder. Hold the position until you feel a shift. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Oct 21, 2024 at 01:13 PM
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I could see a child receiving 12 hugs a day. 4 at bedtimes and get ups, 4 at meals, then its just 4 at other interactions, like home returns, games, chores, whatever.
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Grand Poohbah
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Oct 21, 2024 at 01:28 PM
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Oh yes, good point. I had forgotten that children exist.
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Always in This Twilight
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Oct 21, 2024 at 01:46 PM
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That does seem like an excessive number of hugs. My H and I also rarely hug. And D isn't into hugs. I mean, I'll hug my parents in greeting and leaving when I see them about once a month. Trying to recall how much I hugged as a kid...don't think it was particularly often? Like, not 4 times a day. |
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Wise Elder
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Oct 21, 2024 at 02:17 PM
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Touch is my love language, but there's only a couple of people I like it from. The rest I put up with because it's a formality.
I rarely get hugs except for formalities. I get maybe a hug or two a week from H at most. But we do cuddle once or twice a week. I get the most hugs from L: hello and goodbye. But we also hold hands every session. I know research has shown that touch is extremely important especially to babies and to elderly. But we often forget it's important for adults too. But a specific number of hugs... I couldn't and wouldn't want it. There used to be hug clinics? where you could go and hug or cuddle with a person. I wouldn't do massages from a stranger let alone get a hug or cuddle! __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Oct 21, 2024 at 02:37 PM
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A comic OTOH says funny things. |
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Grand Magnate
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Oct 21, 2024 at 03:55 PM
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It's funny that I was just thinking that my therapist must hate me because the last thing I wrote to him in my journal was about this impending last session hug. Then I open up the Couch and you're talking about hugs.
He probably doesn't hate me. It's just that he's on vacation this week and writing about the hug thing felt very vulnerable to me. He might think I'm a weirdo though. I had a list of about 5 concerns I had about the hug including that I'd seriously regret not hugging him and that I don't think I can hug him because of shame. Talk about conflicting feelings. If 4 hugs a day were required for survival, I'd have been dead long ago. I think I've had one hug this year. |
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