Couch 250: An August Couch

unaluna · Nov 03, 2024 at 10:32 PM

Geez. They should at least have drawn the curtains. Not much of a view that night. Geez.

atisketatasket · Nov 03, 2024 at 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Geez. They should at least have drawn the curtains. Not much of a view that night. Geez.

No curtains.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 04, 2024 at 06:14 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Trigger warning for sui:

Possible trigger:

Had a guest speaker here last week. Went to meet her at her hotel her last night here for a farewell drink and dinner. Walk up. Police all over. Cr8me scene tape and tent. Rooftop bar where we were to meet was closed. Someone had jumped from there about an hour before. Sounded like it was a student.

What really got me was that with the rooftop bar closed, the hotel was serving drinks and dinner in the restaurant area, which looked right out onto the crime scene tent. *And people were sitting there drinking and chatting.* (We went elsewhere.)

That's really awful. I can't imagine people just continuing to eat and chat like nothing had happened.

Jersey 4 · Nov 04, 2024 at 06:49 AM

Was anyone else up almost all night? There might be a door knob sized hole in my bathroom wall from slamming the door open last night when H pissed me off. I ran to Home Depot stupid early this AM to buy a little drywall repair kit and I’ll patch it tonight when I get home from work. I think I need to leave the house for a few days. I might go stay with my sister. I don’t want to stay with my mom because she only lives a few doors down from me. While my sister is close by she’s not walking distance. My work day is going to be non stop because the 5 year old in my care is off school all week. There is a 2 day teacher convention in this area but somehow this resulted in school being closed all week this week. She needs to be kept busy or she bounces off the walls.

Jersey 4 · Nov 04, 2024 at 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

That's really awful. I can't imagine people just continuing to eat and chat like nothing had happened.

Isn’t a sad world we live in where people care so little about others? Like “Oh! Look what happened! Anyway who wants to order dessert?”

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 04, 2024 at 07:35 AM

If more people cared openly, chances are fewer people would reach that point.

People need people most in their darkest moments.

Thanks for the TW, @@.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 04, 2024 at 07:41 AM

Couch Workout Club day 93

(and the message...)

Walked around town for an hour.

stopdog · 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Isn’t a sad world we live in where people care so little about others? Like “Oh! Look what happened! Anyway who wants to order dessert?”

"That's really awful. I can't imagine people just continuing to eat and chat like nothing had happened."

What else would you have them do? I really don't understand what, other than in a general sense of "that is too bad", any random stranger could do. Why would that be, for anyone who did not know the person, their tragedy? I know that I am on the end of the range in terms of how I see death including suicide - and I agree for the people who knew and loved the person - they certainly have a loss (but I don't see death by suicide as different from any other death - I don't find it more or less tragic as a concept). I don't see the point of random strangers going whole John Donne bell tolling over it.

unaluna · Nov 04, 2024 at 10:34 AM

SD - THATS what i said - "geez²."

Boy you lawyers like to talk.

Seriously, well put. Esp the donne ref.

Lemoncake · 01:43 PM

I was on my way to a therapy session with Rob back in maybe 2017/2018. I was 30 mins late to the session, arriving with 20 mins of it left because they had closed the Victoria line for that same reason. People on the train and platform complained about the delay.

Most people only care more if it affects them personally which goes for most things.

Edit: Perhaps concern would have been a better word.

Lemoncake · Nov 04, 2024 at 01:25 PM

Not to minimize the topic, but I was going to post this link for Art previously. Just easy, recipes using with 10 ingredients or less.

Roasted Eggplant (Easy Recipe) - Wholesome Yum

LonesomeTonight · Nov 04, 2024 at 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Was anyone else up almost all night? There might be a door knob sized hole in my bathroom wall from slamming the door open last night when H pissed me off. I ran to Home Depot stupid early this AM to buy a little drywall repair kit and I’ll patch it tonight when I get home from work. I think I need to leave the house for a few days. I might go stay with my sister. I don’t want to stay with my mom because she only lives a few doors down from me. While my sister is close by she’s not walking distance. My work day is going to be non stop because the 5 year old in my care is off school all week. There is a 2 day teacher convention in this area but somehow this resulted in school being closed all week this week. She needs to be kept busy or she bounces off the walls.

Ugh, I'm sorry. Sounds like it could help you to leave the house for a bit. School might be closed tomorrow for the election, if they use schools as polling places in your area (my daughter's is closed). So if it was going to be three days anyway, maybe they figured they'd just do the whole week? Though I imagine they'll also be closed most of Thanksgiving week (we have two half-days, closed the other three).

Assuming you'll also be having decent (and unseasonably warm) weather this week, at least outside activities could be an option with the kid.

Hope you're able to get some sleep tonight..

stopdog · 01:55 PM

Actually my point was not about caring one way or the other.
I think over reaction on the part of those who are not part of the tragedy is wrong. Of course one would do something if there is something to do that would help but, as most times there is nothing outsiders can do that will actually help the tragedy, I find it to be an overstepping sense of entitlement and even emotional indulgence to glom on to a tragedy that is not yours. I actually find it disrespectful to those that are part of the tragedy and it seems to me to be a giant self -indulgence on the part of the outsider to try and claim a piece of it.
(I am not talking about going to a different restaurant which to me seems a response that would make sense on several levels)
Again I ask what could others have done that would make an actual difference. If nothing - then going on about their lives is the only rational response as far as I can see.

Lemoncake · Nov 04, 2024 at 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Was anyone else up almost all night? There might be a door knob sized hole in my bathroom wall from slamming the door open last night when H pissed me off. I ran to Home Depot stupid early this AM to buy a little drywall repair kit and I’ll patch it tonight when I get home from work. I think I need to leave the house for a few days. I might go stay with my sister. I don’t want to stay with my mom because she only lives a few doors down from me. While my sister is close by she’s not walking distance. My work day is going to be non stop because the 5 year old in my care is off school all week. There is a 2 day teacher convention in this area but somehow this resulted in school being closed all week this week. She needs to be kept busy or she bounces off the walls.

It sounds like it was a rough night, and you’ve got a long week ahead with that closure. It does seem like a good time to take some space and stay with your sister to reset for a bit.It's good you're tackling the wall before it gets worse.

Maybe you could encourage her to make a house with playing cards. Given her age that might take her a while to get them to stand.

If you have the space let her make a den and hopefully fall asleep reading to herself inside.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 04, 2024 at 06:34 PM

RC checked in with me about an hour ago.
I retract the harsh words I shared before.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 04, 2024 at 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Not to minimize the topic, but I was going to post this link for Art previously. Just easy, recipes using with 10 ingredients or less.

Roasted Eggplant (Easy Recipe) - Wholesome Yum

Thanks Lemon. I actually really like eggplant. I'm checking out the link now.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 05, 2024 at 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

RC checked in with me about an hour ago.
I retract the harsh words I shared before.

I'm glad she checked in with you. Hope it helped some.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 05, 2024 at 10:19 AM

Holy cats,

Explaining all this to R is going to take some doing.
Because I found The Grievery over the summer, I didn't tell her about it.
I want to talk about what happened, but I don't know how to explain that I'm also attending those sessions.

Today has been a day, so the Couch Workout Club will resume tomorrow.

NP_Complete · Nov 05, 2024 at 02:04 PM

It's election day in the US. The nerves are jangling. I wonder if we're going to get our first woman president?

LonesomeTonight · Nov 05, 2024 at 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

It's election day in the US. The nerves are jangling. I wonder if we're going to get our first woman president?

My nerves are jangling away, too. And I doubt there will be a clear winner tonight. Possibly tomorrow? Though if it's as close as polls are suggesting, it could come down to recounts. Sigh...

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,945 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.9k hugs given	Nov 03, 2024 at 10:32 PM #901 Geez. They should at least have drawn the curtains. Not much of a view that night. Geez.
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,945 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.9k hugs given	Nov 04, 2024 at 10:34 AM #909 SD - THATS what i said - "geez²." Boy you lawyers like to talk. Seriously, well put. Esp the donne ref.
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Lemoncake Roses are falling. Member Since May 2017 Location: Seattle. Posts: 9,955 (SuperPoster!) 7 10.5k hugs given	Nov 04, 2024 at 01:25 PM #911 Not to minimize the topic, but I was going to post this link for Art previously. Just easy, recipes using with 10 ingredients or less. Roasted Eggplant (Easy Recipe) - Wholesome Yum __________________
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NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,874 7 6,412 hugs given	Nov 05, 2024 at 02:04 PM #919 It's election day in the US. The nerves are jangling. I wonder if we're going to get our first woman president?
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