Couch 250: An August Couch

Lemoncake · Nov 11, 2024 at 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Lemon, I cried a little at that. Breaking up is stupid and hard. Thank you, dear. You have a kind gentle soul.

I am in the did-I-make-a-stupid-mistake??? phase. Best advice art t gave me- Tell your friends. No secrets or covering like last time. Tell your besties everything so they can be your "nope, that's not normal, girlfriend" while you re-learn your own intuition. So now when I want to call bicycle guy and suggest pretending that never happened, I text them instead. So far they say some version of "Nope. don't do it. Not a mistake."

It's good to have a trusted circle of friends who can be your reality check and remind you of your own worth. Trusting yourself and your instincts will take time to rebuild. Keep leaning on the friends; they seem like a great group who can be an anchor for you when things feel uncertain. Remember, the urge to smooth things over or backtrack is normal, but it doesn’t mean you’re making a mistake by sticking to your values.

I would also suggest writing letters/ messages to him that you don't send.

Try to take it day by day and moment by moment. You can and you will get through this.

Lemoncake · Nov 11, 2024 at 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

That sounds great! I was bereft when i stopped working. I think your brain doesnt understand what happened! I was working in my sleep for YEARS after. Always late filling out my timecards! It was the worst! Thats probably why they have retirement parties. And funerals!

I read an article about this today. People regretting retiring early at 55. I think part time is a good balance if you're not ready to stop.

‘Retiring at 55 was the biggest mistake of my life’

Lemoncake · Nov 11, 2024 at 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Hi Couch,

I had another griefquake this morning.
Turns out there's one particular song that always works, and it was next up on Spotify...

As a result, I am the ache once again.

Feelings are hard,

Lost

Do you have spotify premium?

I would create a new playlist so you don't get triggered expectantly.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 11, 2024 at 04:17 PM

Thanks, Cake.

I don't have Spotify Premium, although the adverts drive me to distraction.
I have a strange relationship with that song, because I enjoy it and it brings things up.

Hope you are having a decent day,

Lost

ArtleyWilkins · Nov 12, 2024 at 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I read an article about this today. People regretting retiring early at 55. I think part time is a good balance if you're not ready to stop.

‘Retiring at 55 was the biggest mistake of my life’

I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 12, 2024 at 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

Congrats! Sounds like you've very much earned that retirement.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 12, 2024 at 05:06 PM

Congratulations, Artley!

I'm tentatively planning to retire in about 3 years, at 65.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 13, 2024 at 11:42 AM

Hi Couch,

Lost my flow with the Couch Workout Club, but I got my steps in today.

Hope today is treating you well.

Lost

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 14, 2024 at 09:10 AM

Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....

LonesomeTonight · Nov 14, 2024 at 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....

Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry. I hope he recovers soon and you can avoid catching it. If it's still warm enough there, open windows. Try to both mask if you're in common areas. And sleep separately. That worked when I had it last year (kept D and H from getting it).

Could Paxlovid be an option for him?

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 14, 2024 at 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry. I hope he recovers soon and you can avoid catching it. If it's still warm enough there, open windows. Try to both mask if you're in common areas. And sleep separately. That worked when I had it last year (kept D and H from getting it).

Could Paxlovid be an option for him?

Thanks LT.

I talked to dr's office this morning and asked, hopefully they decide it is and call in an Rx. Unfortunately, I didn't know he was so sick last night - he got home at like midnight - so I was next to him in bed all night. But, until he's better I'm camping out on the couch. That kept me from getting it last time. I just went and curbside pickup'd some gatorade for him while I'm on lunch. I'm assuming this is why he was feeling so miserable the other day, he was probably already coming down with it. I dunno.

NovaBlaze · Nov 14, 2024 at 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

That’s an impressive career - well done. I’m trying to imagine all of the young people you will have helped over that length of time. You’ve certainly earned your retirement.

I was lucky enough to be able to retire in January, and I just can’t believe how quickly the time has gone. I don’t miss the work, but I do miss the people - even though I still see them reasonably regularly as most of them were friends as well as colleagues.

The one thing that did surprise me is that I’ve still had to work hard to sustain good mental health. More time on my hands has sometimes turned into more time to focus on negative thought patterns - especially around health anxiety and getting older. That said, i don’t regret the decision.

ChickenNoodleSoup · Nov 14, 2024 at 04:51 PM

Flipper continues to amaze me with his huge arsenal of skill related things. I started to dissociate today and he was able to just pull out a box of different sensory related skills. Though I went for the very first one, squeezing a spiky ball. He's also gentle about his approach for the most part, and especially willing to learn.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 14, 2024 at 05:17 PM

That's brilliant, CNS!

I'm glad that Flipper can support you so well in that specific aspect.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 14, 2024 at 05:35 PM

Just checked in with the dr's office, they don't want to prescribe the paxlovid because he also takes xarelto, and there's a major interaction between them. They don't want to prescribe anything actually because he said he was already starting to feel better today, mostly is just extremely tired. told us to treat it like a bad cold with otc stuff and stay hydrated.

Lemoncake · 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Just checked in with the dr's office, they don't want to prescribe the paxlovid because he also takes xarelto, and there's a major interaction between them. They don't want to prescribe anything actually because he said he was already starting to feel better today, mostly is just extremely tired. told us to treat it like a bad cold with otc stuff and stay hydrated.

Wishing your husband a speedy recovery art.

Try to take extra care of yourself too. Do you have any tumeric and ginger at home- maybe you could make a tea or add the tumeric to milk.

10 Benefits of Golden (Turmeric) Milk and How to Make It

If it's not too woo you can also pray for healing for him.

Lemoncake · Nov 14, 2024 at 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup

Flipper continues to amaze me with his huge arsenal of skill related things. I started to dissociate today and he was able to just pull out a box of different sensory related skills. Though I went for the very first one, squeezing a spiky ball. He's also gentle about his approach for the most part, and especially willing to learn.

What's the backstory about his nickname?

The movie comes up for me.

WarmFuzzySocks · 02:11 AM

Things I have put in motion now that bicycle guy will not grump at me...

Sing in community choir with one of my besties
Game night at my best bestie's on Thursdays
And...get a dog! I am driving to the next state north to meet a sweet young dog next weekend. He looks like a blond version of the Very Best Dog who died in 2020.

LostOnTheTrail · Yesterday at 02:45 AM

So glad that bicycle guy cannot grump at you, WFS.

Singing sounds especially good.

I hope the meeting with the dog goes well.

ArtieTheSequal · Yesterday at 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Wishing your husband a speedy recovery art.

Try to take extra care of yourself too. Do you have any tumeric and ginger at home- maybe you could make a tea or add the tumeric to milk.

10 Benefits of Golden (Turmeric) Milk and How to Make It

If it's not too woo you can also pray for healing for him.

Thanks Lemon. I do have ginger. It would be good in a cup of hot tea I bet! He's been sleeping pretty much all the time since he got home late Wednesday night. He wakes up just long enough to drink some gatorade and go to the bathroom. (I'm making sure he stays hydrated.) This morning he's actually sitting up eating breakfast, so I think he's on the mend. It hasn't been a problem this go-around with keeping him isolated, since he's just so tired all he wants to do is sleep. Last time he had it, he kept insisting on coming out in the house. This time is definitely worse than when he had it the first time.

I am taking care of me... keeping myself hydrated, getting out and walking, wearing a mask every time I enter the room, that sort of stuff. And I've got my little 'camp' set up in the livingroom until he's done with the 5 days of isolation (assuming he no longer has a fever of course).

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,604 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,018 hugs given	Nov 12, 2024 at 05:06 PM #987 Congratulations, Artley! I'm tentatively planning to retire in about 3 years, at 65.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,604 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,018 hugs given	Nov 14, 2024 at 09:10 AM #989 Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....

ChickenNoodleSoup Grand Poohbah Member Since Apr 2017 Location: In a land far far away Posts: 1,650 7 1,336 hugs given	Nov 14, 2024 at 04:51 PM #993 Flipper continues to amaze me with his huge arsenal of skill related things. I started to dissociate today and he was able to just pull out a box of different sensory related skills. Though I went for the very first one, squeezing a spiky ball. He's also gentle about his approach for the most part, and especially willing to learn.