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Lemon, I cried a little at that. Breaking up is stupid and hard. Thank you, dear. You have a kind gentle soul.

I am in the did-I-make-a-stupid-mistake??? phase. Best advice art t gave me- Tell your friends. No secrets or covering like last time. Tell your besties everything so they can be your "nope, that's not normal, girlfriend" while you re-learn your own intuition. So now when I want to call bicycle guy and suggest pretending that never happened, I text them instead. So far they say some version of "Nope. don't do it. Not a mistake."


It's good to have a trusted circle of friends who can be your reality check and remind you of your own worth. Trusting yourself and your instincts will take time to rebuild. Keep leaning on the friends; they seem like a great group who can be an anchor for you when things feel uncertain. Remember, the urge to smooth things over or backtrack is normal, but it doesn’t mean you’re making a mistake by sticking to your values.

I would also suggest writing letters/ messages to him that you don't send.

Try to take it day by day and moment by moment. You can and you will get through this.

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That sounds great! I was bereft when i stopped working. I think your brain doesnt understand what happened! I was working in my sleep for YEARS after. Always late filling out my timecards! It was the worst! Thats probably why they have retirement parties. And funerals!
I read an article about this today. People regretting retiring early at 55. I think part time is a good balance if you're not ready to stop.

‘Retiring at 55 was the biggest mistake of my life’

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Hi Couch,

I had another griefquake this morning.
Turns out there's one particular song that always works, and it was next up on Spotify...

As a result, I am the ache once again.

Feelings are hard,

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Do you have spotify premium?

I would create a new playlist so you don't get triggered expectantly.

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Thanks, Cake.

I don't have Spotify Premium, although the adverts drive me to distraction.
I have a strange relationship with that song, because I enjoy it and it brings things up.

Hope you are having a decent day,

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I read an article about this today. People regretting retiring early at 55. I think part time is a good balance if you're not ready to stop.

‘Retiring at 55 was the biggest mistake of my life’
I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.
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I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

Congrats! Sounds like you've very much earned that retirement.
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Congratulations, Artley!

I'm tentatively planning to retire in about 3 years, at 65.
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Hi Couch,

Lost my flow with the Couch Workout Club, but I got my steps in today.

Hope today is treating you well.

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Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....
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Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....

Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry. I hope he recovers soon and you can avoid catching it. If it's still warm enough there, open windows. Try to both mask if you're in common areas. And sleep separately. That worked when I had it last year (kept D and H from getting it).


Could Paxlovid be an option for him?
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