Couch 250: An August Couch

Lemoncake · Nov 11, 2024 at 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Lemon, I cried a little at that. Breaking up is stupid and hard. Thank you, dear. You have a kind gentle soul.

I am in the did-I-make-a-stupid-mistake??? phase. Best advice art t gave me- Tell your friends. No secrets or covering like last time. Tell your besties everything so they can be your "nope, that's not normal, girlfriend" while you re-learn your own intuition. So now when I want to call bicycle guy and suggest pretending that never happened, I text them instead. So far they say some version of "Nope. don't do it. Not a mistake."

It's good to have a trusted circle of friends who can be your reality check and remind you of your own worth. Trusting yourself and your instincts will take time to rebuild. Keep leaning on the friends; they seem like a great group who can be an anchor for you when things feel uncertain. Remember, the urge to smooth things over or backtrack is normal, but it doesn’t mean you’re making a mistake by sticking to your values.

I would also suggest writing letters/ messages to him that you don't send.

Try to take it day by day and moment by moment. You can and you will get through this.

Lemoncake · Nov 11, 2024 at 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

That sounds great! I was bereft when i stopped working. I think your brain doesnt understand what happened! I was working in my sleep for YEARS after. Always late filling out my timecards! It was the worst! Thats probably why they have retirement parties. And funerals!

I read an article about this today. People regretting retiring early at 55. I think part time is a good balance if you're not ready to stop.

‘Retiring at 55 was the biggest mistake of my life’

Lemoncake · Nov 11, 2024 at 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Hi Couch,

I had another griefquake this morning.
Turns out there's one particular song that always works, and it was next up on Spotify...

As a result, I am the ache once again.

Feelings are hard,

Lost

Do you have spotify premium?

I would create a new playlist so you don't get triggered expectantly.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 11, 2024 at 04:17 PM

Thanks, Cake.

I don't have Spotify Premium, although the adverts drive me to distraction.
I have a strange relationship with that song, because I enjoy it and it brings things up.

Hope you are having a decent day,

Lost

ArtleyWilkins · Nov 12, 2024 at 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I read an article about this today. People regretting retiring early at 55. I think part time is a good balance if you're not ready to stop.

‘Retiring at 55 was the biggest mistake of my life’

I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 12, 2024 at 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

Congrats! Sounds like you've very much earned that retirement.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 12, 2024 at 05:06 PM

Congratulations, Artley!

I'm tentatively planning to retire in about 3 years, at 65.

LostOnTheTrail · Yesterday at 11:42 AM

Hi Couch,

Lost my flow with the Couch Workout Club, but I got my steps in today.

Hope today is treating you well.

Lost

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 09:10 AM

Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....

LonesomeTonight · Today at 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Ugh. H got home late last night, sick as a dog, went straight to bed. Tested positive for covid a few minutes ago....

Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry. I hope he recovers soon and you can avoid catching it. If it's still warm enough there, open windows. Try to both mask if you're in common areas. And sleep separately. That worked when I had it last year (kept D and H from getting it).

Could Paxlovid be an option for him?

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry. I hope he recovers soon and you can avoid catching it. If it's still warm enough there, open windows. Try to both mask if you're in common areas. And sleep separately. That worked when I had it last year (kept D and H from getting it).

Could Paxlovid be an option for him?

Thanks LT.

I talked to dr's office this morning and asked, hopefully they decide it is and call in an Rx. Unfortunately, I didn't know he was so sick last night - he got home at like midnight - so I was next to him in bed all night. But, until he's better I'm camping out on the couch. That kept me from getting it last time. I just went and curbside pickup'd some gatorade for him while I'm on lunch. I'm assuming this is why he was feeling so miserable the other day, he was probably already coming down with it. I dunno.

NovaBlaze · Today at 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

I am retiring at the end of this school year. 40 years of teaching. I’m absolutely ready. I’ll be 62.

That’s an impressive career - well done. I’m trying to imagine all of the young people you will have helped over that length of time. You’ve certainly earned your retirement.

I was lucky enough to be able to retire in January, and I just can’t believe how quickly the time has gone. I don’t miss the work, but I do miss the people - even though I still see them reasonably regularly as most of them were friends as well as colleagues.

The one thing that did surprise me is that I’ve still had to work hard to sustain good mental health. More time on my hands has sometimes turned into more time to focus on negative thought patterns - especially around health anxiety and getting older. That said, i don’t regret the decision.

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,597 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,011 hugs given	Nov 12, 2024 at 05:06 PM #987 Congratulations, Artley! I'm tentatively planning to retire in about 3 years, at 65.
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