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Always in This Twilight
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#161
Hugs, Scarlet. I'm sorry it's not getting better.
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#162
Things will L has gotten worse. Now it seems like she's pushing me towards leaving.
I had another phone call with T. She said two options are I take a break now for like a month and then work with her for 5 months or to wait for 6 months and then take a break when she goes on her leave. Those aren't the only options, just 2 she provided me. T thinks I should keep trying with L. She does think the problem lies with my reactivity, but also L and the choices she's making. Like today. L and I were talking through text and email and then she ended the conversation by saying we'll talk about it in session. I am struggling so much. It's affecting my memory so bad. I don't remember conversations with L. I also can't even remember what I did yesterday. When people remind me, I remember. But otherwise, I'm blank. How can you give up on a 5 year relationship? That's what I want to know. How do you let go? I sometimes feel like I'm in an abusive relationship and both of us are stuck. We keep trying, but failing. I have session today. I'm not looking forward to it. I don't even want to talk to her. I technically shouldn't go because I'm extremely tired and won't be safe to drive. I feel like I'm obligated to go. I really hate L right now. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Writing my way through...
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#163
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I wish I knew what to say that would help. I just wanted to empathize and show a little solidarity. I wish you all the best in this difficult situation. |
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#164
To me the situation doesn't sound good. It seems her things and yours are getting mixed up, and that's not the point of therapy at all, it should be about you. I don't know how else to put it.
For reference with my T and his illness: he's said some people can't take it and just leave. Most others accept it and we work on it sometimes, but it's not most of our session at all. I am glad I have flipper to talk to about more regular life things. But while some things like my abandonment fears get triggered by Ts situation, it's something he takes in and gives back to me as helpful takes and lessons for me. To me it doesn't sound like that's happening with L and you. It doesn't even sound like she manages to get you regulated enough to remember the sessions, that doesn't seem to useful to me... Thinking of you! |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#165
Maybe a good start would be closing this thread and starting a new one with a less explosive title.
I find it upsetting myself, i cant imagine how you feel to be constantly reminded of it. I know being reminded or not doesnt CHANGE things, but what is the point of purposely re-traumatizing? Its like getting your car stuck in sand or snow - the point is to get yourself out. Figuring it out is how growth happens, not digging yourself in deeper and deeper. And yes, i can (and probably will) put this thread on ignore. |
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