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Today at 03:04 PM
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How do you ask for more support?
I know I can contact T outside of session. She is always great at responding and saying the right things. But when something difficult comes up, I can struggle with feeling abandoned in it over the next few days and it really affects me badly. It’s like I get triggered because I think I’ve been left in it. What i need is to be able to reach out and express this and receive reassurance that she has not abandoned me. I hate how needy this makes me but I think it makes me really resistant around difficult things because I can’t handle being left in it afterward and it limits what we can talk about. Basically what I want to know is this an acceptable thing to ask for or is it pathetically needy? I’ve never reached out for something so needy before |
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Today at 03:26 PM
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It is okay to ask for what you need. Are you in a DBT group?
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Today at 03:29 PM
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Needy or a need?
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Today at 03:36 PM
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No I’m not in a DBT group
But is this an ok thing to need? I dont want to be high maintenance or clingy. But I can’t feel safe while this keeps happening. |
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Today at 04:33 PM
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Hi Ana,
I'm sorry you're struggling with this. What does 'more support' mean to you? A few years ago I asked R to write a couple of messages on post-it notes, a few months apart. It took a lot for me to request them, but they helped at the time. I'm currently trying to figure out what I need from R in order to feel safe with her again after the carnage over the summer. Understanding what 'more support' means for you (not expecting you to answer here) may help you work out what is OK to need. Hope that helps, Lost __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Today at 10:46 PM
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I'm probably not the best one to answer, but I think being reassured that she isn't abandoning you is an okay thing to ask.
I used to ask L all the time. Now, I'm pretty sure she's not going to abandon me and I rarely ever ask. That is one of the few things I trust her on right now. Asking for reassurances has helped me with my fear of abandonment. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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