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Default Oct 03, 2024 at 01:42 PM
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My therapist for some reason thinks we can work out on our treadmills together during virtual sessions and today she called me her "accountibilty buddy." Which I found weird.

Is this crossing a boundary and should I be concerned?

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Default Oct 03, 2024 at 03:46 PM
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Hi MD,

I can't believe she's still on the treadmill thing.
There is no way a therapist should consider a client an 'accountability buddy' for anything.

It's on the therapist to guide the client towards achieving their goals, not the other way around.

'I'm paying for your time, and I would appreciate it if your focus was on me during our sessions.'

It's on her to manage her schedule so that she has time to exercise if that is important to her.

You have every right to say something if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Take care,

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Default Oct 03, 2024 at 05:27 PM
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Hi MD,

I can't believe she's still on the treadmill thing.
There is no way a therapist should consider a client an 'accountability buddy' for anything.

It's on the therapist to guide the client towards achieving their goals, not the other way around.

'I'm paying for your time, and I would appreciate it if your focus was on me during our sessions.'

It's on her to manage her schedule so that she has time to exercise if that is important to her.

You have every right to say something if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Take care,

Lost

I agree with all of this.


The one way I feel it would be OK is if, say, you, as the client, MountainDewed, said you were having trouble getting motivated to exercise, say. And your T offered to exercise with you. So that it would be about you. This sounds like it's about her.
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Default Oct 03, 2024 at 07:18 PM
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gross. she has weak boundaries

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