Just for fun --- What do you wear to T?

jeans, sneakers, nice tee or blouse. Light make-up. I just like to look fresh and clean. I'm a casual person. Only like to dress up for special occassions. I'm more interested in our conversation and if helps me any to be able to use what he say. I do find him attractive, we are close in age but I think to myself, it is ridiculous he is my T/pdoc. So, I enjoy the view but concentrate more on what he is saying.

Nothing special. Something comforatable so my clothes aren't a distracton.

I usually have time after work to wash my face and put on fresh make-up. Change clothes if I need to, and go.

T has a huge wardcrobe and I'm always curious what she will be wearing. She mush have a house with 50 closets, no kidding. Lovely clothes.

I always built in enough time leaving work so I could stop at home and change into jeans. I like being comfortable. I've worn my slippers there in the winter before, just because it was difficult, the whole leave-the-house-in-slippers thing like there were clothes police that would pick you up for being in the wrong shoes, etc. My T didn't comment, I had to bring the subject up.

I love this thread. Yeah I dress up for therapy. Even group therapy. In fact, I've already planned what I'm wearing tomorrow (to group) and I've had it planned for days. I secretly want everyone (T especially) to find me attractive. But I'm also (like Pinksoil!) just into clothes. I feel better when I look good so I tend to be a tad dressier. Even my comfy clothes mean really nice jeans.

I loved it the time I had a really formal event at work and went onto group from there (naturally I didn't make the time to change) in a black cocktail dress (with jacket so not too out of place) and heels. Even T said I looked "elegant."

What's wrong with me?! I don't even want to sleep with T (seriously I'm not fantasizing about sex with him). But I want him and anyone in my group and anyone else to find me attractive. It's like I think I can make up for my other lacks if they at least see me as attractive.

Plus it's all fun. Hehe.

Pinksoil I loved your comment about wearing an evening gown on Saturday morning. Hahhahhaha.



Sidony

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What's wrong with me?! I don't even want to sleep with T (seriously I'm not fantasizing about sex with him). But I want him and anyone in my group and anyone else to find me attractive. It's like I think I can make up for my other lacks if they at least see me as attractive.

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That's similar to how I feel. I'm not attracted to my pdoc. I have daddy feelings for him instead of romantic or erotic feelings. Plus, I'm a lesbian. Yet I want him to think I'm attractive. It's because I have low self-esteem issues. I've been told all my life by my mother that I'm stupid, lazy, etc but everyone has always complemented me for being naturally attractive and thin. I feel like my attractiveness is my one positive attribute. It's the one thing I'm good at and I don't even have to work hard at it. It makes me feel better about myself. I look up to my pdoc and I'm jealous of him for being so smart, sensitive and perfect so I want him to see me as attractive. It makes me feel less worthless.

I don't dress up for anything / anyone.

I'm not into this embodied ********...

I wear t-shirts and skate shoes and jeans and hoodies.

Everywhere.

All the time.

If I can't do that... I'm not going.

Well... I do have some black dress pants which I kinda like (they are ok worn with skate shoes).

I used to have some 10-ups - doc martins that I used to wear everywhere... Steel caps... Been meaning to get some more of 'em (though they might be too heavy for my feet after my injuries now).

I guess I aim for tidy... But for me physical attraction... Isn't about someone who thinks they look pretty good (to me that isn't attractive). It is about... Someone who I can intellectually and emotionally engage with etc. The embodied body crap is just crappy :-(

Its great actually... I had a talk to my therapist about some of my issues about clothes... And about how (not at all talking about anyone on these boards) but about how... Some people I've met (like at work and stuff) dress... So that guys eyes are going to drift to their boobs and their ***. And then they wonder... Why it is... That the guys don't take them seriously intellectually and / or as people. Why the guys are only interested in flirting with them etc. And... I don't want that at all. I want the people who see me as and respect me as a person. And the people who look through me in virtue of my dressing like that. Well.. That is precisely why I do it. So I'm less likely to meet 'em. Or at least so I'll have decent interactions with them if we ever do get chatting.

It gets really hot here. And most people move to shorts. I guess that is kinda ok. People can wear shorts if they want to. I'm not really thinking that is obscene... But I'd sure as hell never do it. My therapist doesn't wear shorts either. I like that about him. Something that we have in common :-) But he does do the lighter in summer and darker in winter colour thing. I guess I have hoodies that I put on and take off lol. I dunno...

I'm with you, Riptide. I always wear jeans, some kind of a sweater, and boots. I go there after work (I'm a teacher - 2nd grade) so dressing up is not really practical. He's never said anything but I often wonder if he wonders if I own anything else.

I see my T Mondays and Thursdays. Mondays I have class so I dress really down, sweats usually. Every other day I have practicum so I have to dress more professional. I don't dress up for therapy.

Though there was one time one of my friends committed su*c*de. I am originally from Chicago. Later that week I felt down and su*c*dal so I purposely wore a Chicago shirt to therapy. She nailed it right away that I wore it to convey a message about my own struggle.

One of maaaaany insecurities in therapy is that T will become bored with me so I had not worn the same thing twice until last week - I haven't been going all that long, obviously. ;-)

I think it's ******** too but it makes me feel better. I'll take what I can get.

What's ******** about dressing up to feel better? I think it's great.

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What's ******** about dressing up to feel better? I think it's great.

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As long as it doesn't hurt anybody....including yourself. You do whatever it takes. It's so much easier to make yourself feel bad. No effort in that. But, when you find something that makes you feel good......go for it

tulips