...anything of significance! I have been with T for 3 months and I either argue or talk about small, non-important things.

I read here that people talked to their T after a couple of sessions, and I am wondering what on earth is going on with me.

Am I avoiding? or am I just needing more time to trust T?

[Christina86]

(((((((((((Riptide)))))))))))))) trust is a hard nut to crack... it takes time, sometimes more time for one person over another. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You could be avoiding too, but that's also pretty normal. Perhaps you could bring up this issue with T?

It is early days...........very early days. It took 2 years before I could bring myself to mention anything of significance!! Try not to put a time.limit on yourself..........just let things progress naturally......................although I suppose I should listen to my own advice!!! Best wishes.

[MissCharlotte]

Ripitide,

Take your time and go at your own pace. You are careful for a reason.
Trust yourself. It took me forever to trust T. The wait was worth it.

Peace

[Jully]

Nine months in I am still having this issue to a degree. Every week in preparation for session, I think of the things I am ready to disclose. Every week, I leave not having done that. I was disappointed with myself for the first several months, but now I realize it's okay. I don't have a time limit, and I was able to get reassurance that there is no set number of sessions from T. I decide when I go, how often, and for how long. Hang in there. It will happen.

Have you been going once a week for 3 months?? That's not a lot of time. It takes TIME to build trust and feel comfortable. My therapist says that I set the pace, and I'm learning to accept that I will tell him things when it's right for ME. Hang in there....I bet your time will come!!