[mountaindew24]

I had 2 C T twice this week it been crazy around my house the past few days. I seen my T at the mall and I waved at her and she didn't do anything and I'm like OK what have I done. Then today she explain to me that she wasn't being snobby or anything. She told that in school they r told not to speak to there client unless the client speaks them. It was great 2 C T today.
Then my dad told me you're getting close 2 your T. I'm like what I only see her once a week.

[sunrise]

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Then my dad told me you're getting close 2 your T. I'm like what I only see her once a week.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">How does your Dad know you are getting too close? Sometimes I think it is best not to discuss one's therapy experience with people who are very negative. Maybe just don't talk to your Dad about therapy and then he will never know if you are getting too close or not. If he keeps asking for details, tell him your therapy is private and confidential.

[mountaindew24]

He knows some Stuff but he told me that he did not like her because she was snobby and think she better then everyone. Therapist's are all the same they just want your money. and I was like you have never seen her how can you judge her then he told me to shut up

[ECHOES]

mountaindew24, my T said "Family never 'gets' therapy." and I think your Dad doesn't 'get' it like you do because it is your therapy and about you.

His comments about therapists doing what they do just for money is pretty silly, isn't it?

I hope you talk with T about your Dad's feelings about therapy. You might want to consider not sharing with him about therapy since he has a willingness to attempt discredit it.

I think your T sounds great! I've never seen my T in public but I would imagine it would go like that too. It would be too awkward for both of us I think, to try to acknowledge one another. However each T decides what works best for them as far as acknowledging their patients in social / community settings. So, she explained what her boundary is about that and now you can understand it, that it wasn't about you but about her feelings about seeing her patients out in public.

[Simcha]

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He knows some Stuff but he told me that he did not like her because she was snobby and think she better then everyone. Therapist's are all the same they just want your money. and I was like you have never seen her how can you judge her then he told me to shut up

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I think your Dad is insecure. Only thing that matters is if the therapist is helpful to you.

[Christina86]

((((((((((mountaindew)))))))))))))))

I'm glad you've got a good T. Sometimes parents don't understand stuff. I know when I told my parents I was in therapy, they acted *really* weird about it. I think they were afraid that I wouldn't need them anymore, or that I was saying mean things about the family behind their backs to this 'stranger'.

It's your decision about whether therapy works for you or not, and eventually your dad will hopefully come around and realize how it's benefiting you.

Perhaps if he thinks you're getting too close to T, you could have a session he's included in, so your T can maybe explain the therapeutic relationship? Could be useful.

[EJ711]

Hi Dew,

Due to privacy issues therapists typically will not acknowledge their clients in public.

I'm glad this is turning out to be a meaningful experience for you. I think having a good therapist can help you become your own person, and value your ideas about life.

My parents were so repressive. It really started getting to me when I was 15, 16 and 17.

Is your father a controlling person?

EJ

[(JD)]

I was going to ask if your dad said you're getting TOO close or not... but it doesn't matter, from his other stuff he does sound like he's worried (inside?) about just what the T might "find out" or that T won't think he's a good dad. He usese money as a shield.

[mountaindew24]

He controlling sometimes

[puckyjan56]

Mountaindew24.I'm glad I read your post. I'm sorry your Dad is being such a jerk but I did not know that T's and Psych were told not to speak to their clients in public. I always got my feelings hurt when I saw them and they would not even speak to me. My family is negative too. They think my T isn't doing an effective job and that we are friends instead of being professional. They just don't know...pj56......xxoo

[mountaindew24]

my dad called me crazy and he told me move out if keep seeing this T. let just say that my dad seen my t today @ Outback steak house I spoke to her on the outside. then she asked me if that was my dad i said yes it was. well the trip home was not so good by time i was home i was crying and i'm thinking to myself someone shoot me now.