[izzie53]

I have been seeing a psychotherapy for about two month's.
It seemed like it was going pretty good for a minute. When I told my therapist that I was having trouble with my adult son.I told him that I haven't spoken to my son in seven months. He had the nerve to tell me I should write my son a letter and tell him that I was dying. I got upset and went home to think about what he had said. Then the following I called his office and left a message for him on his phone saying that I was appalled at what he told me to do. I told him I will not be returning for treatment with him anymore. Now I'm having trouble finding a new therapist. So I'm having a hard time right now.

[Angel_of_the_Past]

I think that would have upset me too. But on the other hand, therapy is all about relationships and working through things.

So, maybe if you think the old T was some one you can work with, maybe leave another message explaining how upset you were, you may have made a hastey decision to not come back, and could you have another appointment to talk about the letter.

If T is some one you cannot work with, keep looking there is a lot of really good ones out there.

Hope this helped-Angel

I agree with Angel.

There were MANY times early in therapy when I wanted to just quit and never come back because of things he said, or the way I interpreted things he said. I made myself keep going back though, and every time we worked through one of those ruptures, our relationship grew, I felt like I could trust him more, and I learned valuable things about working through conflicts (a tough thing to learn in an abusive home!)

I know it's hard to go back, but I wonder if it would be worth another try?

[missboots]

Are You really dying? If so maybe you should ask him what his reasons are for telling verses not telling him. I know if my parent was dying and I had unfinished business I would want to know so I can make peace. Think of it this way your son may live with forever guilt if you die and he never finished his business. I'm telling you this because I have siblings who avoided my Dad and he died and I know they feel so bad about unfinished business they left undone. I am just trying to be helpful.

[Angel_of_the_Past]

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Are You really dying?

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Sorry, I agree that point needs clarification.