[mazer34]

Has anyone else experienced feelings for their therapist ? I have feelings for my female T but not romantic or anything in that department,feelings of motherly love ? I just wish she could take me home and look after me,to mother and love me kind of thing. I finish with my T in December and dreading it,I know I wont take it too well,as I hate leaving people I get close to.

I have VERY strong feelings for my therapist. I guess the best word for how I feel is "love"...but that doesn't even seem big enough to describe how I feel. And yes, there is part of me that wants him to take me home and take care of me... But he takes care of me within the boundaries of our therapy relationship (I am probably very spoiled, actually! lol) and those boundaries are what keep it safe and allow us to have the closeness that we have. So, although there is this feeling of "I want him to take me home and take care of me", that's not what I REALLY want. If that makes any sense!

I guess this is a long way of saying... "YES!"

I'm sorry that you have to finish with your T in December. That sounds really hard.

[MINIME]

I tell my T's all the time I love them. I do love them. I love alot of people actually. I just cant help it I love a lot. I dont want them to take me home and care for me. Not that wanting that is wrong or anything, I just would not like it. But I love them because they do hard work they are gentle and nice and they care about me. They are a little goofy though .
After u finish with your therapy can us still keep in contact with your T? I already told my T's when I am done in therapy they wont get rid of me so easy. I will keep in touch.
I think its impposiable to have a relationship as close as people have to have with T's to get better an dnot have feelings of something positive. It doesnt have to be love it could be like or tolerate. There is nothing wrong with having postive feelings for another person expecially one that you share such deep stuff with. As long as you know and keep in your mind that this relationship is a safe one and it has its boundries and limits, and u dont expect that to change. You are normal. You have normal feelings. Its ok.

[Brian37]

the number one topic in this forum is "Loving Your Therapist"

there are a ton of past posts covering every square inch of it

I fell madly in love with my female therapist...then she squashed me

life goes on............

[lauren_helene]

Originally Posted by Brian37

the number one topic in this forum is "Loving Your Therapist"

there are a ton of past posts covering every square inch of it

I fell madly in love with my female therapist...then she squashed me

life goes on............

Ditto what Brian said!!!!!

[tulips30]

Originally Posted by lauren_helene

Ditto what Brian said!!!!!

I will double that "Ditto"!!

[AboveAllOthers]

My previous therapist I found to be pretty attractive (or to put it blunty, hot). Unfortunately, trying to get her to tell me where she lived or what major areas where around there didn't work out and after the scheduled sessions, I'm with a new T who is no where near as good looking .

It's not a romantic sort of feeling like "I want to spend years with her" feeling.

Although when I changed T's, I'm sort of clingy to people, meaning if they leave me, I'll want them back or will try to get them back but that hasn't worked so I've given that hope up and now "grin and bear it" (lol) with this newer T.

[jbug]

I had a T that I ended up having quite a crush on. It was a good thing that things theraputically didn't work out between us. Although I was hoping that things then could work romantically then I was thinking no way jose. I still see him around town and think what a hottie but don't approach him.

As for feeling parental love my last T I had those feelings for. I wanted him to pack me up in his briefcase and take me home and let me play with his kids and eat supper. I would come home to my apartment but I wanted to just be able to hang out at his house.

Jbug