[MINIME]

Im not coming in here anymore. This forum has almost made me loose trust in my T's. It triggers me to much. The stuff some of the T's say to their client triggers me so much. I screamed at my sweet gentle T's today.

[MissCharlotte]

You have to do what is best for you. I avoid those things that trigger me.

Take care.

Originally Posted by MINIME

Im not coming in here anymore. This forum has almost made me loose trust in my T's. It triggers me to much. The stuff some of the T's say to their client triggers me so much. I screamed at my sweet gentle T's today.

It is good that you recognize your triggers, this forum didn't almost "make" you lose trust in your T-- if you screamed at your T.. well, you are responsible for your own behavior. Perhaps you can separate your relationship with your T from what you read on the forum-- and be confident that you have a unique relationship that is unlike some of the more negative stuff you read here.

Also, remember... this forum is not meant to generalize therapists as "bad." DocJohn recently posted something about that-- just because you read some things that you perceive as negative, doesn't mean that every therapist out there, including yours, is out to do harm.

[MINIME]

I think that i just need to be left alone. Please dont give me advice that I choose to allow me to feel crappy about myself. I guess my day is so crappy today that never mind. PleasePM if u have something to say that is suportive. I will not be back because I have not learned to look at my triggers so objctivly.

[tomwannabe]

Originally Posted by MINIME

I think that i just need to be left alone. Please dont give me advice that I choose to allow me to feel crappy about myself. I guess my day is so crappy today that never mind. PleasePM if u have something to say that is suportive. I will not be back because I have not learned to look at my triggers so objctivly.

I'm new here. What does this mean?

Tommyboy

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by MINIME

Im not coming in here anymore. This forum has almost made me loose trust in my T's. It triggers me to much. The stuff some of the T's say to their client triggers me so much. I screamed at my sweet gentle T's today.

I have a great T, and I'm glad you like yours too.

Your anger at your T is most likely from within you, not from without (i.e. the boards here).

Remember that everybody comes from different life circumstances and will not have the same experiences as you and I do. Most peoples T's are very supportive, professional, empathetic, and helpful like our T's are. Don't let another person's perceived bad experience affect how you feel about a particular topic (any topic really). All that matters in you and your T's relationship is your experience with them, not someone else's reported experience(s) with their T/patient relationship.

If you focus on what you are in therapy for with your T, all the rest will fall by the wayside. What really matters is that you have a unique, wonderful relationship with your T.

[Kiya]

Some of the stuff posted in here makes me realize just how good my t is and how lucky i am to have met her.

[pegasus]

(((((((( MINIME ))))))))

(((((((((((((((((((( Minime ))))))))))))))))))))

I'm having to avoid a lot of boards right now that trigger me. You need to do what you need to do for your own healing.

Hugs to you!

[MINIME]

I just wanted to say that it has nothing to do with generalizations. I dont care if everyone says therapists suck. What triggers me is stories of nice T's changing. Or Therapists being mean. It made me question everything my T's did. I have a hard time being trustful and I have never had anyone just love me. The things Therapists can do is scary. I got scared and started assuming things and then on top of all the work I am doing I lost it. I couldnt take it any more. I have good T's. I started thinking they thought I was going to slow or I was being stuck on purpose. It scared me. I want to thank the posters who were suportive and stuff. When someone says they are triggered and are taking care of themselves I dont think its fair to try and make thm feel like crap.

LOL - I just have to tell you, minime, that I was triggered by an episode of that HBO series "In Treatment" about a therapist. And this was, obviously, FICTION! He said to his therapist "If my clients knew what I was really thinking they'd go running for the hills"

I went in to T the next day SO ANGRY and suspicious! I told him, and we were able to laugh about it and move on and be okay.

But I get that when we are so deep in this stuff and have trust issues to begin with, it doesn't take much to start those alarm bells going off.

I'm glad you have such good, safe, trustworthy therapists, minime

[Fuzzybear]

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[MINIME]

Em....thanks. I should have talked to them. I didnt. I called and yelled. lol its all ok now. Im lucky.

[Sannah]

Mini,

[MissCharlotte]

started thinking they thought I was going to slow or I was being stuck on purpose.

This sounds so much like what I did last week when I started reading between the lines and convinced myself that there were hidden messages in my session with T. LOL. Together T and I decided it was best for me to deal with what was actually said, staying in the known. I told him it was my paranoia that made me wonder.

Sigh. Therapy truly is very hard work and if something does trigger you, then you should avoid it. I avoid a lot of the forums here because I simply don't have the capacity to handle them. This is even more true of those forums that have disorders I suffer from such as depression and ptsd. I just can't read the posts because they're too triggery for me.

Good luck to you.

[chaotic13]

Originally Posted by earthmama

LOL - I just have to tell you, minime, that I was triggered by an episode of that HBO series "In Treatment" about a therapist.

LOL... I realized the other day while watching a movie with some adult language/content that I had a similar reaction to some words used that I had during my last therapy session. My reaction was a lot milder but it surprised me. Not sure if I've always had this or if it is something that happened because the therapy session had me a bit more sensative or more aware to them.

[cantstopcrying]

I was going to PM you this but I want others to see it. !!!!!

I admire you for standing up for yourself so wonderfully. You know what you need to do to be healthy and are doing it. Whether others see it from your point of view or not. Well done!

[emilyjeanne]

Originally Posted by MINIME

Im not coming in here anymore. This forum has almost made me loose trust in my T's. It triggers me to much. The stuff some of the T's say to their client triggers me so much. I screamed at my sweet gentle T's today.

I don't want to sound insensitive. But didn't I read somewhere on this forum that we are not supposed to post messages about leaving?

[sabby]

Hey emilyjeanne,

You are right about the "leaving" messages that we can't post. In this context, MINIME was only referring to this forum specifically. She was not referring to leaving all of PC.


sabby

[MINIME]

hey emily glad you didnt mean to be rude...lol next time you could pm a admins. person and that way it wouldnt be so "rude" to see that in a thread you started. I posted this because I like to support others in this forum and I do. I wanted to let people know I was not going to be here. The other reason is personal and if you knew me and my post general theme you would get it.
Thanks to the people who understand me and have made me smile. I love the support I got. It feels good to not be alone. U know I love you guys.

[pachyderm]

Minime is a liar! Pants on fire! I mean, look at the subject of this thread.

[MINIME]

Pachy pachy pachy. U are so funny. I am assuming you think I am coming back in the forum to post. Ha got ya Im not. I am only reading my subscribed threads in my profile. So ha. I do not go to the forum. So maybe now your pants r on fire....whatever u do dont run...lol cus it makes it wrse. So stop drop and roll. Thats right you got it.

[foreverlost]

Hi Mini,

Good for you for being insightful enough to know what to avoid! I go through periods when reading just about any post is triggering and I just stay away for awhile. I know what you mean about looking for all the negatives people describe in your own T. Trust is so hard. Sometimes I get paranoid from reading posts and sometimes I value my T more because he doesn't do those things.

You are doing something positive for yourself. That's good!
We'll miss you though :-)

[pachyderm]

Didn't know you could read one thread and miss the whole forum...

[MINIME]

pach isnt it you miss the forest for the trees?