[meccorad]

My T wants me to attend a small group session with other guys, who she says are just like me. Smart, Gifted, dealing with the same identiy issues etc... She also mentioned that they are of mixed sexual orientations, but basically they all getting together to attend some sort of Life Growing thing or another. I can't remember exactly what the name was...

But it has a lot to do with dealing with depression, identity and life in general.

She mentioned it as the last little thing before we ended our session, and she offered me the opportunity and she would drive me there.

Now here is where I need some advice. I don't know if I'm really ready to take such a big step with this. She is basically the only person that I've ever really opened up to about my life, which also means she's my only support. Our last couple of sessions have been about support and reaching out when family isn't an option. We've also been discussing how I'm resistant, yet willing. Oxymoron, I know.

It would be nice to meet others who are going through the same stuff as me, but I don't want it to turn into some sorta fest. I'm not a very open person, and I have trust issues, so the last thing I wanna do is open up to a bunch of strangers, and even worse if I end up knowing somebody there.

Advice? Any advice would be appreciated....I'm just mentally stuck on it. Thanks...

Originally Posted by meccorad

My T wants me to attend a small group session with other guys, who she says are just like me. Smart, Gifted, dealing with the same identiy issues etc... She also mentioned that they are of mixed sexual orientations, but basically they all getting together to attend some sort of Life Growing thing or another. I can't remember exactly what the name was...

But it has a lot to do with dealing with depression, identity and life in general.

She mentioned it as the last little thing before we ended our session, and she offered me the opportunity and she would drive me there.

Now here is where I need some advice. I don't know if I'm really ready to take such a big step with this. She is basically the only person that I've ever really opened up to about my life, which also means she's my only support. Our last couple of sessions have been about support and reaching out when family isn't an option. We've also been discussing how I'm resistant, yet willing. Oxymoron, I know.

It would be nice to meet others who are going through the same stuff as me, but I don't want it to turn into some sorta fest. I'm not a very open person, and I have trust issues, so the last thing I wanna do is open up to a bunch of strangers, and even worse if I end up knowing somebody there.

Advice? Any advice would be appreciated....I'm just mentally stuck on it. Thanks...

Frankly speaking, I had suffered from tne same question as yous about tenyears ago. During that time, I felt so depressed that I want to commit suciside.However,I eventualy got through with big difficulty. I propose you may resort to you parents first. Maybe you will be shame of talking with them about you puzzles. Then you can consult with a Psychologist.After all,they are specialized in it.

[gimmeice]

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It sounds like you are leaning towards going which I think could be a good choice. The thing to remember is that you don't have to talk more than you are ready to and if you are really uncomfortable you could always leave and go sit outside. Knowing those things have helped me attend different groups because to me it is important to have a plan B just in case.

[Rhapsody]

I would recommend you go and see how the first two visit go before you decide if this isn't for you... I went through some thing similar a few years back and I really enjoyed it in the long run.

[meccorad]

Originally Posted by gimmeice

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It sounds like you are leaning towards going which I think could be a good choice. The thing to remember is that you don't have to talk more than you are ready to and if you are really uncomfortable you could always leave and go sit outside. Knowing those things have helped me attend different groups because to me it is important to have a plan B just in case.

I still get this vibe that's it's going to be like the first time I went to an NA meeting where it's all and for me that was really awkward. Let alone, talking about substance abuse is one thing, but what this group is meeting about is something entirely different. Something that I'm just not comfortable with.

Originally Posted by Rhapsody

I would recommend you go and see how the first two visit go before you decide if this isn't for you... I went through some thing similar a few years back and I really enjoyed it in the long run.

I'm 2/3 of the way leaning to going, but I'm still 1/3 apprehensive about all of this. I know it's going to be embarassing/awkward, but it's a step I know I have to take....just a matter of when I take it.

Thanks everyone for the advice...it really helps to get an outside voice once in a while

[madisgram]

i applaud you for considering this suggestion by your t. can u ask your T if you can discuss this in a session so you can perhaps feel more comfortable with the idea? it's a leap forward to be in a group but it certainly doesn't mean u have to be the focus of every group setting. i also feel from what you've written that you may have some things to offer to this group. we all do. i'm in a recovery group-aa- and i've also been in a group therapy group more than once. it's not really the same. hard to describe but i feel it may not be as scary as you think it will be. let us know, k?