[dawnhopeful]

I terminated with my t and told my pdoc that I didn't feel like making a date for the next appointment. My pdoc communicates with my family doctor. I explained to my family doctor that I felt like taking a break because i'm tired of all the doctors in my life. As you know my husband is a pdoc. I think he understands, but wants me to admit to the fact that I have a major depressive disorder. I left him while refusing to self - categorize as a "major depressive disorder" I suppose he doesn't want me to have an oppositional relationship with my pdoc. This is hard for me because of previous relationships with pdocs who had either had intimate relationships with their patients or were assholes. I know I am bringing all these feelings back into the dr./ p relationship. Sometimes I think he is really weird however if I had to tell him that he would probably get offended and want to terminate with his ' difficult patient.' I guess I dont fall inro the role of the 'good patient' very easily I could have my family dr. prescribe meds. for me if needed I know that they are not as experienced and that might be a hindrance. Anyone had similar feelings? Dawnhopeful

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by dawnhopeful

I explained to my family doctor that I felt like taking a break because i'm tired of all the doctors in my life.

That sounds very legitimate to me. Why don't you ask your family doc if he/she feels competent to prescribe the meds for your symptoms. If the answer is yes, then you could try it out for a while.

As you know my husband is a pdoc. I think he understands, but wants me to admit to the fact that I have a major depressive disorder. I left him while refusing to self - categorize as a "major depressive disorder" I suppose he doesn't want me to have an oppositional relationship with my pdoc.

So you left your H, as in you are separated/divorced? If you are no longer together, why does he even care what kind of relationship you have with your pdoc? You don't need to tell him about your mental health treatment. Also, why did he want you "to admit" to having MDD? The way you describe it makes your H sound kind of overinvested in your getting a diagnosis he prefers. It should be enough that you are managing your symptoms without having labels applied.

Sometimes I think he is really weird however if I had to tell him that he would probably get offended and want to terminate with his ' difficult patient.' I guess I dont fall inro the role of the 'good patient' very easily

As the patient, you really don't need to worry about whether you are "good" or "difficult" or what the pdoc thinks about you. He has been trained to manage his own feelings. It's OK to think he is weird. Maybe he is. But is he a good doctor? If you want to take a break from him, and your family doc is competent to prescribe the meds you need, then take a break.

Did you terminate for good with your T or just take a break from him/her? I'm sorry things didn't work out with your T.

In your post, I read a lot about your leaving people: your H, your T, and now your pdoc. I hope everything is OK with you and I hope you can share enough of what's going on so that your family doc can help.

[dawnhopeful]

Originally Posted by sunrise

That sounds very legitimate to me. Why don't you ask your family doc if he/she feels competent to prescribe the meds for your symptoms. If the answer is yes, then you could try it out for a while.

Hi Sunrise, Thanks for reading my post so thoroughly. I will ask my family doctor to prescribe meds. He has told me, in the past, that I am sick and he wants me to accept his label. Perhaps he feels that i'll go off my meds. and he'll have to take responsability

So you left your H, as in you are separated/divorced? If you are no longer together, why does he even care what kind of relationship you have with your pdoc? You don't need to tell him about your mental health treatment. Also, why did he want you "to admit" to having MDD? The way you describe it makes your H sound kind of overinvested in your getting a diagnosis he prefers. It should be enough that you are managing your symptoms without having labels applied.

No, I am still with my husband. I dont talk about my treatment to him. The other day , however, he said I was 'depressed' when I had a temporary viral infection. My pdoc had told me, during our appointment, that I was doing well!

As the patient, you really don't need to worry about whether you are "good" or "difficult" or what the pdoc thinks about you. He has been trained to manage his own feelings. It's OK to think he is weird. Maybe he is. But is he a good doctor? If you want to take a break from him, and your family doc is competent to prescribe the meds you need, then take a break.

Did you terminate for good with your T or just take a break from him/her? I'm sorry things didn't work out with your T.

No, I haven't terminated for good with my t. He said I am welcome to come back anytime

In your post, I read a lot about your leaving people: your H, your T, and now your pdoc. I hope everything is OK with you and I hope you can share enough of what's going on so that your family doc can help.

My family doc. used to work for my b-in-law, who is a family doc. He has his own practice now. Is he allowed to discuss me with my b-in-law?

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by dawnhopeful

My family doc. used to work for my b-in-law, who is a family doc. He has his own practice now. Is he allowed to discuss me with my b-in-law?

No. For extra reassurance, you could bring this up the next time you see your family doc, and just verify that your sessions are confidential and nothing will be passed on to his former employer, who is part of your extended family. I have sought such verification from some of the professionals I work with. It is good to talk to them about it because it reminds them of their ethical obligations.