[Xtree]

Ever have a T suggest to come to your house for a home visit? My T is also my marriage T, she does both individual and couples therapy.

Communication is a problem in my marriage, (surprise!) and she said that she needs to make a home visit to deal with the physical set up and have the 2 of us talk in the house maybe shut us in one room.

I do not mind at all if she comes here at all, as a matter of fact I think it is a great idea and would love for her to stop by. With that said I am just curious if this is standard practice or if it is thinking out side the box, I am all about, "thinking out side the box".

Has this ever happened to you, how would you feel?

Xtree

[TayQuincy]

Years ago, my T came to my house for therapy sessions for three weeks when I had wrecked my car. I loved it. It felt awkward at first (I was self conscious about my place), but I eventually felt comfortable. I had two young children at home, so that was a bit distracting, and we couldn't really talk about serious therapy stuff with them around. But it was nice and i felt connected.

I don't think my current t would be willing to do that though. I think it depends on the T's orientation. I also like T's who think outside the box. It can be very helpful.

[sunrise]

I think it's fine as long as you and your H are both OK with it. As long as you feel your boundaries are intact. And you can both appreciate the potential benefit.

I too like T's who think outside of the box.

[eskielover]

Thinking especially for the marriage therapy, for them to see the environment you are living in can give some insight that might help more with your therapy.....thinking outside the box with this does sound like a good idea.

Debbie

[MissCharlotte]

Wow. Yalom said he made home visits! If T was coming here, I think I would have a heart attack because I would have to clean.

[my3sns]

My T recently offered this to me as an option , to try to get my inner self to trust her more , or something like that . We havent taken her up on her offer.

part of me thinks it would be so very cool....while the other part of me would be just in a total panic about her seeing where we live and our life and then the other part of us (what can i say we're a multiple) would be in coronary care reuperating from a major heart attack and
stress from massive cleaning!

stumpy

[chaotic13]

I couldn't imagine my T ever coming to my house. I know I've frequently invisioned her sitting in my quiet room as I've typed in my journal. I know I would feel more comfortable on my own couch. I would be able to put my feet up and curl up in a ball like I've wanted to do numerous times during a T session.

I think if you H is OK with it and you feel like you could control the distractions, it might be a nice thing to try.

I think it's a great idea because when you go into therapy, you are the product of your environment, relationships, interactions, etc. For a therapist to actually enter that environment will only foster the progress you are making in your therapy because she will get a closer and different look at how you live and communicate with your husband. I think it shows her commitment to you. When you are in the therapy room, you can only describe so much. When the therapist enters your environment, it gives a whole other perspective.

[Xtree]

Thank you very much. These were the responses I was hoping for.

My home is my home, it is what it it is. My house is very simple and needs work but it's home and I love living in it. I have to feel comfortable that she we not judge me and I am confident that she will not.

Xtree

I can't wait to hear how it goes/what it feels like!! Please let us know