[silenthill]

i can't leave my T, she is doing wrong,and i'm to scared to stop her

[Christina86]

((((((((silenthill)))))))))))) Do you need to talk, or do you feel comfortable posting here exactly what's happening? If you want to PM me, I can try to help.

If she's doing "wrong" (I'm assuming ethically?) then you *must* leave her for your own wellbeing. Tell someone close to you, who can help you through this in the process of leaving her or whatever else needs to be done (like reporting her etc).

[Luce]

I don't know if you need to stop her, hon. All you need to do is take care of you.

Your T is a Big Girl and she can take care of herself. (If she can't, maybe she could get a therapist for herself).

All you have to do is take care of you. If it is hurting you to go there, all you have to do is not turn up anymore. You don't have to justify it. You don't have to explain it. It is your human right to simply choose not to go.

It is ok to delete the emails, to not answer her phone calls, and to not go to her therapy rooms anymore.

Sometimes we stick with people who are hurting us because we think they have something that we need. Sometimes we think there is nobody else in the world who can give that to us.
What is it that prevents you from leaving this T? What is it that she gives you that you fear you can't get from anywhere else? What part of you can't let her go, and why?

If you can find the answers to those questions you may be able to find other ways to meet those needs... you may be able to find a way that enables those parts of you to let her go, thus allowing the whole of you to get away from the relationship. Find a different way to meet those needs that this T fulfils... and then run, run, as fast as you can, away from her and her destruction.

((((((((((((((((((((((((silenthill))))))))))))))))))))))

Are you still going to give the new T a try?? Maybe she can help you untangle yourself from the old T...

[possum220]

Dear Silenthill,

It must be very scary to have your power taken away.

The truth is, you are employing her to help you not harm you. If it feels wrong then it is wrong.

Time to change T's hun

Possum

I know it is so hard to leave, even if they are being unethical. It took me months before I got the courage to do so. It is so hard and I wish you luck in doing what you need to do.

[pegasus]

Wishing you strength ((((((( silenthill ))))))) You can do this.

Share with the new T if you need on how things have been for you. Changes are hard but this one would truly be the best move for you!

[peaches100]

(((SilentHill)))

Wer'e concerned about you. How can we help? Do you need to talk about it?

[mixedup_emotions]

You have a community here of people who care and want to help, if you feel you can handle it. No pressure....only (((( HUGS ))))

Ria

[silenthill]

Thank you everyone.t just called i'm so confused,i'm to deprassed to care any more

[imapatient]

[phoenix7]

It's been mentioned that you have a new T can you ring him/her and tell them whats happeneing ?

- you need to take care of you -

I don't know what's happening but you said it was unethical - is there someone IRL you can talk to about this? or talk to us?

Please take care of you P7