I got laid off today. My last day is a month from today.

I have to start the termination process when I go back in on Thursday. I'm having supervision with my supervisor (who is my previous professor) tomorrow, in order to process the termination issues. I have never had to terminate anyone before.

I called T and he called me back. He was super supportive, but to the point where he was almost too proactive. I guess it was hard for him over the phone. He did identify and validate some of the personal feelings I have about getting laid off even though I know it's not a personal thing.

I hope that during my session on Thursday, he will connect with my pain. I am truly saddened and devastated that I have to leave my job.

[phoenix7]

When I lost my last job - even though I knew why - (we had been taken over and they were gradually getting rid of the people who worked for the old co) - I still felt like I had failed - that if I had done or been better I would have been able to stay -

but the truth is sometimes thesse things are unavoidable - and you never know whata aroun d the corner - If I hadnt lost my job I would never have gone into nursing and I love nursing - so it turned out alright for me - I hope something good comes out of this for you too

[ECHOES]

((((pink)))) I am very sorry you are being laid off. That is so hard to go through and it is another grieving process.
I can understand not liking your T's overly proactive reaction. That can be encouraging and motivating--if you're ready, at a place you can take it in. Otherwise it can have a feel of being dismissive, a denial of how bad it is *right now!*.

Maybe some people can react to crisis that way, but I know I can't; I need time to process what's happening and to grieve first.

I am glad to hear you have a process of terminating and 30 days rather than the kind of layoff we hear about that is immediate. Yet working out the 30 days can be really hard, too. (I was laid off from a job I loved and would have stayed til I retired. The entired division was eliminated. The state law mandated that they give us 60 days. Some did not have to work out those 60 days, depending on their job. I had to be there the whole 60 days. It was very difficult going to work; the whole experience was completely different.)

I do hope a new opportunity comes along soon so you can have relief and hope. You do such meaningful work. You're needed out there.

I hope you let T know just what you need so he can provide that. I'm sure that's what he wants, too. Geez tell him cheerful and proactive are for later, not for when first hearing the news. I'm guessing he had that cheese cube shirt on that day...

[pachyderm]

I found out that I was terminated when my work computer would no longer work! I had to go ask and found out that was why!

At least that way the suspense is over very quickly...

[peaches100]

Pinksoil,

What a bummer!!! I know you really liked your job too. It seems like everybody is laying off employees. My office is being eliminated too. They sent letters to my higher level coworkers offering them an incentive if they'd terminate. The ones who have stayed have sent to other offices or are trying to find another job. It's really sad. I've worked with these same people in this same agency for over 20 years. I also thought I'd retire here.

I understand how bad you must feel right now. I hope your supervisor can give you the support you need to get through the termination process. I really feel for you.

Originally Posted by ECHOES

((((pink))))

I hope you let T know just what you need so he can provide that. I'm sure that's what he wants, too. Geez tell him cheerful and proactive are for later, not for when first hearing the news. I'm guessing he had that cheese cube shirt on that day...

LOL @ the shirt. The weather is getting warmer, so I'm sure he's ironing it carefully and getting it ready!!

As far as proactive, I sent my resume to eight places last night-- so there's proactive for him.

You are right-- I will tell him what I need from him (if I can even figure that out).

Thank you for your kind words. T did say something very special yesterday. He said that I gave all of my clients one year of great therapy, and that is something they will always have.

It is so, so hard.

[emilyjeanne]

((((((((((Pink)))))))))

I hope things work out for you. I don't know what to say but I just wanted you to know that I read your post and I'm thinking about you.

[splitimage]

(((Pink)))

I'm sorry, losing a job is really hard. It's good to be proactive about looking for another job, but make sure you allow yourself the time to grieve and process losing this job.

And good luck with terminating your clients - I'm sure it will be emotional.

I hope that your able to figure out what you need from your T and communicate it to him.

---splitimage