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Apr 09, 2009, 02:29 PM
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Just got back from therapy...and once again I fail to open up to her and tell her the truth about how I am truly feeling. She asks me what's new and going on with me and I just blank and get scared and nod my head and say nothing. I had a whole list of things I wanted to bring up with her but didn't even get to one!!! I don't get what's wrong with me. I hvae been going to her since january now I should trust her. But I don't. I don't trust telling anyone anything..I need help opening up. This just gets me so mad I just want the weight of everything lifted off my chest. Does anyone know what I should do? I wish I could email her but I didn't even get her email. Ughhhh so frustrated with myself!!!!!!!!!!
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Apr 09, 2009, 02:58 PM
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((((( lmg )))))
 Write it down, just as you have done here. T won't mind you doing that if it helps to get the ball rolling. Don't beat yourself up about this though as you have only been seeing her since January. If we could talk about it that easily we wouldn't need therapy!
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Apr 09, 2009, 03:52 PM
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Don't be so hard on yourself. You have only been seeing your T since January. That isn't even 4 months. I have been with my T for almost 2 years and there are times where I cannot talk and feel overwhelmed. Learning to trust your T will take time. Maybe you can tell your T about how you feel. She will understand.
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Apr 09, 2009, 06:03 PM
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This sounds like a good place to start. Write down the things on your list and take them with you. It might help give you a starting point. I did this when I first started therapy. After I got used to talking, I didn't need it anymore. Good luck tulips
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Apr 09, 2009, 06:04 PM
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It took me sooooo long to finally begin talking to my T. Just keep trying. Ask your T if you can email or write her. As long as you don't expect her to return the emails, this might help. My T was able to accomidate this and it has helped me a lot. I am getting better at actually talking in the session now. You have to try what ever you can to get the lines of communication flowing.
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Apr 09, 2009, 06:11 PM
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It took me a long time too . I dont remember excatly how long now , but it seemed like forever and sometimes i still struggle , just today as a matter of fact i went into childlike mode and couldnt respond to much of anything
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Apr 10, 2009, 03:39 AM
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i was only able to open up after I had shown my T some of the things I had written down - I still have problems discussing things with her - you are not alone - dont be hard on yourself - most of us have been or are where you are -
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Apr 10, 2009, 04:48 AM
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You should write it down - I've done that a few times.
It will make it much easier
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Apr 10, 2009, 05:12 AM
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You're working, practicing. You'll trust her when you trust her, there is no time frame where trust 'should' be felt because it's a process to get there. You'll open up when you are ready and that can be a gradual process too; you might open up one time, then hold back the next. Try to observe these things without judging them.
Keep going, you're doing great 
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Apr 10, 2009, 06:14 PM
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lots of excellent replies here (((lmg))). i know you are experiencing progress cause you now want to open up!!!
 it's easier when you write down your thoughts in between sessions....then you can reference them in your sessions. my t had me read what i had written. i thought...that's dumb..but it wasn't...it really helped me...i would get shortness of breath just reading what i wrote. you keep doing what you are trying to do. it will come. meanwhile start writing stuff down when you feel the need to do so. it will help.
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