[jacq10]

ever made you feel beautiful?

"look at that radiant smile" "you have a gentle heart"
Whenever I'm sad I try and look at myself through the eyes of my T.

Please feel free to share your own positive experiences with your T that have left you with that warm feeling inside.

[darkrunner]

(((((((((((((((Jacq))))))))))))))))

Your T sounds so nice, and what a great idea to try to look at youself from her perspective.

My T told my once, "I like working with you. You're a cool chic."

I was so surprised when she said that, and also surprised at how good it made me feel.

T makes me feel loved and cared for and safe. I know I can't get hurt as long as I am with him. He is going to teach me to carry that power with me all the time.

He tells me he loves me and he likes me and I am brave and strong. We make each other laugh. He accepts me how I am.

I am small and he is really tall so he can give me big giant hugs that wrap me all up and make me feel safe.

It feels good that he loves me and likes me, because then I think maybe other people can too.

[sittingatwatersedge]

never mind. I realize I did not answer the question.

[jacq10]

((((((((((sittingatwatersedge))))))))))))
No you did answer the question! I asked people to share they're experiences and thats what you did. I'm sorry you don't feel 100% confident when your T gives you a compliment, but from what I know if you (from reading the boards, etc) is that you do seem like a beautiful person with a kind heart. Try not and beat yourself up, k? Lots of people here care for you.
Big hugs,
Jacq

[skeksi]

I don't know that T has made me feel beautiful, but he has certainly made me feel like I am a good and worthwhile person. Saying things like, "That's what I like about you, you're proud/strong/brave/fearless" makes me feel shiny inside, because he's not a friend or family member, he has no obligation to make me feel good or to maintain our relationship by saying positive things. My favorite is when he says he respects me.

[Brightheart]

My T didn't readily hand out lots of compliments (he probably knew I wouldn't be comfortable with that), but I definitely had moments of feeling beautiful inside while I was in his company. He did tell me several times that I was a good person. Once said he liked me...I suppose maybe what he did was make me feel completely comfortable to be myself while I was with him. And in feeling comfortable just to be myself, I began to feel comfortable with myself. I liked myself when I was with him. So that made me feel beautiful inside.

[my3sns]

Although my T tries very hard , i dont accept these things very well , but she does tell me how good and wonderful ect that she thinks i am .

[mightaswelllive]

T reminds me that I'm intelligent and I LOVE this.

[mixedup_emotions]

I wish.....My T is very careful about keeping things on a different level than that. I guess it's just the way he is. About making me feel beautiful, it's on the contrary.....One of the things I told him in my last session was that I do sometimes miss my husband - the good times, him telling me all the time how beautiful I am and how he is the only person that has EVER told me that I am beautiful....

My T said that considering his sexual deviance and mental illness, I need to take that with a grain of salt because there was another motive behind those words.

OUCH.

I believe he's right because most times, the beautiful comments came with a price of him wanting to get laid...but it's so hard to hear. I have never been told that I am beautiful by ANYONE...and do not feel beautiful....and my husband has ALWAYS told me how beautiful I am....and to dismiss that makes me feel just plain awful.

[Brightheart]

I'm sorry that you feel badly.

I don't think it's so much about being told verbally that you're beautiful...I think it's more about helping you to appreciate your own inner beauty...helping you see your own light. I really think that you have to believe in your own beauty, but the right T can open your eyes to it.

[sunrise]

My T has said a lot of things that make me feel valued, and yes, I guess beautiful. I am not physically beautiful, but he sees beauty in my soul, and tells me. This is very healing to me, as my husband did not appreciate any of these qualities in me. Constantly living with that made me forget this about myself--that I had value as a human being. I really appreciate how T is able to share with me that he sees my value.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by jacq10

ever made you feel beautiful?

"look at that radiant smile" "you have a gentle heart"
Whenever I'm sad I try and look at myself through the eyes of my T.

Please feel free to share your own positive experiences with your T that have left you with that warm feeling inside.

If my T ever told me I had a radiant smile, I think I'd freak!
I feel warm and fuzzy when he gives me my drug of choice--coffee. Mmm, that's nice! Thanks T! T knows what I need...

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by sunrise

My T has said a lot of things that make me feel valued, and yes, I guess beautiful. I am not physically beautiful, but he sees beauty in my soul, and tells me. This is very healing to me, as my husband did not appreciate any of these qualities in me. Constantly living with that made me forget this about myself--that I had value as a human being. I really appreciate how T is able to share with me that he sees my value.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You judge yourself too harshly.
Your husband didn't appreciate you, but that's his problem. We like you here.

[Brightheart]

My T used to talk about how relationships are mirroring. I sure did feel beautiful when his eyes glowed back at me. I knew that some aspect of his time with me was making him feel good. And I have always taken great pleasure in making others feel good. So in seeing this from him, I could recognize that capability within myself. A very pleasant and warm feeling.