[pondbc]

I have an appointment on Friday and I am dreading it. The last couple of visits have been uncomfortable and I have left feeling worse than when I got there.
Basically, this man told me I should be able to 'control my symptoms'. (I am bipolar and have anxiety dis.) When I asked about strategies for this or things I could read he said 'you don't need to read anything, just do it'.
I find it hard to argue back to someone with all the medical expertise. At the end I said, 'To be honest, I learned a lot in the hospital program and have been putting into practice. It is still a daily struggle though'. He snapped at me...'This just goes to show you are not trying hard enough.'
As I was going out of the door at the end he said..'Do you still want to see me again?'
I am just wondering if needling is a new therapeutic technique.
Instead of getting lunch or maybe going to the mall, I got into the car and drove 1 1/2 hrs to get home feeling very empty and uneasy. I feel like I was bullied and didn't stand up for myself. This is very hard for me with an authority figure like this.
Has anyone has a similar experience?

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by harrietgate

This is very hard for me with an authority figure like this.

lots of people have problems because of "authority figures" who didn't know how to handle their authority.
This fellow has as much authority over you as you are willing to give him. I don't know your situation, but aybe you can find a human being to work with instead of a hornet?! just my $0.02....

[darkrunner]

(((((((((((((Harriet)))))))))))))))))))

That sounds awful....very uncomfortable.

I don't like my pdoc either - he isn't very 'nice'. But he has never snapped at me or told me to control my symptoms like that.

In fact, one time I told him I felt like I was disappointing him because I wasn't doing very well, and he said something semi-reassuring about how it wasn't a contest and he wasn't comparing me with anyone else.

I agree with Sittingatwatersedge -- is there any way you can find a new pdoc? IMO, you shouldn't be treated that way....
best of luck to you....

[phoenix7]

Yes I have! - I went to see a pdoc and she told me to just realise I was powerless at work - just do my job and go home - that I shouldnt want to get job staisfaction - made me feel like a freak - told me I was intelligent so that would help much better than a lot of her clients

I went back for a 2nd session cos I thought it was a problem with me - and she did a complete turnaround - went from Psychologists cant fix you but I can to keep taking the antids and see a psychologist - think this was because I questioned whether seeing a pdoc would be useful and I didnt want to see a T at her practice because I already had one -

didnt want to see another one after that but my dr kept on at me - so I did and you know what! he is fantastic!!! he listens, he understands, he treats me with care and respect - and thats what you deserve too .

Your pdoc sounds arrogant and not at all helpful - if you can I would see a new pdoc - I wish you luck

[mixedup_emotions]

WOW. That does not sound good at all. I would definitely seek another pdoc. You should not have to deal with that kind of behavior especially from someone that you are entrusting to care for your mental health.

[Elysium]

You know....(I am a Nurse) there are a couple types of Dr's out there!!

Some, are very compassionate, with great bedside manner, but they wouldn't know their stethoscope from a bedpan!! Some are full of compassion and empathy, and have all the right amount of intelligence, education and experience. While some others have the emotional capacity of tin foil, but you wouldn't want any one else but that person responsible for your health and well being. Then, there is everyone's favorite type of Dr....The ones that have the emotional capacity of tin-foil and wouldn't know their stethoscope from a bedpan!!!! This fourth Dr. sounds like the type you are dealing with!!

Take him in a roll of antacids, and encourage him to wear a larger size of underwear because you are concerned that he might be cutting off the oxygen to his brain. Then, politely excuse yourself and find yourself a better Psy. MD. Some Psychiatrists have the compassion of a ROCK!!!

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by harrietgate

'Do you still want to see me again?'

Sounds like he was trying to rid of you. Why don't you give him what he wants and ditch him? He's a jerk, you deserve better. Hope you can transfer to someone decent, polite, and competent.