[deliquesce]

just wanted to what extent other people in your life support (or don't) you seeing a T.

dad has been really furious with me lately - ever since i started seeing new-T. he keeps making fun of me for going, saying he could fix me himself, that all i need is to stop being lazy etc.

he's also really angry that i am seeing pdoc, and that i have started a new anti-depressant (that is doing wonders for my mood) but which has an extensive list of dietary restrictions. apparently me not eating the same stuff as the rest of the family is inconvenient to them (even though i cook my own food myself). dad wants me to stop these meds, and wants to talk to my pdoc about why i even need to be on meds to begin with. pdoc has said he is happy to talk to dad, but i don't want to let dad into my only safe space. i know dad will only ridicule pdoc afterwards and run him down.

this wasn't so much of an issue last year when i would see pdoc after uni (so dad didnt know how frequently i was going) and when old-T worked near uni also so dad just thought i was going to class. he knows now because i'm only doing one subject, and i'm home most of the week so i only leave the house for an hour or two at a time. mum also thinks im stupid to go to T, but i've had enough fights with her now that she just keeps out of it (for the most part). she thinks the reason i'm depressed is because i got my ears pierced when i was 15 and just thinks i should take the extra piercings out.

so, i'm feeling kind of crud, and hoping other ppl would share their experiences also. pdoc cancelled tomorrow's appt but said he'd call this arvo, but he hasn't, so i'm kind of starting to wallow.

[3velniai]

My BF is the only person who knows I'm seeing a T and he's jealous. Once when he was angry he said that if I told him all the stuff instead of T everything would be a lot better. Yeah… maybe I would tell him something, but he never listens, changes the topic, and then blames me that I’m not telling him things. Blah…

My H wouldn't "let" me go to therapy for years, even though I needed to. I know NOW that I could have gone anyway, but I didn't know how to stand up for myself, and I didn't know how to ask for help (would need people to watch kids), etc.

When I finally really crashed a little over a year and a half ago, H reluctantly agreed that I should see someone. I think he's really glad now that I go to therapy. There were some rough patches at first as I learned to express my needs more and become more assertive...he was used to me catering to everyone's every need (except mine!). Now he likes it. He says it's like I'm in color, and I was in black and white before. I ONLY felt "stressed" or "happy" before therapy - now I have a range of emotions and can express them most of the time and he likes that (go figure!)

My friends are very supportive of me being in T, and help watch my kids while I go. That was the hardest part of going - having to ask for help from people - but I did it.

My mom and brother do NOT know that I'm in therapy. I used to be TERRIFIED that my mom would find out. I don't feel so scared of it now, but I don't really want her to know, either.

(((((((((((((((Deli))))))))))))))))) It has to be really hard having your dad be so unsupportive. I totally agree with what you said about him talking to p-doc and invading your safe space. I hope you can keep that boundary...it's really not his business. YOU are getting better, and that's what matters.

[cmac13]

My husband knows I am in therapy and is supportive and does not care I have been seeing her forever (18 yrs) . At first I think he was jealous and thought all I talked about was him. Not true, my issues have nothinmg to do with him but from very early life experiences. My cousins know and a few of my friends but they do not know how long or the reasons for my going. I am blessed with good insurance and both my husband and I have good jobs to cover the cost so money is not an issue at this time. I go once a week and have to say that my relationship with my therapist has totally changed my life course and I am lucky to be able to know her all of this time.

[chaotic13]

My H was not supportive at all.He would make stupid comment and say stuff to undermined my going. At this point, I don't tell him when I go unless he puts me into a position where I have no choice-- I do lie. He went once and lost it. I think he thinks all we do is talk about him. Which I've told him repeatedly that its not. I would like to share more about it but his negativity drains me.

[Amazonmom]

My hubby is very supportive. He is the one who kept telling me that he would love and support me no matter what, but he wanted me to get some help because he hated seeing me suffer.

Sometimes he is a teensy bit jealous that the T can help me where he could not. But he is human, I can forgive him that. He also said that he is proud of me for putting 100% effort into the therapy-he knew that I didn't want to go in the first place.

My family doesn't know, and I don't plan on telling them. It wouldn't ever be of any benefit to me. They have issues with mental illnesses. My two good buddies know and they are fine with it.

[MissCharlotte]

(Deli)

It is difficult to be your own person amidst such resistance but I think you are doing a wonderful job of self care by seeing your T and pdoc, eating the right foods, and taking your meds. It doesn't sound like you will find the kind of support your are looking for at home. One of the most difficult lessons I had to learn was not to look to my sibs for emotional support because they are incapable of it.

My H is very supportive and so are my kids. They all know T's name and I talk freely in front of and to them about different aspects of my personal growth. Of course, I don't advertise the deep and painful parts of my intimacy with T, but my overall H and sons (sounds like a lawfirm, lol) accept my relationship and know it is for my best health. They all know when I have an appointment, where I am, etc. And, my son goes to the same pdoc, and we often go on the same day and share the gas expense.

You are truly growing! Good work.

[lifelesstraveled]

my ex-boyfriend(who i still talk to) is very supportive about it, even before we broke up. He says he noticed a change in me, which is happy about and probably sparked his renewed interest in me.

my twin sister does not like the idea of me going to see a therapist or about the fact that I am considering medication. I am not sure why she is not supportive. instead she calls me crazy and turns her nose up

my parents do not know about it. I dont feel the need to tell them. they never cared what i was doing in the past, so telling them about it wasnt even something on my to do list. it's really because of them I am in therapy and if i told them that i'd probably hurt their feelings, which sometimes i fantasize about doing just b/c they hurt me--but that's a story for another day, another time

one of my good friends knows I am in therapy and she supports it, as she is in therapy herself.

[deliquesce]

Originally Posted by 3velniai

My BF is the only person who knows I'm seeing a T and he's jealous. Once when he was angry he said that if I told him all the stuff instead of T everything would be a lot better. Yeah… maybe I would tell him something, but he never listens, changes the topic, and then blames me that I’m not telling him things. Blah…

ouch! i remember my ex used to get really upset about this kind of thing too - talking about 'issues' was off limits between us, but then when i finally put my foot down and headed to a pdoc it became a case of 'why didnt you ever tell me...' .

Originally Posted by treehouse

My H wouldn't "let" me go to therapy for years, even though I needed to. I know NOW that I could have gone anyway, but I didn't know how to stand up for myself, and I didn't know how to ask for help (would need people to watch kids), etc.

When I finally really crashed a little over a year and a half ago, H reluctantly agreed that I should see someone. I think he's really glad now that I go to therapy. There were some rough patches at first as I learned to express my needs more and become more assertive...he was used to me catering to everyone's every need (except mine!). Now he likes it. He says it's like I'm in color, and I was in black and white before. I ONLY felt "stressed" or "happy" before therapy - now I have a range of emotions and can express them most of the time and he likes that (go figure!)

(((((((((((((((Deli))))))))))))))))) It has to be really hard having your dad be so unsupportive. I totally agree with what you said about him talking to p-doc and invading your safe space. I hope you can keep that boundary...it's really not his business. YOU are getting better, and that's what matters.

thanks for sharing, sweetie. i totally understand not being 'allowed' to go - my parents were like this (when i first tried to get help for self harm in high school) and then my ex was like this a few years later when i really started to slump. eventually i ended up there because it just became a case of me not being able to do anything else.

i have noticed some of my relationships change as a result of therapy, and not always for the better. e.g., the ex who was used to me doing everything didn't like it when i finally found my voice and started to say 'no' (we broke up 6 months later because i'd started becoming "selfish").

thanks for the support with dad, darling. it's an anathema to him that this is one aspect of my life i'm being firm on and not letting him control...

Originally Posted by cmac13

My husband knows I am in therapy and is supportive and does not care I have been seeing her forever (18 yrs) . At first I think he was jealous and thought all I talked about was him. Not true, my issues have nothinmg to do with him but from very early life experiences. My cousins know and a few of my friends but they do not know how long or the reasons for my going. I am blessed with good insurance and both my husband and I have good jobs to cover the cost so money is not an issue at this time. I go once a week and have to say that my relationship with my therapist has totally changed my life course and I am lucky to be able to know her all of this time.

this is awesome, cmac!! i understand the jealousy, but how wonderful for you that your husband can also look beyond that to see how much you benefit from this .

Originally Posted by chaotic13

My H was not supportive at all.He would make stupid comment and say stuff to undermined my going. At this point, I don't tell him when I go unless he puts me into a position where I have no choice-- I do lie. He went once and lost it. I think he thinks all we do is talk about him. Which I've told him repeatedly that its not. I would like to share more about it but his negativity drains me.

yes... for the first 2 years of seeing pdoc, i lied to my parents also. i eventually told them because i thought it could be in my sister's best interests to know (she went through a 8 month period of psychosis) but i regret that now, as all it did was to muddy the waters - her pdoc just wanted to diagnose her with the same thing i had and treat her the same way (with scant regard for the fact that i'd never experienced a total break from reality like that, and my sister had never been clinically depressed ).

i think for my sanity i am going to have to work out a different system next semester (when my uni timetable changes). i used to feel bad about lying, but like you said - the negativity is draining. i had a pretty good session with my T today, came back all optimistic, and then dad started on at me and i completely unravelled.

Originally Posted by Amazonmom

My hubby is very supportive. He is the one who kept telling me that he would love and support me no matter what, but he wanted me to get some help because he hated seeing me suffer.

Sometimes he is a teensy bit jealous that the T can help me where he could not. But he is human, I can forgive him that. He also said that he is proud of me for putting 100% effort into the therapy-he knew that I didn't want to go in the first place.

My family doesn't know, and I don't plan on telling them. It wouldn't ever be of any benefit to me. They have issues with mental illnesses. My two good buddies know and they are fine with it.

most of my good friends know, and all of them are pretty good about it. sometimes they say things like "oh, just talk to us about your problems instead" or "just go have a beer" (yuck!) but i think that's pretty normal, too, because they don't understand the extent of what i'm dealing with sometimes.

one of my friends, because we share a similar trauma history, is actually the least supportive because she's "recovered" already and i haven't. i've learnt it doesn't help me to keep her involved anymore. but all of my other friends are good.

Originally Posted by MissCharlotte

(Deli)

It is difficult to be your own person amidst such resistance but I think you are doing a wonderful job of self care by seeing your T and pdoc, eating the right foods, and taking your meds. It doesn't sound like you will find the kind of support your are looking for at home. One of the most difficult lessons I had to learn was not to look to my sibs for emotional support because they are incapable of it.

My H is very supportive and so are my kids. They all know T's name and I talk freely in front of and to them about different aspects of my personal growth. Of course, I don't advertise the deep and painful parts of my intimacy with T, but my overall H and sons (sounds like a lawfirm, lol) accept my relationship and know it is for my best health. They all know when I have an appointment, where I am, etc. And, my son goes to the same pdoc, and we often go on the same day and share the gas expense.

You are truly growing! Good work.

thank you miss C! yes... it's difficult to be so resistant and to stand up for myself all the time. dad keeps buying me foods that he knows i'm not allowed, and then he flies off the handle when i refuse to eat it. i am actually starting to worry a bit that he will start sneaking bad foods into stuff and giving it to me without telling. e.g., cheese is something i'm not allowed to eat, but it's difficult to know it's there if it's been melted in with everything else. i have tried explaining that it could lead to really bad consequences for me (bleeding in the brain, but i haven't said that) but he just gets more angry and says that's all the more reason not to be taking them in the first place.

i definitely do not look to my family for emotional support. everything i discuss in therapy is off limits to them - they do not know a single thing about how i am travelling. it's just that they (dad in particular) will not respect this boundary, and keeps trying to control me. i don't know how to enforce it any stronger other than to start lying (so they no longer know im even in therapy). but that comes with its own problems, because i'd need to make sure i didn't socialise too much, or go to the library too much, or to uni or whatever, because everything ****ing thing i do in this household is monitored and brought up against me at a later date .

if i were financially secure i'd move out, but i'm stuck with what i've got for the moment, i guess.

i love how open everything is in your family.

Originally Posted by lifelesstraveled

my ex-boyfriend(who i still talk to) is very supportive about it, even before we broke up. He says he noticed a change in me, which is happy about and probably sparked his renewed interest in me.

my twin sister does not like the idea of me going to see a therapist or about the fact that I am considering medication. I am not sure why she is not supportive. instead she calls me crazy and turns her nose up

my parents do not know about it. I dont feel the need to tell them. they never cared what i was doing in the past, so telling them about it wasnt even something on my to do list. it's really because of them I am in therapy and if i told them that i'd probably hurt their feelings, which sometimes i fantasize about doing just b/c they hurt me--but that's a story for another day, another time

one of my good friends knows I am in therapy and she supports it, as she is in therapy herself.

LLT - ouch from your twin sister! i hate when ppl call us names in an attempt to shame us into doing whatever they want for us to do.

and lol - i think i've told my folks i'm in therapy because of them on a number of occassions. it never works. they don't care, and they use it as further ammunition against me anyway. (but it does feel good to say it).

[pachyderm]

I do not have any friends close enough (except through Psych Central) that I feel OK about sharing a whole lot about being in therapy. It would be nice if that were different.

good question!

with me...the entire free world knows i go to therapy (and they are probably happy that i do!)...most of my friends know that tuesday is therapy day, and that if t says the world if flat well then it probably is.

they are for the most part very supportive..and honestly if they weren't i wouldn't care. i like t, i think she works wonders so.

last year the docs decided i was bipolar and tried (and tried and tried) to find the right meds for me. from 11/07 to 08/08 i was horribly overmedicated...lost most of my memory, fell down stairs damaged my shoulkder, got blood clots, some brain damage, etc and every side effect that is that tiny little print in those little handouts for every med they put me on.

the pdoc while he tried to help kept prescribing away, my regular doc kept charging along and my t kept trying to help...i guess i showed up drugged and all for every session...even tho i could barely talk.

my friends fought with me to lose all 3...i was too sick to do that...some are still angry with me over that...honestly i like all 3 doc's...even the pdoc...i liked him before the "dark period"

anyway..as far as my family...oh i'm sure my family would have a ton to say about me going to see a t...most if not all of it bad...but then they would be the cause of me going so what would you expect...but since they are way out of the picture i'm not worried about them.

i do have one friend who has decided that she needs to see a t and figured out that the only one she will see is mine. just like the only other extra things she joined were some things i do...thats getting a bit old...stumpy needs some space...

[searchingmysoul]

(((((deli)))))

Most people in my life know that I go to T. Some are more accepting than others of this, it seems to be a continuum. My DH is very supportive and knows my T personally as well because we went to her for couple's T for approx 8 months. He says that he thinks she's the "perfect T for me". Maybe because he got to check her out? I don't think he really thinks about it other than what I tell him and we talk very openly about my therapy stuff. I have several close friends who know and are supportive. Some of them I talk openly about what happens in the session some just know I go and some reasons/benefits for me. My siblings know I go to T and I have been somewhat open about this with them. My parents do not know probably for the reasons you mentioned in your original post. The primary reason I go to T is to work through all of what I experienced at their hands. This has me reluctant to talk about it at all with them anyway. I am not currently in a place where I am strong enough to defend myself against them if they were to be hostile about it so I don't mention it to them.

Take care Deli. It sounds like you parents a extremely difficult to have peace with. It also sounds like their extremely strong reactions are because of their own insecurities.

[Elysium]

Both sides of my family know that I am in therapy and working on "MY" issues. "MY" being the key word there. They refuse to realize that the reason I have "MY" issues is because I was impacted by their issues when they chose to abuse and neglect me.

They think I need help, but they think I'm just mental and that they played no role in me needing to seek that help. It is very frustrating. My father wants access to my T's, but I said NO!! He does not even acknowledge that his behaviors were abusive....in fact, he calls me "an abusive child". WTF!?!

I tell the truth in therapy and I have never lied or inflamed my perceptions to get sympathy. My dad is really good at telling people that he is innocent and winning people over. He can be very charming, yet very manipulative at the same time. I worry if I do let him talk with my T's, my T's will start to believe him and he will destroy those important relationships.

My mother is quite supportive and understands my needing to seek therapy. I think she's the only one.

[peaches100]

My h knows i go to therapy and is OK with it, since he also goes to therapy with his t. The only thing my h doesn't like about me going to therapy is my attachment to t, which he thinks is not natural and that i should feel the same way about my t that I'd feel about my dentist, chiropractor, etc. . .strictly professional and not personally attached.

I never talk to my parents or sister about my therapy. I told my parents when i first started going, and my dad didn't seem supportive, saying "Yes, but is it helping you or hurting you?" My parents and sister have never shown any interest in my therapy or asked anything about my issues, not even after i was hospitalized for suicidal thinking. They just pretend it never happened and that i don't have issues. When i was at my sickest and had gone from 138 to 112 pounds (people at work thought i might have cancer), my dad told me I looked "too thin," but never acknowledged my mental state or asked how he could help me.

Also, the couple of times I've brought up with my mom some of the things that hurt me/caused problems for me in my childhood, my mom has refused to acknowledge it. She has said "I can't think of anything about your childhood that would have caused you problems today, except that we left you with babysitters alot." (Of course, she never mentioned my dad's repeated drunkenness or my SA.) My mom is ultra-ultra positive and dismisses talk of anything unpleasant.

So I get no support at all from them for my mental/emotional issues.

My in-laws know i go to a counselor and are kind of neutral about it. I don't share anything with them about what i do in therapy -- they just know that i go.

I don't have any close friends right now, and of my work mates and acquaintaces in my congregation, there are a couple of people who know i go to therapy, but again, we don't talk about it. I hesitate to talk about being in therapy to my congregation members because even though our religion doesn't frown on therapy per se, alot of people believe that if you're spiritually strong and have a good relationship with God, then that relationship and your hope for God's coming new world should enable you to be happy and not let your emotions/hurts get you down. It is also stressed that we need to be very cautious about relying on human wisdom that is not based on God's word, which makes some view psychotherapy as potentially spiritually dangerous.

[peaches100]

Sometimes, i wish that i had more support for going to therapy and could talk about what i'm learning and doing there. Without the ability to do that, I have to fight the feeling that going to therapy is "my dirty little secret." At least my husband supports my going to therapy. I am grateful for that.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by peaches100

Sometimes, i wish that i had more support for going to therapy and could talk about what i'm learning and doing there. Without the ability to do that, I have to fight the feeling that going to therapy is "my dirty little secret." At least my husband supports my going to therapy. I am grateful for that.

family: those who know are supportive but I can't talk to them about it.
Friends: those TWO who know are supportive but I can't talk to them about it.
My DH knows and is in no way supportive - in no way at all. and as far as talking about it,e it is The Elephant In the Room
THANK YOU Peaches, you have put it well.
I guess that's why I am so grateful to find the PC community.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

dad has been really furious with me lately - ever since i started seeing new-T. he keeps making fun of me for going, saying he could fix me himself, that all i need is to stop being lazy etc.

Deli, what do you think is behind his anger? Is he upset that therapy costs so much money? Does he see your needing therapy as a negative reflection on him (no daughter of mine needs therapy!)?

dad wants me to stop these meds, and wants to talk to my pdoc about why i even need to be on meds to begin with.

I would find that highly insulting. Why can't he ask you and have you explain? Why does he have to go "over your head" to speak to the doctor? Doesn't he believe you when you tell him why you are taking ADs?

pdoc has said he is happy to talk to dad, but i don't want to let dad into my only safe space. i know dad will only ridicule pdoc afterwards and run him down.

I understand completely and would not let Dad near pdoc.

he knows now because i'm only doing one subject, and i'm home most of the week so i only leave the house for an hour or two at a time

Deli, it sounds like your dad is in your business too much. Is there any way you can spend more time away from home? After your class at uni, could you stay on campus at the library to do some studying? Or maybe do some grocery shopping, or go to a coffee shop? Then maybe it won't be so noticeable when you do go to see a T. I'm not suggesting you hide going to a T, but just that it might be healthy to not have your parents so closely aware of the details of your life. (Deli, I'm assuming you are an adult.)

mum also thinks im stupid to go to T

Why? No respect for people who need "help"?

I did have an instance about a year ago when I told my mother I was seeing a PNP and she was treating me for ADHD. My mom got kind of angry and said in a loud voice, vehemently, "you do not have ADD!!" I don't know what her issue was. I don't care. I have good healthcare and if that bugs her, that's her problem not mine.

Deli, I hope you can set some boundaries. It must be very hurtful and aggravating to hear your parents trashing your care and providers.

[romanjames2004]

The majority of the people in my life think that I am just in it becasue I am bored or something. Most people I know, unfortuntaley, don't really understand the effects that it has. Little do they know, I use psychology on them every second of the day lol.

I hope my opinion helps.

Thanks'

Roman

[sunrise]

I first went to therapy went I was ultra depressed and did not know where to go with my marriage and how to get out. My H and I talked and I told him I was going to go to a counselor and he said he would too, and so we were both going to work on the problem. So I went to a therapist who was not that great, in retrospect, and my H knew I went. We didn't talk about it. I sometimes paid her with a check and sometimes cash, because I didn't want H knowing every time I went since it was my business/health, not his (and we had a joint checking account). After a half year or so I quit going to see this T, but never told H I had quit. We were not sharing many details of our lives at that point. After a number of months, I began with another T (my current guy) and did not mention this to H either--he thought I was still with the old one, if at all, and really, he had no interest in me or my life. I was part of the furniture. I never asked if he was going to a therapist, but assumed he was, since we had both said that was something we were going to do to get help. (It turned out he never went to anyone.)

I had told both of my sisters I had a therapist, and in fact, one sister provided the connection that found me my second (and beloved) T. They had both seen therapists before (which I had not known), so it was no big deal to them. At some point I also told my mother, and she did not seem to mind. I have also told a few friends. It seems not a big deal among the people I know.

Eventually I reached a point where I was ready to be very firm about getting a divorce and invited my H to come to see my T with me to discuss "where we were headed." At that meeting, I told H I wanted a divorce, and T was there to support me and make sure it went OK. After that, we began couples therapy with my T. My T and I are very close and I think my H must have seen that. I think it is very big of him to not have a problem with that, but to go to therapy and ignore our prior relationship. I think a lot of guys would have been spooked by that.

My T told me that a lot of times, husbands who are getting divorced are really glad to know their wives have a therapist. It helps relieve them of guilt and the worry that their spouse will be "OK." "She has a therapist to help, so she will not be devasted by my scummy actions...

Even after we finished with couples therapy, I kept seeing T, and my H has never said anything against him or hassled me for spending so much money on therapy (I pay 100% out of pocket for therapy). My H likes T and has never acted jealous or angry or anything about T. I can't say he liked that I was seeing a therapist. Really, he didn't care much about anything in my life.

Originally Posted by Elysium3006

I worry if I do let him talk with my T's, my T's will start to believe him and he will destroy those important relationships.

There was a time about 6 months ago when things really turned downhill for me and my H, and our divorce was about to fall apart. At this time, T was trying to help us stay present in the process and dealing with my trememdous hurt (my H had become very hostile and hurtful to me), and he wanted to see my H individually. In theory, I was OK with this, since T had been so helpful to us as a couple, but I became afraid of just what you were saying, Elysium. My H was being so hostile to me, and he knew how much I liked T, that I was afraid he would go to individually meet with T and totally trash me to T and turn T against me and say all sorts of crap and try to ruin my relationship with T. I shared that fear with T and T reassured me he would never change his mind about me because he knew the real me, he knew my soul and the truth. That was reassuring. H and T ended up meeting only once alone for about 45 minutes preceding a legal meeting. I wondered what was going on, but I survived, and hopefully whatever went on was helpful.

[skeksi]

pdoc has said he is happy to talk to dad, but i don't want to let dad into my only safe space. i know dad will only ridicule pdoc afterwards and run him down.

Oh, I get this completely. My T has suggested bringing in my family (I"m an adult) to resolve things from the past, and I totally freaked out and told him I'd never come back if he kept suggesting it. T is MY safe person, and I don't want to contaminate him by letting them near him.

My family knows nothing about my T or my diagnosis. It's private, and I don't think they could be respectful the way I need them to be. Several of my close friends know, though. I am not sure what they think, but when something is upsetting me, they will ask, "Did you see your doctor? Did it help?" so I think they see it as valuable to me.

[Lifsuks]

Hi deli,
I'm so glad you started this thread! I thought I was the only one who hasn't told family or friends that I was seeing a T. I thought it was the norm to let at least family know. I don't tell anyone in my family because they are so judgmental and would say stuff like I was just moody or grouchy or something like that. I have not told even my 2 closest friends because one of them would report this to others, then the whole world would know--can't trust her. I can just hear all those "mental" jokes. I want to, but hesitate telling my other friend, probably because I'm afraid she may accidentally say something in front of the other friend. So, the only people who know that I am in therapy are my T. and my chiropractor. Yes, my chiropractor because he is the one who referred me to my T. when he suspected I had depression. I haven't even told my regular dr.(MD) about my depression and that I was seeing a T. When I asked my T. whether I should let her know, he just told me that it was up to me and not necessary. I think I hesitate telling my dr. because I don't want her to give me any meds or refer me to a Pdoc. Anyway, I hope all will get better for you with your dad. Take care.
p.s. my Kitty Angel knows; she is the only one I can talk to outside of my T's office, besides my journal.

[deliquesce]

just wanted to thank everyone for responding here. it is reassuring that a lot of people have chosen not to tell their immediate family, kind of makes me feel a bit better in thinking maybe i need to start putting distance with that also.

i do hope to reply to everyone here eventually... i think it's just a bit of a sore issue at the moment for me (dad's going from hot to cold all the time) and i think i just need my head to be empty for a little while... so i can fill it up with uni assignments instead .

but thank you to everyone who replied and gave me support... just want you to know i'm still reading.

[Lifsuks]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

just wanted to thank everyone for responding here. it is reassuring that a lot of people have chosen not to tell their immediate family, kind of makes me feel a bit better in thinking maybe i need to start putting distance with that also.

i do hope to reply to everyone here eventually... i think it's just a bit of a sore issue at the moment for me (dad's going from hot to cold all the time) and i think i just need my head to be empty for a little while... so i can fill it up with uni assignments instead .

but thank you to everyone who replied and gave me support... just want you to know i'm still reading.

Hey deli,
It's nice of you to, but you really don't have to answer every reply. I feel that we're all family here and we reply to lend a shoulder or an ear, or to offer some comfort while sharing our similar experiences. I think most of us just want to help in whatever small way we can. And we get to put our 2 cents in!! Take care...