[myoasis89]

when this guy first arrived at the house (he's renting a suite in the same house) he saw me and became attracted....he would not leave me alone when i told him to...i told him I had a bf...he would bang on my door when he had been drinking....he would get upset that I didn't want to be his gf and slam the door...i yelled at him to stop slamming things and he started crying.

he asked me to come into his room...which was a big mistake...i did it to be friends and maybe stop this abuse...he would touch and carress me and I didn't like it...he would constantly want me to be around him...if I went out he would think it's my bf and get upset...he would rub his **** against me when i was upstairs...I would tell him to stop and he wouldn't

finally I slept with him...he fell instantly in love with me...wnated me to break up with my bf...i didn't want to...he got upset...I wanted a friend not a lover

he didn't understand this...now he's going back to mexico and i'm attatched to him...

i feel different feelings...I'm 20 by the way...moved out at 18...I don't know much about men but from this situation I've learned alot...i used to be innocent...and now I realise how complicated relaitonships are....I feel abandonned and lost...I feel like I have no one to go to...and that I've been taking care of this guy emotionally...I won't leave him because I'm afraid to be alone again...i just want someone to love me for me

[Gleak]

Originally Posted by myoasis89

when this guy first arrived at the house (he's renting a suite in the same house) he saw me and became attracted....he would not leave me alone when i told him to...i told him I had a bf...he would bang on my door when he had been drinking....he would get upset that I didn't want to be his gf and slam the door...i yelled at him to stop slamming things and he started crying.

he asked me to come into his room...which was a big mistake...i did it to be friends and maybe stop this abuse...he would touch and carress me and I didn't like it...he would constantly want me to be around him...if I went out he would think it's my bf and get upset...he would rub his **** against me when i was upstairs...I would tell him to stop and he wouldn't

finally I slept with him...he fell instantly in love with me...wnated me to break up with my bf...i didn't want to...he got upset...I wanted a friend not a lover

he didn't understand this...now he's going back to mexico and i'm attatched to him...

i feel different feelings...I'm 20 by the way...moved out at 18...I don't know much about men but from this situation I've learned alot...i used to be innocent...and now I realise how complicated relaitonships are....I feel abandonned and lost...I feel like I have no one to go to...and that I've been taking care of this guy emotionally...I won't leave him because I'm afraid to be alone again...i just want someone to love me for me

Hey there,

I'm no expert on relationships, but i've traveled down a rocky road or two during one. I'll be the first one to tell you right now that what i'm about to say... is probably not what you want to hear. I'm merely going to give my opinion as honestly as possible. Please don't take it the wrong way.

First things first, I see entirely too many red flags in what you're saying. If I were in your shoes, I never would have let it go as far as things did.

Please read, and then re-read all of the quotes that you typed that I bolded.

You're obviously in a spot in your life where you're feeling desperate. I know the feeling and have been in those shoes myself. You say all that you want is somebody to Love you for who you are.

Well, You cheated on your boyfriend with an abusive and very persistent man who, the way you describe it... has a drinking problem. That is now a part of who you are. I'm not saying it makes you a bad person, not at all.

No matter what you say - you need to follow up with action, as actions speak louder than words and cheating on your boyfriend says a lot about your character.

You said that you told this man that you had a boyfriend and he persisted to pursue you. Probably not the type you want to hang around with for too long. You stood up for yourself by telling him not to slam things (the doors?). Good for you!

However, I think he may have taken advantage of what I perceive as sensitivity. You stood up to him and he saw an opportunity and he began to cry. You probably felt sorry for him (as this is probably what he had in mind) and let your guard down. He took advantage and got you in bed.

IF you truly care about your boyfriend - You absolutely MUST tell him about this experience. Granted, he won't like it. Clear, open and honest communication is THE ONLY WAY a relationship can work.

If you lie to your boyfriend, you are only hurting yourself and essentially dooming your relationship with him.

I hope that in some way, this post helps you out. Take care and stay away from guys like the one you just posted about. They're no good for you or your boyfriend.