[cnjxhyzzz]

Hi,i have a problem with my boyfriend recently and i cant just get over it by myself, so im seeking help here. I have noticed my boyfriend keeps checking on another girl's page on a networking website just like facebook because it shows the list of recent visitors. Right after checking my page, my boyfriend tends to check on that girl's. It has been for a while, but recently i feel extremely insecure because of the long-distance thing. i sent email to ask my boyfriend why he always checks that girl's page? usually people wont check your girlfriend's page and click on another girl's right after that. and im pretty sure that there is no third girl, just her.

i know my boyfriend had a crush on her before he met me, and he admits that. i have to say that the girl is such a ***** and my boyfriend also agrees that she likes fooling around even though she has a boyfriend too. Before my boyfriend started relationship with me, the girl lied to him saying that she was single but actually she was not. at that time, her boyfriend also told my boyfriend to back-off. but recently, they broke up and she is avaliable again. i guess they keep chatting online and she even tells my boyfriend what horrible things she has done on her ex-boyfriend. i guess she just needs attention not just from only one person to prove that she is attractive.

my boyfriend also says that he wont consider her as girlfriend because she is not a good girl. but he is really courious about her and find her stories interesting. He says that he has never thought about cheating on me, not even in dreams. he keeps saying that im more pretty, sexy and smart than her.

i know he might not find her as girlfriend and he keeps saying that he has no feeling for her now just couriosity. but i just feel horrible insecure because she is such a ***** and her existence is so dangerous.

Am i too sensitive since nothing really happens to them so far? Should I be jealous and suspecious? Am i right to remind him not to cross the line? this is the first time i got into relationship. i just want my boyfriend to stay away from her. im so pissed off by her sharing "secrets" or heart-broken breaking-up things with my boyfriend. my boyfriend keeps saying that he wanna make me happy. but definitely, his couriosity doesnt make me feel happy instead insecure.

PS: im pretty sure she has lots of backups besides my boyfriend. i hate her!!!!!!!

[jerrymichele]

Sorry that this is painful for you. If you know that he has had a crush on this girl, and he is chatting with her than this to me is a BIG RED FLAG. Just IMO I think that he's playing the both of you. If you don't mind me asking why are you in a long distance relationship? You can't just the blame the girl either. Your bf knows right from wrong. If you tell him that this makes you feel insecure, and he continues to chat with her than he's disrespecting you. If you let him do this to you then he's just going to keep doing it. I would cut the strings now. That's just me.

[cnjxhyzzz]

thank you for your replying my thread. we are both college student. since im international student, i will go back to my home country during summer. thats why we are having a long distance relationship now. i dont really know how often my boyfriend chats with that girl, but he does send me email and leave messages almost everyday. he is working at camp during summer, so he might not have that much time on internet. i just dont get it why he checks that girl's page every time he checks mine, which makes me feel that she is as important as me. he explains that he is just courious about her, but i still feel insecure because he had a crush on her before. the wierd thing is she keeps telling my boyfriend how badly she treats hers, is that the way she trys to get attention from others? i cant tell my boyfriend is just really courious about her or he kinda likes her in deep mind but he doesnt wanna admit it. if he is only courious about her, i have sent email and tell him to stay away from her and draw a line between him and her. he didnt return my email yet...

[jerrymichele]

Originally Posted by cnjxhyzzz

thank you for your replying my thread. we are both college student. since im international student, i will go back to my home country during summer. thats why we are having a long distance relationship now. i dont really know how often my boyfriend chats with that girl, but he does send me email and leave messages almost everyday. he is working at camp during summer, so he might not have that much time on internet. i just dont get it why he checks that girl's page every time he checks mine, which makes me feel that she is as important as me. he explains that he is just courious about her, but i still feel insecure because he had a crush on her before. the wierd thing is she keeps telling my boyfriend how badly she treats hers, is that the way she trys to get attention from others? i cant tell my boyfriend is just really courious about her or he kinda likes her in deep mind but he doesnt wanna admit it. if he is only courious about her, i have sent email and tell him to stay away from her and draw a line between him and her. he didnt return my email yet...

Just be careful because you don't know.