[Queenie55]

Since my mother died brothers have been mean,took my belongings
and sister in law sent about 6 emails when mom was dying -very mean
Yesterday i made a friends call to brother
I was planing to go to CA to visit Aunt but now I really
want to ,i cancelld and now want to go
I am single and lost without mother

[jerrymichele]

Welcome to PC. Sorry to hear about your loss. Why did your brothers take your belongings? Did you decide not to go to CA because of your brother? Keep posting.

[Queenie55]

I am not going because I don't have a job and in the long run i won't see her
much
My brother and wife-she acts in control of my mother's family are going to rich mansion
on the ocean-with mother's sister and bf- I am very hurt about my brother and
and his wife- mean sending emails to me- and then she is so nice to aunts
IF I DOB"T CALL OR SEND CARDS THEN I DON"T HaVE TO ANSWER
cousin sent email asking why I am not in touch with her
when never called me during the worse part of my live- taking care o dying parents
No card - so I stopped and she sends this- should i answer>

[jerrymichele]

Yes I would say something to her. I would also say something to your brother and wife. I would tell the wife to stop disrespecting you.

[lotusflames]

firstly, i'm really sorry to hear that you have lost your mother and that your family are being as they are.

have you tried to talk to them about how they make you feel? It may just be that it is grief that makes them act the way they are towards you!

Please don't let them stop you from visiting the rest of your family though.