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Aug 06, 2009, 04:56 PM
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My girlfriend and i have been dating each for a little over a year. A month into our relationship she cheated on me with my friend. Because of that night, i have had problems being sexual with her. When we have sex i see them having sex. I can't get these pictures out of my head and its bothering our sex life. Everything we do in bed reminds me of what they did in bed and its really causing a problem with our relationship. Will this go on forever? Should we even be together? Am I the one to blame for our sexual problems even though she cheated on me?
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Aug 07, 2009, 06:13 AM
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Why did u stay with a woman that wld cheat with your friend. You were not responsible for her actions. She was totally in the wrong. If you love this girl and want it to work out you will need to discuss your concerns whether just the two of you or with councilor
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Aug 09, 2009, 08:59 AM
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I agree with what Bridgie said. The problem is hers, not yours. The only problem you have is whether you think the relationship is worth trying to work through or not. I couldn't trust someone after they cheated on me, it would end the relationship. But every one is different, you have to be honest with yourself as to how you feel. Don't blame yourself for how you feel, accept your feelings and go on from there.
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Aug 09, 2009, 09:06 AM
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walk away... she cheated you, you are not to blame...i am sorry it happened to you...
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Aug 09, 2009, 09:48 AM
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She also blames me for our lack of sex. Is it my fault that i sometimes have a problem being intimate with her because of her cheating? Am I to to blame?
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Aug 10, 2009, 11:44 AM
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No, I don't blame you for a lack of sex. I came to you and asked what happened because after 10 months together it stopped. I tried to communicate with you about it. I never BLAMED you. Like I said before, this came about recently and during me TRYING to get you to talk about what went wrong with us sexually, you didn't mention this as a problem. You told me, and I quote "I am just not horny". Then two or three weeks later you told me, and I quote, "It is just work stress, that is IT". So, please don't make it out to seem as if I am some insensitive cold person. When you choose to not tell me how you are feeling, I am unable to help or be there. And thank you for mentioning in your post how I have done everything in my power to save us and be the woman you deserve.
I completely understand that this is difficult for you to deal with, I want to be there, so open up and let me help all I can!!! I want to make you the happiest man on earth. I love you, respect you, and admire you.. You are my halo.. Last edited by gagirlinpc; Aug 10, 2009 at 12:37 PM. |
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