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Aug 14, 2009, 05:40 PM
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I have a bit of a dilemma
 I'm currently trying out internet dating . Anyway , to make a long story short . I have this woman who I only talked to about 4 times and it wasn't much of anything really. Today she asked me if I would go with her to a wedding reception dance with her tomorrow night. I have social anxiety  I messaged her and told her I didn't like crowds and I would like to get to know her better first. I just got home and just as I thought , a message asking if I would like to go out anyway , just the two of us. I don't even know what she looks like (but that doesn't matter a whole lot) . It's been so long since I dated I don't know how to handle this one.  I'm scared I'll scare her away without gettinga chance to know her . She's not aware of my mental illnesses. Any suggestions .
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Aug 14, 2009, 05:50 PM
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Babysteps09...I'm no expert on dating, internet or otherwise but...pardon the pun?...why don't you take a leaf from your own name? Take the babystep of just accepting this womans offer as JUST a friend who happens to be a woman. What more can she expect on a first "date"? Take the view that most women wanna be friends first...it's impossible to long-term date an enemy LOL!
And as for your mental health problems...she doesn't need to know that straight away! Let her get to know you as a person first and...if you both hit it off, if she's a decent woman...your mental health shouldn't matter to her! Just take the first baby step, relax and enjoy! Just my opinion as a woman LOL. 
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Aug 14, 2009, 05:58 PM
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I agree!! Just maybe meet for lunch and drive separately. Let her get to know you...as hard as it is..try to relax. You don't have to share everything with her right away. Get her to talk about herself! And do what you do best..listen!! You are a very good listener!!!
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Aug 14, 2009, 06:26 PM
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No advice... I don't know anything about this kind of things
 Just wanted to wish you... Good luck 
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Aug 14, 2009, 08:38 PM
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Baby go for it.
 Meet her somewhere and go from there. This is a baby step. I know that you can do it.
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Aug 15, 2009, 01:26 AM
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Starbucks baby...starbucks
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Aug 15, 2009, 08:51 PM
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Quote:
No Starbucks here my friend . Tim Horton's . Thanks for the reply
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Aug 15, 2009, 08:54 PM
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AWWWWWWwwwwwwwww....
Be your own, wonderfully natural self, (relax some), allow her to talk freely of self, remain attentive....Soooo natural for you...and humor her. Meet in an area that's comfy for you without causing too much unnecessary anxiety..for either of you...remain hopeful and calm...All will be fine. I'm so excited for you.....Yay, Chris! Let us know the goodies afterwards....lmao! Best of luck! Shangrala 
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#9
Aug 15, 2009, 09:44 PM
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hey
i agree with all the above posters, you got sooo much encouragement here, major props, and because you deserve it. i hope you went out and had a coffee ((heck, i lived in quebec for two yrs and i know the dif between hortons and starbucks, lol)) and had a chatty chat with this woman. any time we make an effort, take a step (no pun intended) to reach out to another human being - we are improving life on planet earth we are not here forever we have an expiration date so let's live not merely, exist ((hugs)) xx
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