[Katileena]

Does anyone feel just hopeless in relationships? In the past 4 years I've had numerous boyfriends, none lasting more than 3 months. They all end for different reasons, but it just makes me wonder...WTF is wrong with me? Should I just give up trying because all guys frustrate the hell out of me!! I mean, I know I'm attractive, because I never have a problem getting a guys attention. But when it actually comes to starting and keeping a relationship going, I'm completely lost. Because nothing ever works.

I feel like my obsession with being in a healthy relationship is holding me back in my school and future career. Sometimes it's all I think about. I hate being alone! I just want someone else to share things with...why is it so hard? I guess when it comes to love, I'm clueless....because I don't know what it is or how to get it.

[bluebird2]

Katileena:

I am terrible at relationships. I just can't transition well into physical intimacy, and I date random people whom I'm not really that interested in.

It's terrible. I wish I had better things to tell you, but you're far from being alone!

[Seabirdanne]

You need to review what all your past relationships had in common -- especially in the first stages, since you have rarely gotten beyond that. You must be choosing the wrong type of guy for some reason. Ask yourself why you decided to try a relationship with each particular guy, and why he turned out to be the wrong guy -- then go from there. And maybe you don't even really want a traditional "relationship" at this time. This is one of those things everyone has to sort of work out for themselves. Good luck.

[turquoisesea]

it could be anything, but essentially it hasn't been the right guy, right place, right time. You need to grow and learn how to be in a relationship, and magic has to happen to find the right person, place, and time. What you can do to help that happen is prepare yourself by trying to think about how you could improve your relationship skills, but also by keeping trying! Good luck