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Old Aug 24, 2009, 03:30 PM
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i started "dating" after a long period of time after my divorce. every single guy i went out with rejected me. i feel like crap. i met them thru dating websites. we had good conversations and more with a couple of them. they all fell apart. i know it can't be everyone else it has to be me. what is it? i am not unattractive but i know i am not pretty. i am not slim or shapely but i am not grotesque either. Mind you in my line of work i see all kinds of people attached. SO WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? i am so tired of being lonely. i need some answers, please.

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Old Aug 24, 2009, 07:00 PM
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I'm sorry that your feeling bad about this. Dating can suck sometimes. You will find somebody. I have a bf now, and it took me a long time to find someone who I clicked with. I really don't think it's you. I think that it's part of the dating game. what the heck is wrong with me?





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Old Aug 24, 2009, 08:02 PM
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i started "dating" after a long period of time after my divorce. every single guy i went out with rejected me. i feel like crap. i met them thru dating websites. we had good conversations and more with a couple of them. they all fell apart. i know it can't be everyone else it has to be me. what is it? i am not unattractive but i know i am not pretty. i am not slim or shapely but i am not grotesque either. Mind you in my line of work i see all kinds of people attached. SO WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? i am so tired of being lonely. i need some answers, please.
Sorry to hear about you dating experience....But just to let u know there are a ton of players out there, especially on the net. Be very careful on who u open up to.....give it lots of time. If they are worth it they will wait. Hope this helps a bit.
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Old Aug 25, 2009, 09:20 PM
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Hi and let me too say I am sorry this keeps happening to you. I am a practical person and so bear with me because I am going to give you some practical advice.

1. Make a list of everything that bothered you about your ex husband. From pitching his socks on the floor to slurps his soup...
2. Write down things you don't necessarily like but could live with.
3. Now move onto yourself..pros and cons..be honest.
4. Never get really personal on a first date. He doesn't need to know why your ex is an ex. If he asks, he is fishing and it's none of his business. The first few dates should be light and fun..getting to see if personalities are compatible if you have things in common not whether you want children and if you make more than he does.

That should help you narrow down what you are looking for and what you can and are prepared to live with. I am not saying to start a date with 20 questions but it can help when your reading profiles. It also sounds like your a really nice person and that you may be trying too hard. Some men may mistake this for someone who is desperate for a relationship..any relationship and that's enough to not stick around for a second date.

And lastly...good luck. He is out there. My sister was married to a man for a long time. They divorced and she was separated for 13 yrs. She met a guy, didn't think he was the one but they ended up married and he is the love of her life and they have an amazing relationship. She met him through an online dating service. You might also want to branch out who says you have to stick with just one right!!

Last edited by katie14; Aug 25, 2009 at 09:22 PM. Reason: last paragraph appeared second to last didn't make sense
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