[ammbs]

My ex and I dated for almost two years. He is in the military and I ended it with him in May '09 because he was going over-sea's and to be honest I couldn't handle not seeing him anymore. In the two years we dated we hardly saw each other due to his job and my job. (Sorry for the back story, it just helps to make the story make sense) Anyways, in February a girl messaged me asking if I was dating "scumbag" and I was like yes, and asked her why. She then proceeded to tell me that he was cheating on me with her, and that he told her he loved her and sent her pictures all the time. This bothered me because I found him on an online dating site, saying he was single so I made a fake account, and he hit on me. That was the first time we broke up, and stupid me took him back. Sorry, I'll get back to the story. So, when he came back from being over-sea's I confronted him about it, and he said that she was stalking him, and he blew her off and that he hated her. Well now we fast forward to present day today, and even though we are not dating, we still hook up, well did hook up and when we talked he said he wasn't as in love with me as he was. Understandable with all the stuff we went though. But, that girl has been "facebooking" him and making it clear they talk and he has been hanging with her, and basically the question to this post is " Do I have the right to be mad at him?" because of what happened in the past. Even though we are not dating, to him we are "best friends" and potentially might get back together, well not anymore because of this past week.

On 9/1/09 I went to the ER and got admitted to get my gallbladder removed. I was released Friday night, and had even asked him to visit me because that's what "best friends" do when friends are sick. Well, he was "busy". So on Saturday I knew he had the day off, he said he was busy and I already knew he was hanging out with "the broad", but thought maybe he would actually visit me because I was really sick. But, he never called me or visited me. That Saturday night, well last night I almost died. I had 13 seizure's in the hospital and my blood pressure dropped to 72/50. I mean this happened at 11pm, and I didn't expect him to pick up so my friends left a voice mail. In the end I ended up getting better and went home later around 5am. I got no text's or phone calls to see how I was, yet he was texting "the broad" the whole day. I mean, I wouldn't care about any of this, if the girl was some other girl, not the girl he cheated on me with, and if we weren't still "best friends". But, still no texts or anything.

I'm sorry for this rant, I really needed to get it off my chest before I exploded. But, if anyone actually read the whole thing, what is your opinion on everything.

-Ammbs

[jerrymichele]

Originally Posted by ammbs

My ex and I dated for almost two years. He is in the military and I ended it with him in May '09 because he was going over-sea's and to be honest I couldn't handle not seeing him anymore. In the two years we dated we hardly saw each other due to his job and my job. (Sorry for the back story, it just helps to make the story make sense) Anyways, in February a girl messaged me asking if I was dating "scumbag" and I was like yes, and asked her why. She then proceeded to tell me that he was cheating on me with her, and that he told her he loved her and sent her pictures all the time. This bothered me because I found him on an online dating site, saying he was single so I made a fake account, and he hit on me. That was the first time we broke up, and stupid me took him back. Sorry, I'll get back to the story. So, when he came back from being over-sea's I confronted him about it, and he said that she was stalking him, and he blew her off and that he hated her. Well now we fast forward to present day today, and even though we are not dating, we still hook up, well did hook up and when we talked he said he wasn't as in love with me as he was. Understandable with all the stuff we went though. But, that girl has been "facebooking" him and making it clear they talk and he has been hanging with her, and basically the question to this post is " Do I have the right to be mad at him?" because of what happened in the past. Even though we are not dating, to him we are "best friends" and potentially might get back together, well not anymore because of this past week.

On 9/1/09 I went to the ER and got admitted to get my gallbladder removed. I was released Friday night, and had even asked him to visit me because that's what "best friends" do when friends are sick. Well, he was "busy". So on Saturday I knew he had the day off, he said he was busy and I already knew he was hanging out with "the broad", but thought maybe he would actually visit me because I was really sick. But, he never called me or visited me. That Saturday night, well last night I almost died. I had 13 seizure's in the hospital and my blood pressure dropped to 72/50. I mean this happened at 11pm, and I didn't expect him to pick up so my friends left a voice mail. In the end I ended up getting better and went home later around 5am. I got no text's or phone calls to see how I was, yet he was texting "the broad" the whole day. I mean, I wouldn't care about any of this, if the girl was some other girl, not the girl he cheated on me with, and if we weren't still "best friends". But, still no texts or anything.

I'm sorry for this rant, I really needed to get it off my chest before I exploded. But, if anyone actually read the whole thing, what is your opinion on everything.

-Ammbs

I think that you should leave him alone. He really showed you his true colors when he didn't even call to check on you. If you keep talking to him just IMO you are going to get hurt, or if you check on his facebook. I know that this is hard. If a man truly loves you, he will give you his love, and you won't need to fight for it.

[VickiesPath]

Originally Posted by jerrymichele

I think that you should leave him alone. He really showed you his true colors when he didn't even call to check on you. If you keep talking to him just IMO you are going to get hurt, or if you check on his facebook. I know that this is hard. If a man truly loves you, he will give you his love, and you won't need to fight for it.

I agree with jerrymichele. You have seen this guy's true colors and any more time invested in him is time wasted. You deserve better. Chalk it up to lesson learned and move on. It is tough but such is life. In real love, you seldom have to fight this hard.

[NuckingFutz]

I am so sorry you went through all of this. You must be really hurting. You deserve so much better. When will people learn basic human kindness and to care about one another instead of hurting eachother. Maybe if we were at least kind to eachother, places like this would not be so popular...that is what i think. Hugs to you!

[lynn P.]

I too am sorry that you were hurt this way. He sounds very selfish. Not only is he not boyfriend material - he isn't even friendship materral. I would completely drop him in every way - he's not worth worrying about at all. A so called friend would be concerned if you were in the hospital - shame on him!!

[ammbs]

Thanks everyone. It's a lot easier said than done. Yet, stupid me did tell him off and he pursuded me to still be his friend. Even though I am kinda with someone else, this still bothers me to no end. I am constantly thinking about it, and the other girl is rubbing it in my face. I know violence is not the answer, but I cannot get the feeling of wanting to smash her face in out of my head. I am not usually a violent person, but I really hate this girl. I still cry over this stupid guy. I just want to forget about him.