[want-to-b-fair]

Is there a definition for a person that hears what you say about everything and decides to adopt it to the point that you have to inconveniently change what you've been use to doing for years..

The reason why I am confused is because some things were said by this person that clearly shows they have some issues with me. So why are they changing from their VERY UNIQUE style and completely (not using completely lightly) attempting to transform to basically my lifestyle???, what I eat, what I don't eat, how I joke around the office, who I talk to, how I DO THINGS -everything.

Example:

I made a comment about where I go to talk in private, and now when I go there, they are always there- so does this person hear what I say, take it from me and make it their own?

And I may have said something in a girl talk group like " these two colors are my favorite colors - well now all they wear are those colors. I had a habit of wearing those colors days in a row but now they do that.

This person always says things like "well they don't say anything when you do it, why is it a problem when I do it. ( I wanted to ask if she attempting to do it because she saw me do it)!

I named a store I get gifts, clothes, decorations from before I go to the mall and they got a job there. It was my favorite store but I am hesitant to shop there now because I know what the outcome will be.

I knew some issues were there (like maybe a little lost) and I just overlooked it until I heard the hurtful things she said. I was a little annoyed but dealt with it but since I know how she feels about me it is beyond annoyance. I know it is not against the law to do everything someone else does but it is so uncomfortable.

Another thing, this person came to me for advice and later told me that although what I told them was the truth, they were offended by what I said and they replied "I'm working on me"- - (oookkkkaaayyy so, since you got offended by my truthfulness, I have to look at me and you came to me for advice?????

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by want-to-b-fair

Is there a definition for a person that hears what you say about everything and decides to adopt it to the point that you have to inconveniently change what you've been use to doing for years..

The reason why I am confused is because some things were said by this person that clearly shows they have some issues with me. So why are they changing from their VERY UNIQUE style and completely (not using completely lightly) attempting to transform to basically my lifestyle???, what I eat, what I don't eat, how I joke around the office, who I talk to, how I DO THINGS -everything.

Example:

I made a comment about where I go to talk in private, and now when I go there, they are always there- so does this person hear what I say, take it from me and make it their own?

And I may have said something in a girl talk group like " these two colors are my favorite colors - well now all they wear are those colors. I had a habit of wearing those colors days in a row but now they do that.

This person always says things like "well they don't say anything when you do it, why is it a problem when I do it. ( I wanted to ask if she attempting to do it because she saw me do it)!

I named a store I get gifts, clothes, decorations from before I go to the mall and they got a job there. It was my favorite store but I am hesitant to shop there now because I know what the outcome will be.

I knew some issues were there (like maybe a little lost) and I just overlooked it until I heard the hurtful things she said. I was a little annoyed but dealt with it but since I know how she feels about me it is beyond annoyance. I know it is not against the law to do everything someone else does but it is so uncomfortable.

Another thing, this person came to me for advice and later told me that although what I told them was the truth, they were offended by what I said and they replied "I'm working on me"- - (oookkkkaaayyy so, since you got offended by my truthfulness, I have to look at me and you came to me for advice?????

Yes there is a word for it. its called "Idolizing someone" its when people put the person they like and are impressed with on a pedistal of they cant do wrong and they try to copy what that person is doing. therapists are now using this as a way to treat things like PTSD. rape survivors that dont have good self esteme and self worth. one of the exercises is if you dont feel you are worth anything and look down on yourself. look outside yourself. look at your friends and those you know. find someone you are impressed with and then act as if you have those same qualities, mannerisms, ways of doing things. Then spend some time acting as if you are that person. the outcome of that exercize is supposed to teach those with low self esteme and self worth that they are worthy and they become more confident in how they deal with everyday happenings, chores, work, social situations.

personally I would take it as an honor if someone around this town was so impressed with me that they are trying to model their language, behavour and daily coping skills after me.

[jerrymichele]

Do you think that this person could be doing this to make fun of you? People can be very cruel at work. I always say that there is always that one person who needs to be a pain. I would either ignore her, or I would pull her off to the side, and ask her if there is a problem. Sometimes we need to confront people, so they get the point. Try not to let her get the best of you.

[want-to-b-fair]

Originally Posted by jerrymichele

Do you think that this person could be doing this to make fun of you? People can be very cruel at work. I always say that there is always that one person who needs to be a pain. I would either ignore her, or I would pull her off to the side, and ask her if there is a problem. Sometimes we need to confront people, so they get the point. Try not to let her get the best of you.

GOD NO! I wish that was all it was.

[crystalrose]

god i hate those ppl, no individuality what so ever. The word me and my friends use to describe them is a 'sheep!'but they could be called an imitator, copier, clone, i don't know if this has helped at all.

[want-to-b-fair]

yes, when you said no individuality. Hopefully getting an understanding will help rid the disgust when having to work so close together with them.

[ZilchHour]

Well certainly makes one sick but what I ahve experienced with such ditto copying is that such people would never acknowledge or accept that they copied those good things from you, and would pretend to be an original, that makes one feel even worse!
Just lay these things off mind, you cannot do anything, COMPROMISE may be the word of the situation!
I feel sorry for you and understand what uneasiness it causes!

Regards
ZILCH HOUR

[billieJ]

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I think the girl feels that she has no personality, and so she is trying to have yours.