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Oct 29, 2009, 11:23 PM
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I have been with this woman for 2 weeks now. I want to meet her 3 boys this saturday is it a good idea.We are in a serious relationship and I am in need of some advice on this issue.She is all for it because we don't want to hide anything from her boys.We want to be up front and honest with them so there will be no bad blood in the begining.......
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Oct 30, 2009, 01:12 PM
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how old are the boys? I would say yes it is good to meet them. if they are fairly young I think it would be a good bonding time with them even trick or treating! good idea
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Oct 31, 2009, 01:28 AM
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they are 12,10,and 7. any other advice you can give me on this would be helpful. |
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Oct 31, 2009, 01:46 AM
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the title was suppose to be divorced girlfriend with 3 boys....
their ages are 12,10,and 7. If there is any other advice you can give me that would be awesome.I need all the help I can get with this because I want this to work with her and I. |
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Oct 31, 2009, 05:17 AM
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First, 2 weeks does not constitute a serious relationship, more like 3-6 months. How old are the children? That could be huge. If they are babies (toddlers) and she brings home every date after a couple of weeks, the boys bond with them for a couple weeks, and then there is someone new-that would be damaging. I would definitely consider waiting a bit longer for the sake of the children.
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Oct 31, 2009, 07:31 AM
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Hello and welcome to PC mholland0071,
I agree with Sandradee, two weeks is not enough time to get to know someone let alone figure out if this relationship is going somewhere. I personally wouldn't think it's healthy for her children to see men come in and out of their life. If you are going to meet them this early in the relationship, I would think that introducing you as a casual friend would be better.
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Oct 31, 2009, 02:23 PM
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thank you for the advice I think i will wait a little longer to meet her boys.I know it is only 2 weeks going on three and we are getting to know each other very well it is becoming a serious relationship. again thanks for the advice.
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#8
Oct 31, 2009, 05:18 PM
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i think A's idea of being introduced as a casual friend is good. i've heard it's not good at all for children to be introduced to one's dating partner until it's been awhile so they don't repeatedly bond with people and then have them leave. that would set a child up for emotional problems down the road. 2 weeks really doesn't make a serious relationship. give it a few months and then if you're still serious have her tell the kids you're more than a friend. it's best to take these things slowly.
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Nov 01, 2009, 03:50 PM
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I agree with bloom. My cousin will go out with a guy for a week then introduce him to her 3 kids and the guy will eventually get close to the kids and the kids close to him and then after a month or two my cousin breaks up with the guy. I think it's hard on the kids. At 2 weeks relationships are in the infatuation phase imo. Give it a good 2,3 or even 4 months then get to know the kids.
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Nov 01, 2009, 07:59 PM
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To be honest 2 weeks is in dating stage. 3 or 4 months is still getting to know someone. I would really make sure that you and gf tell the kids friends. I even think that a year is short.
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