[salukigirl]

So I'm watching Tyra (don't ask why) and she is having these couples on talking about their sexual fantasies. Now I know fantasies are normal and okay and its even okay to discuss them with your partner, talk about them etc... But she brings out this woman who's fantasy is having a 3some with 2 men who aren't her boyfriend. Then brings her boyfriend out and she tells him and then asks him to let her do it! So he is in front of the audience and when he says no they all go "aww" and kind of boo him. So he gives in and says yes! Is it just me or is that too far? These kinds of things can total ruin a relationship! I might think about something or someone to get me turned on but I would NEVER EVER act on them! Even if my boyfriend and I both had a fantasy of a 3some, we have talked about it and know that we would both be too jealous. And this guy was obviously uncomfortable with the idea and didn't want it to happen and they pressured him into it. Even if there is no intercourse I would almost consider you crazy if you didn't get a little upset seeing your partner get off on other guys touching them.

Personally, if my boyfriend ever asked me for him to have a 3some with 2 women and neither of them was me.....he would be out on the lawn. How do you guys feel about this?

[jerrymichele]

I seem to think that her bf will not like it at all. He just went along with it. I have had people get mad at me when I express my opinion in a different light when I don't agree with them. This story seems a little throwed off if you ask me. In my case I would never agree to anything like that.

[catrules]

My feeling is that just like most talk and reality shows on tv, they will do anything to get ratings. I have not watched much of the tyra show. I prefer top model. However, I believe that she sort of started out modeling herself after Oprah. But, as no one can be Oprah, it seems that she is leaning more to the Jerry Springer with these shock tactics. My thought is that if your significant other prefers to be with two people who are not you...probably not all that significant. My own opinion, of course.

[salukigirl]

I know! I had to change the channel! And it's not just her....these women agreed to drag their husbands into it (they didn't know why they were on the show). I could never bring my boyfriend onto a tv show to tell him something insane like that in front of a live audience, not to mention the millions watching. Just seems so humiliating. And even if they have a problem with it, they have to go along because they get booed if they dont! Just crazy what people will stoop to to get ratings. Exploiting relationships on national television.

[NuckingFutz]

This would be a deal breaker for me. And I'm sure Tyra could make better use of her time.

[Shangrala]

Yeah..to me, sounds like the show staged it for the "dramatics", which is what brings in the ratings..

But on a realistic note....IF my parter informed me that he wanted a 3some (without my inclusion), and I allowed him, then that wouldn't necessarily be him cheating (as per my awareness and allowance).

I'd be good with his fantasy, so long as I was included...(even if indirectly). If that's what would satisfy him, sure..but, I'd expect the same in return..AND gets...(IF that were the case).

Shangrala

[CJR520]

I think these kind of things are real marriage breakers!

[salukigirl]

Shangrala - you are much more accepting than I lol