[twfdisturbed]

I can’t sleep and I don’t eat that much anymore. On May 26th the girl I was dating called me and broke up with me. We have been seeing each other for 3 months at the time and she was married but she told me she was leaving him. She had me go get divorce papers for her and everything and said that she had filed them. Well on May 26th she told me she never did it, we did work together and I just got moved up as a manager and she could no longer work for the same company. I then found out right after breaking up with me she is seeing her sister’s ex-boyfriend. I have done everything imaginable for this girl. I use to go on one hour asleep a day just so I could spend time with her. I tried to call her but she hung up on me. All I do is think about her I can’t get her out of my mind. For some reason I just want to talk to her one last time but she wont give me that. To be honest I don’t think she can tell me to my face she doesn’t want to be with me. And I know we will never be together. I think I’m just scared I won’t find anyone else. But no matter what I do I think about her and I have rehearsed what I was going to say to her but I don’t think I will ever get to and that bugs me. Any ideas to help me get her off my mind or anything that will help at all

[(JD)]

Welcome twf to psychcentral. You had a lot invested in this relationship in such a short period of time! No wonder it feels like you've had the rug pulled out from under you.

I don't know how young you are... but there are always others out there. The issue, imo, is becoming satisfied with yourself to where you don't "need" someone else to complete you. (Us) Become a better person for the relationship you did have. Unfortunately, these type of get togethers (where one is already married) are fraught with problems (marriage vows to be only one.)

Maybe if you write down what you would like to say to her will help you get it "off your mind" and yet accessible if the opportunity will occur? That she isn't strong enough either to discuss this face to face is a sign that she has strong feelings about the whole thing too....

Doing things for others can help you clear your mind of such a relationship ... getting the positive feedback from those you help will maybe fill the void left from all the attention you aren't receiving from this loss?

Come back and let us know how you are doing... take care.

[twfdisturbed]

Thanks I am trying to deal with it. I am doing much better It still bugs me that she wont talk to me. I heard from a mutal friend that she does want to talk to me. but she still has not done it. But I will post more on it soon