[HZ3006]

So recently my boyfriend told me that even though he loves me and he wants to be with me NOW, he says he thinks we should probably break it off when we go off to college, since we might be going to different places. I don't want to break up with him, but I don't want to be with him if it's going to be over soon anyway.
I'm only a high school Junior, but that's still hard to think about. Lately, all I can think about when I talk to him and when I think about him is the thought that we won't end up being together, and that he doesn't want to even try at that point.
I want to just stay with him and just be happy with the time we have together, but I don't want this to keep bugging me. What should I do? Should I stay with him until that time comes, or should I break it off and move on now to save myself the heartbreak?

[Belle1979]

Originally Posted by HZ3006

I want to just stay with him and just be happy with the time we have together, but I don't want this to keep bugging me. What should I do? Should I stay with him until that time comes, or should I break it off and move on now to save myself the heartbreak?

I think either way you are going to feel the heartbreak. If you chose to spend the remaining time with him try to treasure it and not dwell on the future parting.
Is a long distance relationship a posibility?

[HZ3006]

The way he's talking it doesn't seem like a long-distance relationship is what he even wants.. I would love for it to work out, but I know that if ther's one of us who doesn't want it to work then the other one can't just force it.

[salukigirl]

Either way you are going to have to deal with it sooner or later. If you don't think you can just enjoy the time you have left then I would end it now. Honestly, the majority of the people you know and hang out with now you wont see again until your reunion lol (especially if you go off to college somewhere else).

My ex said the same thing. Said he had been in a relationship before and they tried to stay together when she went off to college and ended up cheating on him and totally breaking his heart. I couldn't deal with it either so I broke it off before school was out. Then I decided to stay in town and go to comm. college for my freshman year and we got back together but ended up breaking up anyways which had nothing to do with school.

You're only a junior. Have fun! Don't worry about boys yet! (They're just trouble at that age anyways lol). I understand you really like him and enjoy being around him but think about yourself right now. The only thing I want to make extremely clear - never compromise your education for a relationship! If its meant to be, it will find a way.

One thing - at least he was honest! I would appreciate him for the simple fact that he came right out and said that. Its hard to find a guy at that age that will stand up and give you a real reason and be straight up honest. That would make me wanna stick around and see what happens.

[HZ3006]

Thank you all very much...
And we actually did find a way to go to the same place, but idk. Maybe he just thought I was giving up on my dreams to go to the same school.

Hello, HZ3006. Please continue to post so we know how you are doing. Good luck.